HopelessR Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 (edited) After how many dates should you know if you'd like to be in a relationship with someone? I seem to never get past the initial dating part. My last 'fling', was just that a fling. We didn't even really LIKE each other I don't think, it was convinent and we just had fun for 6-7 weeks. Didn't talk about anything serious and then he moved away (turned out to be a jerk anyways!!) I went on two dates with someone else this past week. He is nice, not my type at ALL but funny and has good conversation. I knew of him through work and always though he was a player. Lost touch for about a year and then just found him again. He seems very interested in me, texting me daily asking about my day. First date went well, second was with his friends and we all hung out. I didn't tell anyone at my workplace that I went out with him (as they are BAD and will get in your business), but it slipped and they all found out, and they were shocked that I would go out with someone like 'him'. Saying he is all wrong, he's disgusting, and a player, and that they thought so highly of me, blah blah blah! I knew they weren't going to be thrilled when I told them but wow I was not expecting this outcome. I value their opinion (they are like my family), and my gut told me this guy seemed to be saying all the right things to make me fall head over heels (little does he know that I have major trust issues). But the first date he was respectful (besides his crude humor, lol) and we had a hug goodnight. Next date was a kiss, and that was that. Didn't feel pressured or anything. So I politely declined the third date (I am feeling under the weather anyways). I am still trying to get a read on him, but don't want to string him along? When will I 'feel' that it is right? I have a problem with being too nice to guys and always accepting and saying yes to dates and they always feel more attracted to me then I do to them and I feel bad and go with it ... horrible cycle I NEED to break!!! Edited April 16, 2011 by HopelessR
Crazy Magnet Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 If you are 100% sure you don't want to get into anything with this guy then go ahead and let him know this now. A simple, "I appreciate the offer but I don't see this going anywhere." is all you need. I wouldn't go on more than 2 or 3 dates if I wasn't interested.
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