9Lives Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 In the long run we will be happy if we want to be happy. The logical side says, she doesn't want to be with you, so that won't make her happy and in turn won't make you happy. My heart says I know I can make her happy and that would make me happy. It's silly how our body works. My therapist tells me to really feel the sadness. Feel it enough to know that it's there and then do something about it. It could be a bike ride or talking to a friend or whatever.. I have learned A LOT about myself these past few months... Now I just need to learn that I am better off without her. im glad your therapist told you it is ok to be sad and to let the thoughts flow. I feel like I was killing myself trying to keep them from coming. they would come anyway and still do. I just let them flow and then I move on to the next whatever. like I said, i ground myself with the final thought: there is no hope. We never gonna be together...It helps me to understand any thoughts im having are pointless and I just need to go on. Its not easy to stop loving someone but you just keep on going and one day..you are in a better place about the situation. Contact is not going to help...contact is going to hinder especially when they get someone else. the pain is 10 times worst!!
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