dragonfly22 Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Hi. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years a couple of days ago and after some initial mistakes (e-mails, text msgs) I have officially gone NC. However, after 5 years I really grew fond of his family and have a good relationship with them (brother, cousins, etc). It's not like I'm planning on visiting them but we chat often and leave comments on each others Facebook walls and that sort of contact. I've noticed even though me and my boyfriend broke up the interaction with them continues. One of them even told me she was hoping me breaking up with him wouldn't mean I was breaking up with the whole family. Usually our interactions are not about him, so its not like I will contact them to get information about him. I don't want that and I don't want to put them in an uncomfortable position. So basically what I would like to know is...do you think it is ok to keep this kind of limited contact with his family members or should I also try to avoid them? Its not like Im going to show up at a family event, but these are really nice people and over the years I created a strong bond with them too.
nana841121 Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 It's always a tricky byproduct question after breakup In your situation, the ex's family refers to cousins , which is much more easier, cause you are dealing with peer at the similar ages. Recently, i am reading the novel <High Fidelity>, in the book, i quote author's description about the relationship transformation between him and ex's parents :"and that's the last time we will ever speak probably, "No problem": the last words i ever say to somebody i have been reasonably close to before our lives take different directions.weird, eh? You spend Christmas at somebody house.you worry about their operations,you give them hugs and kisses and flowers, you see them in their dressing gown. and then, bang , that's it. Gone forever."
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