0nebaby Posted April 23, 2011 Posted April 23, 2011 I think facebook acts as a catalyst to cheating. It certainly reconnects us to ex's, friends, family, old acquaintances... Totally up to the individual how they handle to communicate with said ex's. My aunt found her ex on facebook and everyone except her husband knew her little flirty messages. Anyways it's all over now.
627 Posted April 23, 2011 Posted April 23, 2011 there are a zillion thing that can go wrong because of facebook... sometimes not your fault... I had a privacy glitch a couple of weeks back, one of my relatives saw something she was not supposed to see... and I had a lot of explainign to do... anyway on the relationships topic, what if someone uploads and tags an old picture of you smoking pot, or with some girl... it's a couple of years old and he tags you yesterday... you might have a lot to explain(depending how well your girl can process information ) post tags, privacy glitches, at least phone calls are more under control... you don't usualy fear that your office phone is tapped by your significant other and without tone of voice and body language, text can easily be missinterpreted, an ex liking one of your photos(which can simply be she likes this photo) can be interpreted as "she wants you again"
9Lives Posted April 23, 2011 Posted April 23, 2011 Facebook help me ruin a relationship that was already on the ruins. I saw something that threw my emotions into turbo charge we ended it very badly and never recovered from it. I have a love hate rel for fb cause it reminds me of that painful time in my life. At the same time, it is great way to reconnect with good friends.
9Lives Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 I was already having insecure and trust issues with my bf which would have ruined it anyway...but something I saw on his FB is what made me snap and confront him on my feelings, prompting him to decide he should dump me...even thoug in confrontation I didn't mention his FB at all. Anyway it certainly had something to do with how I handled my confrontation so even though we agreed to stay friends I removed him as a FB friend completely...all it would do is give me more things to get emtional about for no reason. So yes, I think FB can surely contribute to ruined relationships just as much as it can bring people together. Its a social life all by itself so its also 1 more way to ruin things, in addition to the things that can ruin it already. yeah this was me too. So fb didnt help the situation as it was already not going well. I agree with you completely
PelicanPete Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 I think facebook causes a lot of problems for most relationships because a lot of people act differently depending on the people they are with. For example I may act differently around X circle of friends compared to Y circle of friends, but if they are all on my facebook it can be a bit stressful to try to balance myself between them. If I also have family members on my facebook that might stretch "who I am" even thinner. If certain people already don't like eachother and they are both on my friends list that can cause problems also, or if you have a girlfriend and your talking to your ex's still. I think it's good for reconnecting with people you haven't heard from for awhile, but aside from having facebook manage your social life its highly likely to cause problems for you somewhere down the line. Whether "friends" are creeping your picture or status and see something they don't agree with or what.
chucksagent Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 Without a doubt - whether people want to ADMIT it or not, Facebook causes MANY problems. Now, that being said, someone posted on this thread what my counter argument ALWAYS is..."Facebook is just a TOOL..it's merely a means of communication." THEREFORE, people just need to be smarter and more mature with regards to how they handle themselves - especially attractive women who are in relationships. i.e. An attractive girl will get a LOT of creepy attention on FB. I've heard of friends getting in fights with their girlfriends because a creepy dude will poke his girlfriend and she will poke back claiming she didn't know what it was thought it was just saying "hey" (they are older like late 30s so slight chane she genuinely didn't know what was going on); or like guys making inappropriate NC-17 rated comments on a girlfriends page when the boyfriend has aunts and uncles and cousins who are friends with the girlfriend. I think this is where a lot of fights start. "Why not just DELETE the guy who makes off color comments?" Why DELETE Facebook??? In real life you can't CHOOSE who walks up to you and says something, at least on Facebook you can CHOOSE who can post stuff on your wall. The other option is just quickly delete the bad stuff that gets posted ASAP. But I think a lot of problems arise on Facebook in a relationships but ESPECIALLY for Hot girls...they are already highly sought after out in the world, but Facebook is a creepy guys best friend - can watch from afar, can poke, can send private messages where in real life they have to deal with the fear of public rejections...BUT as I said earlier, Facebook is just a communication tool - if people handle it intelligently, there shouldn't be any problems.
JHS Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 I definitely think that Facebook can cause problems or be a conduit for certain things. Sometimes the medium is the message. I met someone through Facebook and while we didn't break up because of it, it did cause some major problems and hurt. It certainly added to the problems at some point & it's not likely that these problems would have surfaced in the same way w/out it. Like it or not, it's here to stay.
liverpool fc Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 i think it does usually have great potential to cause great problems in a relationship. but it can also be usefull - when i last had a gf 2 months ago i used a fake account to view she was cheating on me and what she really did after seeing me earlier that day (caught her lying) it does cause havoc if family can see who you are talking to and etc
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