Shatter3d Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Who's with me? Our ex are all mutha ****a's.........their loss
Fufu Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 So fierce............. Maybe its their loss but as long as we are still depending/relying our happiness on them, we are the mutha ****a's.
Author Shatter3d Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 U know what Fufu.? I wish my ex all the happiness in the world. I'm now over the hate, anger etc, you name it... However, its HIS LOSS and he will realise that one day...Sure I had a few flaws ie insecurities etc, but I treated him so nice, and one day he will miss that and wonder why did he let such a good catch go? I am currently working on my 'flaws' and looking forward to showing someone the complete, happy, me. Will take a while but I will get there
Mov Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Agreed - they lose out, and it will happen to them in the future and we wont be there to console them. I actually started an argument with my ex and it is so bad now that there is NO way back...maybe what i needed to move on a bit and stop relying on hope of a reconciliation
Fufu Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 for a moment you scared me a little We can always work on ourselves to be better and happier Cheers to LS.
broken-and-lost Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 U know what Fufu.? I wish my ex all the happiness in the world. I'm now over the hate, anger etc, you name it... However, its HIS LOSS and he will realise that one day...Sure I had a few flaws ie insecurities etc, but I treated him so nice, and one day he will miss that and wonder why did he let such a good catch go? I am currently working on my 'flaws' and looking forward to showing someone the complete, happy, me. Will take a while but I will get there good to see you on the mend shatter3d hope it continues. i'm still on that road
ilovedhim Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Mine truly was an a**hole by definition... everyone thought so. and not just my friends. (Ukh, one week NC)
Author Shatter3d Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 Lol, please tell me how I scared you ? I'm very passionate about moving on, and truly do beleive its their loss.... At one point I was blaming myself, but you know what, all couples have problems, but if they truly love each other they will stick together to sort it out and become a stronget unit.... My ex bf chose to leave me....and thats fine, its totally his loss. Please enlighten me how I have scared you lol?
Author Shatter3d Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 Broken and Lost - I saw your post earlier......... Look hun, Im 37 and I'm female with no kids and I need to start all over again. It's not all over for you ok I know I have alot of stuff to work on, and I dont blame my ex for leaving me... sure it's his loss...he was weak and couldn't stick it through, but I know someone else will come along who is truly deserved of my love...And you know what, if I do have my insecurities and my flaws, they will stick by me and help me through it... you know why? because they will truly love me and not want to lose me.... I'm still far from over my ex... but it is getting easier day by day. I know that I am a beautiful, worthy person who deserves to be loved... and right now all I want to do is fall in love with myself..
broken-and-lost Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Broken and Lost - I saw your post earlier......... Look hun, Im 37 and I'm female with no kids and I need to start all over again. It's not all over for you ok I know I have alot of stuff to work on, and I dont blame my ex for leaving me... sure it's his loss...he was weak and couldn't stick it through, but I know someone else will come along who is truly deserved of my love...And you know what, if I do have my insecurities and my flaws, they will stick by me and help me through it... you know why? because they will truly love me and not want to lose me.... I'm still far from over my ex... but it is getting easier day by day. I know that I am a beautiful, worthy person who deserves to be loved... and right now all I want to do is fall in love with myself.. Hey shatter3d thanks hun really nice of you to say that I'm glad your seeing yourself as worthy again and working to make yourself happy
Fufu Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Lol, please tell me how I scared you ? I'm very passionate about moving on, and truly do beleive its their loss.... At one point I was blaming myself, but you know what, all couples have problems, but if they truly love each other they will stick together to sort it out and become a stronget unit.... My ex bf chose to leave me....and thats fine, its totally his loss. Please enlighten me how I have scared you lol? Haha, it's kinda hard to explain. For a moment I thought you had gone kinda beyond humanity after a broken relationship. ^_^ You are right to say if they truly love us they will work it out with us instead of escaping.
Author Shatter3d Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 I want you to think the same of yourself too Just becoz our ex's left us , doesnt mean we are back to square one.....We both have 'looking young for our age' on our side ..hehehehe... Now lets get out there and explore! PM me some time too ok !
Author Shatter3d Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 Nahhh Fufu...have been on this forum for awhile... have been missing in action a bit lately. 3 months post breakup, 3 weeks NC. Feels good. I have accepted its over and that I need to move on... Wow cannot tell you how good NC is....I have come so far. My ex just added himself back to facebook tonight, and I'm waiting for the dreaded ' X is in a relationship with x'....its inevitable. You know what? I could have chosen to get in a few relationships by now, but I just cant..... I cannot physically/mentally do it... I dont know how they can. Oh well good luck to them. My only regret is that I didnt go NC sooner with him. My dignitity/self worth has gone out the window...however the last 3 weeks I have not said a peep, and I dont intend to. I wish I was over it and could let someone new in my life, but I know thats just not possible right now, it would certainly only be a rebound. I wouldnt do that to another person. I just want to be over this......
broken-and-lost Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 I want you to think the same of yourself too Just becoz our ex's left us , doesnt mean we are back to square one.....We both have 'looking young for our age' on our side ..hehehehe... Now lets get out there and explore! PM me some time too ok ! you sound so much more up beat then just a few months ago, that's great to see and dito on the PM hun
Author Shatter3d Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 I remember how down I was... it was awful....and it still hurts but I havent shed a tear in weeks !! And it feels great I honestly wish my ex all the best and hope he is happy !! I'm just looking forward to getting to know someone...guess who that person is.... ME !!!! Broken, do u have msn? :bunny::bunny::bunny:
broken-and-lost Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 I remember how down I was... it was awful....and it still hurts but I havent shed a tear in weeks !! And it feels great I honestly wish my ex all the best and hope he is happy !! I'm just looking forward to getting to know someone...guess who that person is.... ME !!!! Broken, do u have msn? :bunny::bunny::bunny: yes i do i pm'd you you for future ref
K.K. Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 (edited) I know I don't have so many posts on this board and have a hard time trying to help others when I'm wallowing in my own sadness BUT I just have to say... the way this thread went down bothered me. The original poster made a thread about how our ex's are mother****ers. I liked it. I think sometimes if it makes us feel better to call someone who has treated us like **** bad names (on a messageboard) then we as HUMAN BEINGS are entitled. Maybe she was looking for a little chiming in of how our own ex's qualify as mother****ers. I don't think saying to her that WE are the mother****ers because "we pin our happiness on them" is cool at all. Not everyone heals at the same rate. Not everyone is ready to take the high road or should be accused of "kinda going beyond humanity after a break up" just because they are still harboring resentment towards an ex. So the original poster goes from calling her ex a mother****er to probably feeling like she has to say how she wishes him the best and all this other blah that she's not really feeling just to satisfy someone's view that she's still a "human". ? Maybe I'm wrong and I'm sorry. But all these threads lately are turning into the same thing. How there is something WRONG with US if we're not healing fast enough. Or if god forbid, we're still pissed. After what my ex did to me, he can die under a bus for all I care. You think I LIKE feeling that kind of anger towards someone? Maybe tomorrow I won't feel that way. But nobody needs to be rushed along in their grieving process like we're weirdo's if we don't just get over it already. I mean.. seriously. Edited April 16, 2011 by K.K.
Author Shatter3d Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 Look KK.............. my ex IS a mofo for leaving me... but guess what? There are no contracts with love. There is nothing that says he needs to stay with me for life. And you know what ??????????? I feel he is a mutha ****a for not staying with me and working it out........but guess what? That was his choice not to .............so I will repeat what I said before, the man who 'truly' loves me will stick by me and will accept me for me, flaws, insecurities and all.......he will stick by me through thick and thin..... this is a man who is very hard to come by but when you find him, hold onto him........I'm yet to find such a man.....
K.K. Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Yeah, you're right. Nobody owes us forever. But basic human decency is something that should be expected. And if not given, then I (or you) have every right to call them a mother****er without anybody saying that we're "not human". Or that we are mother****ers for supposedly basing all our happiness on our ex's which we do not. Just because I'm pissed doesn't mean I'm basing my happiness on anybody besides myself. I'm just so tired of hearing people say that it isn't our right to even know or wonder what our ex's are doing. Nobody said it was our right. But 3, 4, 5, 20 years together with somebody and yea.. we're gonna wonder and not have it shoved down our throats how "it's not our business". Like that helps or something??? I mean, daaamn. Sometimes I just wish the whole tough love stance could for ONCE just take a back seat to some good ole compassion. Some comradery. Surely you felt that way when you made this thread? Some people on this board just want to be understood...ya know? or validated in their grief instead of being talked down to and told to get over it already. I mean god. People hurt. They don't need to hurt worse. Sorry I butted into your thread. I felt bad for you when fufu replied to you like that. Obviously, I'm the only one that has been getting irritated when I read about how we're losers because our ex still crosses our minds.
Author Shatter3d Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 U know what KK.........our exe's cross ALL our minds. Even Fufu's. Her posts are always the same and common. No disrespect to you Fu....but you always give out the same advice for EVERY single situation. I dont agree with this. I dont agree that NC is good for EVERY single situation like u say. I, for one would listen to ppl's situation and comment accordingly.........you however always seems to say NC for everything, always. Im sorry I dont agree with this. There are times where the dumpee is in the wrong and needs to make contact. Its not always up to the dumper.
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