confused2134 Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 My story is a little bit unique from yours' because mine is you usually break up in my scenario. My ex and I met right before I went to school my freshman year we hit it off well started going out when I started. We've been together for a year and a half and she goes to a different school. I visited and stuff but we didn't get to see eachother much other than summer and winter break. The last week of our relationship I was basically an ******* and picked fights over stupid ****. I didn't have to and it put unnecessary stress on us. I really wanna know if there's a chance I'll see her over summer break. I'd really like to hang out with her again. Everybody that I've talked to that's been in my situation has been like she's definately thinking about you. She definately misses you. You should text her. But I'm not so sure. The responses I get from girls at my school that have been in this situation is so contradictory to the information I get here. Any advice would help.
donnamaybe Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 All you can do is be open and honest with her about everything, especially in owning your screw up. Better to find out sooner than later if she will give you the chance to redeem yourself or not.
Eddie Edirol Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Youre story isnt unique at all. Youre friends dont know what they are talking about, or they are telling you what they think you want to hear, which is selfish. You didnt say if you broke up, so I assume if you acted like an a**hole you killed her attraction to you, so no, she doesnt miss you. Chances are she found some other guy to start dating. But theres not enough info to go off of. She might be missing you, but for your own sake, assume shes not. If you call her, and she is distant, then you have your answer. If she really missed you she would probably contact you.
Author confused2134 Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 I know for a fact that she doesn't have another guy. Talked to a few people that know her and her best friend said she's not seeing or dating anybody. I don't think I killed the attraction because the weekend before I visited her and she was all over me couldn't take her hands off me. To this day when she told me we could still be friends she was like but I still wanna have sex. I honestly think she wanted to see what was out there because she didn't have much experience with guys before me. She did promise me the last time we saw eachother that it wasn't over forever. I gave her a month of space and she texted me again. The only reason that I said my situation is unique is because when most people go to different schools they break up before hand. This is different because we started as I went away to school.
nana841121 Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Yes, be honest and open about your feeling to her . Mature people don't want drama and fishing around.
Eddie Edirol Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 I know for a fact that she doesn't have another guy. Talked to a few people that know her and her best friend said she's not seeing or dating anybody. I don't think I killed the attraction because the weekend before I visited her and she was all over me couldn't take her hands off me. To this day when she told me we could still be friends she was like but I still wanna have sex. I honestly think she wanted to see what was out there because she didn't have much experience with guys before me. She did promise me the last time we saw eachother that it wasn't over forever. I gave her a month of space and she texted me again. The only reason that I said my situation is unique is because when most people go to different schools they break up before hand. This is different because we started as I went away to school. Her friends will cover for her, and her working on other guys wont count on her friends radar. She could still not want a relationship with you but keep you as a booty call. You did something, because she isnt emotionally connected with you anymore, she is still looking for an emotional connection. She will also lie to you and tell you what you need to hear to keep you as her safety net. IE., "its not over forever" Its a common line a dumper says to keep you on the hook. This breakup was pretty much textbook, school had nothing to do with it. It was over in her mind way before you separated for school.
nana841121 Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Lots of dumpers are confused and it make the dumpees more miserable Cause they didn't get the crisp and clear answer. reject things-up-in-the-air You know the worst thing about being rejected? the lack of control.
Feelin Frisky Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 You just have to simmer down and accept what you get from her. There's no rushing things. I understand that your conscience probably bothers you and you wonder if you've damaged things irreparably but there's no way anyone can say what's in her heart. If you're getting information that she's thinking of you positively and is perhaps looking forward to seeing you then be grateful and wait with grace. If you try to push things you will probably send out negative vibes. Good luck.
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