ginastar Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 Has anyone ever been a rebound for a guy or girl and knew it?? If so, tell us: 1. How did you realize you were a rebound? 2. Did the person act like a great bf/gf and then check out after 9months-1year? 3. Did you fight with them a lot? 4. How did you end up breaking up? Link to post Share on other sites
poorguy Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 I've rebounded before and ended it. The reason I ended it though was because I was'nt into them to begin with. So with that there really was'nt any fighting because there was nothing to fight about. One time though I net this beautiful girl in my earlt 20's and fell head over heals for her. She had just broken up with her LTR boyfriend (unaware of rebound relationships at the time). Anyway it lasted about 4 months and I got the boot. If I recall I was 22 and she was 26. Basically it was all my fault though because I was immature and she was NOT!!! There was'nt any fighting per se other than me realizing that she began to think I was a big joke (which I was lol) Link to post Share on other sites
Author ginastar Posted April 16, 2011 Author Share Posted April 16, 2011 (edited) hahaa. if you werent into the girl why did you date her?? Edited April 16, 2011 by ginastar Link to post Share on other sites
poorguy Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 FYI this was all when I was younger lol. Um I dated them for something to do I guess???? You know how when you meet someone you either have that connection or not type of thing? I just did'nt have it for them...Kind of a douche thing to do I guess but I was younger ans immature Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 One girl I dated I knew she was rebounding because she wouldnt ask me anything about me, and she wouldnt show me her real personality. I called her out on it, and she said she couldnt. Never found out what that was about. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ginastar Posted April 16, 2011 Author Share Posted April 16, 2011 so poorguy were you dumped and thats what led you to this rebound girl? how long did you stay with her and how did you break up with her? did you originally treat her as a reg gf, leading her on? Link to post Share on other sites
poorguy Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 so poorguy were you dumped and thats what led you to this rebound girl? how long did you stay with her and how did you break up with her? did you originally treat her as a reg gf, leading her on? I've only been dumped once. After that relationship was over I dated I think three girls in between until I got into an actual LTR. How I broke it off with two of them? This is terrible, but I just stopped calling, stopped everything and never talked to them again. I sort of treated them like a girlfriend but could have cared less and I'm quite sure if they had any type of mind would have easily known that. I have to be completely attracted to a girl to even consider being in a relationship with her and I just was'nt with them. I think a lot of people are like that-it's human nature. When I am explaining all of this I don't want it to be a reflection of who I am today or any advice I may give, or stories I may share, or questions I may ask. I was like 22 and 23 respectively and I will admit that I was a bit of a player type and a douche. I would never lead anyone on or intentionally hurt someone these days-I'm all grown up now Link to post Share on other sites
Author ginastar Posted April 16, 2011 Author Share Posted April 16, 2011 dont worry, I am not judging you! haha. So the only reason you didnt stay with either of the girls is cause u werent attracted enough to them? How long did your relationships last with them? Link to post Share on other sites
poorguy Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 dont worry, I am not judging you! haha. So the only reason you didnt stay with either of the girls is cause u werent attracted enough to them? How long did your relationships last with them? One of them 3 or 4 months and the other 6 or 7 months. One I thought I was attracted to at first but as time went on I realized I was'nt. My ex who rebounded with me was so far beyond these two girls that it just made them look bad to me. Another thing I just remembered is they were both clingly and did'nt have a lot going for them. The one was pretty and all of that but she just was irresponsible and a slob sort of. I sort of like to take care of a girl without being "the guy that takes care of a girl" sort of thing but you really have to be able to stand on your own to feet to even have a shot with me (even when I was younger) and these girls sort of needed me and I really hate that. I only like girls who don't need me-meaning for example if I were married to someone and something happened to me, I in the back of my mind would like knowing that she will be okay without me and her life would carry on (that's what I would want) even though of course there would be sadness she would be okay-----I tried to explain the best I could Link to post Share on other sites
nana841121 Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 I broke up with my ex BF, one month later, he hooked up with a 18-year-old girl.we broke up because he confessed to me that he was confused about his feeling to this girl and me, then i broke up with him immediately. i don't want to be anybody's second choice. I think he is in a rebound relationship Or maybe i was his reboundee also. Link to post Share on other sites
shawn923 Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 How do you know if your own relationship was a rebound? I was with my ex 3 months. We had a damn near perfect relationship, we texted 24/7 because we couldnt stay away from eachother, she said she loves me to an extent unimaginable, we get married someday, blah blah. She had been single for about a year before meeting me. I doubt i was the rebound i guess... Now, 2 months after our breakup, during the time we were still arguing with LC after the breakup, she hopped into another relationship with a guy i woulda never thought she would date. We both go to the same school and i think she does it so i can SEE how great her life is w/o me... which is immature since SHE dumped ME out the blue, for a reason i coulda easily fixed, which was really petty compared to a lot of the stuff she's done. It was a insecurity issue. So does this sound like she rebounded? Or was i a reboundee? Link to post Share on other sites
Thedude22 Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 I get rebounded all the time, it kind of sucks. You realize it the second they tell you they broke up with their boyfriend or if they mention anything about their boyfriend. Even the slightest sign of them missing him means they are likely rebounding hard. In my case things usually last about three months. In one case the girl was looking for love frantically and I just wasn't ready to do that for a person on the rebound, the other girl actually ended up moving back with her ex. The whole thing is bad business, but it doesn't mean it's not a fun ride. Link to post Share on other sites
homebrew Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 I was a rebound victim... It went on for about a year. However, I was dumped for the former EX in the end. Link to post Share on other sites
Hopeless Girl Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 All of these situations just make us stronger Link to post Share on other sites
makelemonade1974 Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 I'm sort of rebounding with this guy. I don't want to hurt him. He knows I was pretty hurt by my ex, but he also knows I would never go back to him. It's been about 7 months since the breakup. I was very cautious and dated a lot of men before deciding I liked this guy the most. I've been clear to him about not being ready to jump into a BF / GF scenario because I need my independence for a while. We've agreed to see each other and see where it goes. But it's already becoming sort of serious - he texts me ever day, etc. Any advice on how to do this without hurting him? I'm not sure he's "the one" - in fact he's pretty far away from my type, but I'm starting to think my type are usually a-holes. Someone has to be the rebound, right? There has to be somebody that immediately follows (even if months later) a breakup. You can't just wait years before dating again. And what do I do about the daily texts - they are so sweet, I can't just ignore them. He's a really good man - a sweetheart with a bit of a 'savior complex.' We've been honest with each other. Is all this okay? Link to post Share on other sites
poorguy Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 I'm sort of rebounding with this guy. I don't want to hurt him. He knows I was pretty hurt by my ex, but he also knows I would never go back to him. It's been about 7 months since the breakup. I was very cautious and dated a lot of men before deciding I liked this guy the most. I've been clear to him about not being ready to jump into a BF / GF scenario because I need my independence for a while. We've agreed to see each other and see where it goes. But it's already becoming sort of serious - he texts me ever day, etc. Any advice on how to do this without hurting him? I'm not sure he's "the one" - in fact he's pretty far away from my type, but I'm starting to think my type are usually a-holes. Someone has to be the rebound, right? There has to be somebody that immediately follows (even if months later) a breakup. You can't just wait years before dating again. And what do I do about the daily texts - they are so sweet, I can't just ignore them. He's a really good man - a sweetheart with a bit of a 'savior complex.' We've been honest with each other. Is all this okay? I suppose it's okay. I just don't really think you're into him plain and simple. Link to post Share on other sites
makelemonade1974 Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 but how do you know right away? I've only known him / been dating casually a few months. If there's anything this breakup has taught me, it's that lovers come in and out of our lives. I'm a grown-up - 36. If somebody willingly enters into a situation where they know the person is on the rebound, then is it my fault if he gets hurt? I'm trying to be ethical and don't want to hurt anyone. But I can't wait until I'm "over" my ex, as I think that's going to be several years from now. The guy mind - f u c k ed me pretty badly. Link to post Share on other sites
LostMyHeart Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 Has anyone ever been a rebound for a guy or girl and knew it?? If so, tell us: 1. How did you realize you were a rebound? 2. Did the person act like a great bf/gf and then check out after 9months-1year? 3. Did you fight with them a lot? 4. How did you end up breaking up? I think I was a rebound....I guess you know it when you feel more for them than they do for you. I realized it when he never could answer the hard questions...felt that his feelings were jumbled....and just wanted to "live in the moment". We did tend to disagree a lot, but always worked it out. We were one week shy of a one year anniversary when he got his feelings jumbled again and added a girl to his Facebook that he had stated if the opportunity were there he might go for it. I dumped him....it got pretty ugly because he hates me for dumping him...so all my fault because I never believed him and (per him) was looking for a reason to be angry so I could be with someone else (rewrite). I stopped talking to him totally six weeks ago because I couldn't do it without being angry at his turning it on me. Over two months later, I still carry a torch for him because of the good things....but will never speak to him again because he was so careless with my heart considering he knew how I felt. I hate that he got hurt, but guess he is over it since he has been dating a while now...didn't take him long to get back on the horse. I'm still working on it. Link to post Share on other sites
poorguy Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 I can just tell because if you were into him very much so like you were say for example your ex boyfriend you would be expressing yourself and your feelings for him differently than you are. I wasn't saying that it would be your fault for didn't work out hurt somebody got hurt or anything like that. I dont think you have that spark for him. Your not really rebounding though because youve been upfront with him. A girlfriend of mine is in the exact same situation with someone she has started dating. He to I guess is a savour type, only problem with dudes who want to save you is that they can also get clingy...its there nature Link to post Share on other sites
Hopeless Girl Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 I'm sort of rebounding with this guy. I don't want to hurt him. He knows I was pretty hurt by my ex, but he also knows I would never go back to him. It's been about 7 months since the breakup. I was very cautious and dated a lot of men before deciding I liked this guy the most. I've been clear to him about not being ready to jump into a BF / GF scenario because I need my independence for a while. We've agreed to see each other and see where it goes. But it's already becoming sort of serious - he texts me ever day, etc. Any advice on how to do this without hurting him? I'm not sure he's "the one" - in fact he's pretty far away from my type, but I'm starting to think my type are usually a-holes. Someone has to be the rebound, right? There has to be somebody that immediately follows (even if months later) a breakup. You can't just wait years before dating again. And what do I do about the daily texts - they are so sweet, I can't just ignore them. He's a really good man - a sweetheart with a bit of a 'savior complex.' We've been honest with each other. Is all this okay? you are totally right... if u like this guy and like spending time with him then do so... relationships are different and people sometimes wanna jump in to a r/s with a person they like if that person has baggage then they bail out ... its logical i mean nobody wants to get hurt were humans but u really have to let him know whats going on with u and how u feel... cause u do like the guy but u dont know what may happen .. if he likes u he'll stick if he himself has no issues... and yes being honest is the best u can do! Link to post Share on other sites
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