Did i screw up a potential relationship with him or is he just playing me?

[leysayin]

I got frustrated at his no-contact-unless-we-are-meeting-that-day kind of thing that's going on and i sent him a long msg telling him that i feel uncomfortable about this but don't bother to reply because msging is not what he intends to do with me. Was i too harsh since it's only at a very early stage of dating? I convinced myself to tell him this because i think that if he's interested in me he would feel concerned about my feelings and thus he would try to make me feel more secure. But he didnt reply my message at all and after 6 hours i sent him another one which i fess up to him (not love just like and fond of him) and said guess this is the end of us since i've clearly lost by falling for you. No reply still. I felt like **** so 12 hous later i told him "it would be nice if you are gentleman enough to reply me and that i am not desperate or looking for love. I was courageous to face my own feelings and tell you and it wasnt easy at all." Now 4 hours past and nothing from him. We just first kissed 3 days ago and he told me he sees me as a sweet girl whom he can see himself with. But he still does his no contact thing and thus i was feeling paranoid and i texted him such things. Did i screw things up? Is there anymore chance with him or its really the end of things?

[don't-kill-the-msngr]

If a guy is too busy to talk to you, something is not right..

 

When a guy is REALLY interested in you, he will do stuff he doesn't normally like to do.. LIKE call you.. because he really likes you and wants to be around you..

 

 

He has you as his "GROC".. Girl Ready on command

 

meaning, you are like his barbie doll or video game.. when he's bored, he takes you out and entertains himself. And you LET him when you agree to go.

 

 

What do you do? You have to set boundries. If he likes you, he will honor it.

 

1. If he calls you same day, unless you are desperate, don't answer the phone when he calls IF its a potential "date night/ spending time" thing.

Why? Well, let him leave a message telling you to "CALL HIM BACK".. and if he doesn't say "call me back in his message" then don't CALL him back. "I was just calling too.." or "just wanted you to know I called" doesnt count.

 

2. If he mentions it later, just say you got the message late and you had something to do so you would talk to him later.. DON'T bring it up unless he does. If he DOES bring it up, be SUPER nice and say "THANK YOU for thinking of Me" "I wish we COULD HAVE done that, it would have been fun!" and say "I WISH YOU KNEW EARLIER cause I had already told a friend you would help them with something" (helping someone is better than saying you were out with other friends instead of him).

 

Remember.. you want to keep planting that HE NEEDS to stop calling you last minute or DAY OF the event and he needs to communicate with you before the date.. even if it is a quick 30 min sit down at starbucks..

 

 

FINALLY, the #1 FAILURE.. TEXT MESSAGING.. you should PRETEND like you don't know how to do that or you aren't able to..

 

Text messaging is poor communication when you are trying to get to know someone.. Are they too busy to block out some time to get to know you?

 

A quick text saying "just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you" is GREAT.. but not if its replacing the phone calls/ time spent together..

 

not to mention.. if he's texting you, he's probably doing that with others at the same time.

 

 

Put your foot down.

 

 

 

 

WHAT YOU DID WRONG..

 

Guys don't like the "lectures" or "feelings" conversations, especially early on.

 

Its better to keep a game face on, NEVER let him know your upset feelings about smaller stuff, and train them out of him with positive reinforcements.

 

If he doesn't get the message, he wasn't worth the time. TRUST me. You may REALLY like him but if you could save yourself the heachache of a heartbreak, waisted time on a recovery... you'd do it..

 

OH where were the signs.. you usually see them REAL early and train him to expect a certain response or you let him say "imma do what ever I want regardless of if it makes her mad.

[leysayin]

If a guy is too busy to talk to you, something is not right..

 

When a guy is REALLY interested in you, he will do stuff he doesn't normally like to do.. LIKE call you.. because he really likes you and wants to be around you..

 

 

He has you as his "GROC".. Girl Ready on command

 

meaning, you are like his barbie doll or video game.. when he's bored, he takes you out and entertains himself. And you LET him when you agree to go.

 

 

What do you do? You have to set boundries. If he likes you, he will honor it.

 

1. If he calls you same day, unless you are desperate, don't answer the phone when he calls IF its a potential "date night/ spending time" thing.

Why? Well, let him leave a message telling you to "CALL HIM BACK".. and if he doesn't say "call me back in his message" then don't CALL him back. "I was just calling too.." or "just wanted you to know I called" doesnt count.

 

2. If he mentions it later, just say you got the message late and you had something to do so you would talk to him later.. DON'T bring it up unless he does. If he DOES bring it up, be SUPER nice and say "THANK YOU for thinking of Me" "I wish we COULD HAVE done that, it would have been fun!" and say "I WISH YOU KNEW EARLIER cause I had already told a friend you would help them with something" (helping someone is better than saying you were out with other friends instead of him).

 

Remember.. you want to keep planting that HE NEEDS to stop calling you last minute or DAY OF the event and he needs to communicate with you before the date.. even if it is a quick 30 min sit down at starbucks..

 

 

FINALLY, the #1 FAILURE.. TEXT MESSAGING.. you should PRETEND like you don't know how to do that or you aren't able to..

 

Text messaging is poor communication when you are trying to get to know someone.. Are they too busy to block out some time to get to know you?

 

A quick text saying "just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you" is GREAT.. but not if its replacing the phone calls/ time spent together..

 

not to mention.. if he's texting you, he's probably doing that with others at the same time.

 

 

Put your foot down.

 

 

 

 

WHAT YOU DID WRONG..

 

Guys don't like the "lectures" or "feelings" conversations, especially early on.

 

Its better to keep a game face on, NEVER let him know your upset feelings about smaller stuff, and train them out of him with positive reinforcements.

 

If he doesn't get the message, he wasn't worth the time. TRUST me. You may REALLY like him but if you could save yourself the heachache of a heartbreak, waisted time on a recovery... you'd do it..

 

OH where were the signs.. you usually see them REAL early and train him to expect a certain response or you let him say "imma do what ever I want regardless of if it makes her mad.

 

Thank you SO much for your piece of advice. I think i learnt some lessons out of it. Gonna hone my man-training skills. Day one of no reply from him. Í'm not waiting for him anymore. If he really likes me, he will come back without me doing anything, right? And if he doesn't it means i'm nothing which is most prolly the case.