one goal Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 I was thinking the last day of the semester if I bought her a card, and maybe a $20 giftcard to somewhere, would that at least maybe be able to get me her personal email addy, or number to keep in touch with her? Or would that be a bad thing because she might think I'm trying to get her to give me a better grade?
anne1707 Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 I think you stand more chance of being arrested or being committed
TuffCookieX Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 No giftcard... that seems like you're paying for a grade. Something sweet that can be used in a home. Who knows, a candle, some bath soaps, a recommended book?
Eeyore79 Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 She won't be allowed to accept it; teachers can't accept gifts from students because it could be seen as bribery for a good grade. Not to mention that you already asked her out and she declined; after what happened she'd be risking her job by maintaining any contact with you. There's no way she'll give you her personal number anyway, because it would only give you false hope. She's already turned you down once, so I think if you continue to pester her you could end up in trouble for harassment. The best thing you can do is just accept that she isn't interested in you and leave her alone.
Author one goal Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 She won't be allowed to accept it; teachers can't accept gifts from students because it could be seen as bribery for a good grade. Not to mention that you already asked her out and she declined; after what happened she'd be risking her job by maintaining any contact with you. There's no way she'll give you her personal number anyway, because it would only give you false hope. She's already turned you down once, so I think if you continue to pester her you could end up in trouble for harassment. The best thing you can do is just accept that she isn't interested in you and leave her alone. Even if it's just as a friend, not as a date?
Cracker Jack Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Why do you want to stay in contact with someone who's not remotely interested in you and has made that clear? Come on now.
Intricategirl Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Why do you want to stay in contact with someone who's not remotely interested in you? Or with someone who's being mean to you? She cannot accept the gift card as a teacher. She will not accept it as a friend, because she doesn't want to be your friend. Leave her alone, get over her, because she does not want anything to do with you in any capacity.
Eeyore79 Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Even if it's just as a friend, not as a date? Your teacher is not allowed to accept gifts from you, end of story. It's more than her job's worth to have anything more than a professional involvement with you. Plus you're probably making her feel really uncomfortable by harassing her.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 She should be the one coming on here for advice: how to take out a restraining order on a persistent and stalker-like student.
Author one goal Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 Or with someone who's being mean to you? She cannot accept the gift card as a teacher. She will not accept it as a friend, because she doesn't want to be your friend. Leave her alone, get over her, because she does not want anything to do with you in any capacity. Well she's friends with other students, why can't she be friends with me then?
xpaperxcutx Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Well she's friends with other students, why can't she be friends with me then? Oh, don't lose your day job because you'll make a mediocre comedian. Do you actually not see that your persistance is similar to a 5-year old whining " why, why, why?!!!?
whichwayisup Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 I was thinking the last day of the semester if I bought her a card, and maybe a $20 giftcard to somewhere, would that at least maybe be able to get me her personal email addy, or number to keep in touch with her? Or would that be a bad thing because she might think I'm trying to get her to give me a better grade? Are you kidding me one goal? Why are you hellbent on pursuing the teacher? She doesn't want friendship. She wants you to leave her alone on a personal level. You already went to the Dean about this, so why are you still trying to befriend her? Go ahead and do it...See what happens. You won't like the results, and I'm not talking about your grades.
whichwayisup Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Well she's friends with other students, why can't she be friends with me then? Because the other students didn't ask her out!!!!!!! Because she doesn't want to. Accept the reality. Push it, you'll regret it.
Intricategirl Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Well she's friends with other students, why can't she be friends with me then? Because you crossed the line and she doesn't want to be friends with you.
johan Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 I don't understand why you don't try to get a date with the department head.
Author one goal Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 That's why my feelings get hurt so much. No matter how I try to be nice to someone they reject me and turn me down. It keeps happening!
dreamingoftigers Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 They reject you because you don't listen when someone says "stop" Self-fulfilling prophecy. You tell them that you don't care about their happiness and then you expect them to want to make you happy and be by your side.
Author one goal Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 They reject you because you don't listen when someone says "stop" Self-fulfilling prophecy. You tell them that you don't care about their happiness and then you expect them to want to make you happy and be by your side. but even when I ask them out for the first time they say no.
Lucky_One Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 BWWAAAAHAHAHAHA!!! She is a professional woman in her late 30's, and you are going to offer her a $20 giftcard!!!!!! :rolleyes: Cheapskate.
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 I don't understand why you don't try to get a date with the department head. Exactly. Go big or go home.
Author one goal Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 BWWAAAAHAHAHAHA!!! She is a professional woman in her late 30's, and you are going to offer her a $20 giftcard!!!!!! :rolleyes: Cheapskate. Or something in that range. No I'm not going to spend more $ on someone who hasn't even agreed to a date with me. Now if I took her out then I'd spend more on her, and pay for the full meal. Btw I was thinking, but it's too late to use this plan, but my last presentation in class is on my favorite hockey team. I never asked the teacher if she likes sports. I was wondering would it be ok to small talk and ask if she likes any sports? I have season tickets and was thinking depending on her response I could offer to take her to a game sometime.
Lucky_One Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Yeah. Do that. Matter of fact, ask her if she and the Dept Head both want to go with you, and then do a menage a trois. That will surely liven up this same old, same old, boring crap that you keep spouting. I am done with you (unless I get seriously bored AND have one more glass of wine).
Author one goal Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 Yeah. Do that. Matter of fact, ask her if she and the Dept Head both want to go with you, and then do a menage a trois. That will surely liven up this same old, same old, boring crap that you keep spouting. I am done with you (unless I get seriously bored AND have one more glass of wine). How old are u btw? You look cute based on your avatar pic.
Lucky_One Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 I am cute. I am hot as hell, if you want to get technical. My husband thinks I am the hottest thing going, with the exception of Halle Berry and Scarlett Johanson (sp). I am 38. And I wouldn't touch you with a 39 and a half foot pole, regardless of your age. Your mind is pointless, and I am SO much more than just cute or hot or 38. (Off this board), I am smart, witty, kind, loving, polite, inquisitive, active, social, intuitive, caring and a great tennis player. I wouldn't give the time of day to any man who could only comment on my hotness (or lack thereof). And THAT is why you can't get a date. You are trivial, and you look at the superficial. Real women are more than shining hair, bouncing breasts and legs that go to heaven - we are brains, we are souls, and we are psyches.
Lilmisus Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 How old are u btw? You look cute based on your avatar pic. Mmmm Lucky One, aren't you lucky? Be careful though, tomorrow you might wake up to ten private messages from him. I say, go for the gift. I mean, it's the last day of class, what could it hurt? Your dignity since she's forced to refuse? Her job if she accepts it? Please, neither of those things are important. Obviously not to you anyway. Go for it! And let us know how it turns out. But keep us suspenseful and don't let us in on what you really have up your sleeve until that fateful day, okay? Don't want to ruin the surprise!
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