autumnbethesda Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 So, I'm in the stage where I'm no-contact because my xguy with a girlfriend talked to me over the weekend about plans, made all these statements, set up a time to call me Monday and then DISAPPEARED. Obviously, this is over. I have been waiting for contact, it didn't come, and I have NOT reached out to him - I've decided that I will either ignore him or be nice but tell him I'm simply not interested in ever speaking to him again. Its difficult as its been 6 days since we last spoke and I saw him log into a social networking site (i deleted him as it says he wont be notified), but I see him on emails (we work at same company although not same office), I hear his voice, I hear songs that remind me of him or that we listened to together, every person (ie, comcast install guy) has his name, everyone I meet is from his country, ... its almost comical. There are signs of him everywhere - I used to think it was because of soulmates, but now I think its just evil. But, I doesn't help - Its a constant reminder that I wish I never had met him and despite me knowing this is Over because he's unworthy of me and we are not right, I am STUCK. I need to just move on - as much as I hate him, I'm just constantly thinking about the situation. How am I supposed to move on, when he's literally and metaphorically EVERYWHERE!? Thoughts?
BB07 Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 It's one of those painful stages Autumn and I'm sorry you have to go through it but there is light on the other side. I know it sucks but you just have to walk through it to get to the other side of it. Be kind to yourself, do something you enjoy, try not to let it consume you. Go out with friends, have some fun. It's a temporary fix but someday it will be matter of fact and those painful moments will be more distant. Hugs............and hang in there.
fooled once Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 So, I'm in the stage where I'm no-contact because my xguy with a girlfriend talked to me over the weekend about plans, made all these statements, set up a time to call me Monday and then DISAPPEARED. Obviously, this is over. I have been waiting for contact, it didn't come, and I have NOT reached out to him - I've decided that I will either ignore him or be nice but tell him I'm simply not interested in ever speaking to him again. Its difficult as its been 6 days since we last spoke and I saw him log into a social networking site (i deleted him as it says he wont be notified), but I see him on emails (we work at same company although not same office), I hear his voice, I hear songs that remind me of him or that we listened to together, every person (ie, comcast install guy) has his name, everyone I meet is from his country, ... its almost comical. There are signs of him everywhere - I used to think it was because of soulmates, but now I think its just evil. But, I doesn't help - Its a constant reminder that I wish I never had met him and despite me knowing this is Over because he's unworthy of me and we are not right, I am STUCK. I need to just move on - as much as I hate him, I'm just constantly thinking about the situation. How am I supposed to move on, when he's literally and metaphorically EVERYWHERE!? Thoughts? It's one of those painful stages Autumn and I'm sorry you have to go through it but there is light on the other side. I know it sucks but you just have to walk through it to get to the other side of it. Be kind to yourself, do something you enjoy, try not to let it consume you. Go out with friends, have some fun. It's a temporary fix but someday it will be matter of fact and those painful moments will be more distant. Hugs............and hang in there. Totally agree with BB. You can and WILL get through this. He isn't worthy. He will eventually contact you with some lame, bullsh*t excuse as to why he just couldn't contact you. Do not let him weasel back into your life. Stand strong. Stand firm. Demand better for YOU. Never settle for being an option. Never! Take each day as it comes. Focus on something POSITIVE for you - something YOU like - a treat, if you will. Whether it be shopping, eating a special treat (like a hot fudge sundae!) or doing an activity you like.... treat yourself good.
Heart On Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 I need to just move on - as much as I hate him, I'm just constantly thinking about the situation. How am I supposed to move on, when he's literally and metaphorically EVERYWHERE!? Thoughts? Forgiveness helped me move on. Maybe it will work for you. Just remember,every road has it's turn. http://www.positive-way.com/forgiven.htm
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