randy90631 Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 He everyone, I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 months and it's a very strange relationship. I believe that at in ur late 20's and early 30's you've dated enough ppl to know what ur looking for in a mate. I certainly do know what I want in a girlfriend and a relationship. I think that after 6 months of dating someone that you should have falling in love with them. Besides most couples are having sex at this point and be exclusive too. Of course there are ppl our there that want a long term casual relationship. Not me! I want to have a family some day, I'm not going to invest more than 6 months of time and effort into a girl who hadn't falling in love with me after 6 months. I can't imagine a guy that is considered a 'keeper' to date a woman who is not in love after being together for 6 months. Everyone I talk too says it's not normal to have the attitude my girlfriend has. 3 weeks ago, she said she wanted 2 see each other once a week. That's not a relationship. That's casual dating, which is fine during the getting to know each phase. (First 2 months) How are we suppose to build a strong connection if we don't each other very often. My biggest questions is to the ladies out there. If ur dating a guy that is a keeper and ur really into him, do you fall in love with him b4 the 6 months mark? I'm going to have a talk with my girlfriend, cuz from my point of view, there should something more to our relationship than is going on right now.
mysticmeg1 Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 how long have ye been dating..??? has she been hurt or cheated on in the past?? any girl that has had a bad relationship before she may want to take things slow... i dont agree with you that you should know exactly after 6 months if your in love with a person or not relationships take time to develop and building trust can take even longer!! i certainly didnt love my boyfriend that soon on in our relationship it was all so new to me plus getting out of a previous bad relationship i didn't want to rush into anything! I do however think a person should know if the relationship is going anywhere after 6 months but being in love after 6 months not nessesiarly...when me and my boyfriend first got together he to wanted to only see each other a few times a week and to be honest it did the world of good!! it didnt mean we liked each other any less! i now i understand why he wanted that...it gave us time to miss each other and become more fond of eachother! 4 years on were still together if you yourself are ready to settle down ask her where do you want this relationship to go do you see a future don't jump down her throat about questions Are you in love with me or not?? its different for every woman ask her to start spending more time with you first the more you get to know her..you will soon find out whether she's into you or not.
stace79 Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 I didn't really realize I "loved" my last boyfriend until about 8-9 months of knowing him and seeing him. We met in March, dated casually and were friends, then were exclusive from about September through December and it was on my birthday right before Christmas that I realized I was falling in love with him. So, while I don't think everyone can determine if they are "in love" before six months, I DO think you should know pretty well if you want to continue a relationship at that point. I don't think you're being unreasonable for wanting more of a commitment after five months, BUT she may just not be ready for a serious commitment. That doesn't mean she is "wrong"; you're just in different places. If that's the case, you just have to decide if you want to stick around and wait longer or not.
pineapples Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 He everyone, I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 months and it's a very strange relationship. I believe that at in ur late 20's and early 30's you've dated enough ppl to know what ur looking for in a mate. I certainly do know what I want in a girlfriend and a relationship. I think that after 6 months of dating someone that you should have falling in love with them. Besides most couples are having sex at this point and be exclusive too. Of course there are ppl our there that want a long term casual relationship. Not me! I want to have a family some day, I'm not going to invest more than 6 months of time and effort into a girl who hadn't falling in love with me after 6 months. I can't imagine a guy that is considered a 'keeper' to date a woman who is not in love after being together for 6 months. Everyone I talk too says it's not normal to have the attitude my girlfriend has. 3 weeks ago, she said she wanted 2 see each other once a week. That's not a relationship. That's casual dating, which is fine during the getting to know each phase. (First 2 months) How are we suppose to build a strong connection if we don't each other very often. My biggest questions is to the ladies out there. If ur dating a guy that is a keeper and ur really into him, do you fall in love with him b4 the 6 months mark? I'm going to have a talk with my girlfriend, cuz from my point of view, there should something more to our relationship than is going on right now. Randy I am trying to help you here, so don't get me wrong. Your attitude is really really bad. Falling in love doesn't work like that. Of course you have every right to break up with her over this, but you have to be clear and say you don't have patience and you don't think she is worth waiting. 6 months? not really enough if you ask me...
utterer of lies Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 3 weeks ago, she said she wanted 2 see each other once a week. That's not a relationship. Exactly. She shows you that she's not really interested in you. Take the hint.
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