ShoeGurl1973 Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 So he finally texted today. He said "Im sorry for everything. I'm sorry for the mean things I said. I'm sorry I didn't try harder. I'm sorry to hear your Grandma died". I haven't responded yet. Does this mean he wants to try again?
skylines1987 Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 So he finally texted today. He said "Im sorry for everything. I'm sorry for the mean things I said. I'm sorry I didn't try harder. I'm sorry to hear your Grandma died". I haven't responded yet. Does this mean he wants to try again? hey, firsty sorry to hear about your grandma. poor timing huh? if you read my post, mine is the 6 weeks nc then a text, people go through explaining what they think, might be useful. from what hes said thinking laterally i dont think this is a "want to try again", hes just saying sorry cause he feels guilty for leaving u at this time of need. im sorry i didnt try harder is not im sorry i didnt try harder perhaps we could try again? sorry! just my thoughts, perhaps u can shed some light on my situation
poorguy Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 I don't think it means he wants to try again. He's going through some sort of guilt phase and he's trying to alleviate himself from feeling badly. I;m a firm believer in if threy want to try again they will come out and say it-or at least hint toward that specifically
Fufu Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 My take is don't respond. If he sincerely wants to rebuild the relationship with you, he will do more than just sending a text to you.
Author ShoeGurl1973 Posted April 21, 2011 Author Posted April 21, 2011 Well, I held my own and never responded. He didn't send anymore. Maybe he gave up? Do you think he will try again? I am torn between wanting him to never contact me again and wanting him to fight for our relationship.
Fufu Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Well, I held my own and never responded. He didn't send anymore. Maybe he gave up? Do you think he will try again? I am torn between wanting him to never contact me again and wanting him to fight for our relationship. If he is sincere to be with you again, he will make the initiative to contact you again. You don't have to do anything. if he never contacts you again, it just means he is not coming back for you. Which is why it is crucial and important for you to move on and forward. Do not wait around for him because you will never know what he is actually feeling or thinking.
Author ShoeGurl1973 Posted April 23, 2011 Author Posted April 23, 2011 So FUFU you were right. I woke this morning and had 3 texts from my dumper. He said he still loved me, even though he shoudn't. I replied Not becuase i was elated he was making contact with me and i wanted to resurrect anything - but I texted out of irritation that after dumping me in the fashion he did and saying such horrible things to me that he felt he could just text me he still loved me. I so texted him back and said "Let me reiterate what exactly you said to me that night"....and i listed all the hurtful things. As expected this prompted him to basically send a plethera of texts on what he had a problem with in the relationship and basically rehashed the whole breakup. Im not sure what the whole point of this was. I told him that I wished him luck. He responded something snarky and then I said " This is the last response to any communication from me you will get - please do not contact me going forward. Good luck to you". I think he thought by telling me he still loved me that he was going to get some similar sensititve response from me. But I am still very angry and pretty much nothing he can say will make me forgive him. I'm not even sure the point in rehashing our issues is since he moved out - I don't owe him any type of discussion anymore. I tried to work things out and he bailed, which I pointed out to him. I wish I had not even responded to his text. But even though I did, it was to give him a piece of my mind, not fall all over him and take him back. And I ended the conversation on my terms. Did I screw up? Do you think i look weak now in his eyes for responding?
Fufu Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Your situation sounded like my previous relationship. My ex broke up with me and was firm in his decision and he still told me he loves me and because I matter to him a lot that's why he has to break up with me. Come to think about it, the reality and fact is he doesn't want to be with me anymore. Doesn't want me to be in his life anymore. My ex also told me breaking up with me is the most painful decision he ever made and he hoped this pain will not last very long for us. Again, I realize if it's so painful to break up with me, why in the end he still choose to do so. It just makes me realize that I'm not that important in his heart after all. Don't be too hard on yourself because you replied to his text, we are human beings, we can be emotional at times especially in this kind of situation. For my past relationship, I too lashed out all the hurtful things and he too used that back to tell him this is why he chose to break up with me. That moment, it felt like I was being dumped again. This is your final words to him, "This is the last response to any communication from me you will get - please do not contact me going forward. Good luck to you". Hold true to your words and move on You are not weak, however if you chooses to put yourself in the past not encouraging yourself to move forward, you will not get any stronger.
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