broken-and-lost Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 So as some of you may know from my previous post my ex has finally moved on, and the hope has now finally faded. Just wondering do you really think it's possible to start fresh at my age, i mean the meet someone new who means as much if not more then my ex and settle down kids marriage and so on i'm going to be 37 in may, and if i'm honest i'm not sure it's possible now, being happy yeah think that will be fine but........ Just wondering how other people feel on the subject? for my ex she'll be fine as she's only 27 but for me on that front i'm not so sure doesn't mean i won't be happy, but it's actually something i actually wanted now i've sorted myself out. Do any of you feel like this?
Byren Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 My Mum and Dad broke up about 10 years ago. About a year later my Mum started dating another guy, they have married since and are very happy together. It can happen at your age for sure, my mum was 40 when she split up with my dad!
Star Gazer Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 People start fresh at every age with great success. As a man, you also have it a lot easier than a woman of your age, IMO. Perhaps date closer to your age next time?
Author broken-and-lost Posted April 15, 2011 Author Posted April 15, 2011 People start fresh at every age with great success. As a man, you also have it a lot easier than a woman of your age, IMO. Perhaps date closer to your age next time? dating closer to my age has crossed my mind but you can't help who you fall in love with and i look about 10 years younger then i am which doesn't help with girls my own age, but dating is the last thing on my mind right now as i'm still very much in love with my ex , even tho i've fully accepted it's over
radiodarcy Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 it's never too late to start over. although i can relate to the apprehension. as a late bloomer i didn't start dating until my early 30's. i'm now 35 and struggling to move on after being rejected by a man who is the same age and has had no problem whatsoever moving on. i believe this is due in part to - - as stargazer mentioned above - - his being a man (not to mention the ratio of women to men in our geographic area is very high). but he is also extremely extroverted. while i am introverted to the point of being a recluse. i also don't handle rejection well. oh the other hand, a few weeks ago i got called a "sexy cougar" by a young man attempting to sell over-priced magazine subscriptions. unprofessionalism and less than genuine motives aside - - it gave me a much needed ego boost and made me think there may be hope for me after all
Author broken-and-lost Posted April 15, 2011 Author Posted April 15, 2011 it's never too late to start over. although i can relate to the apprehension. as a late bloomer i didn't start dating until my early 30's. i'm now 35 and struggling to move on after being rejected by a man who is the same age and has had no problem whatsoever moving on. i believe this is due in part to - - as stargazer mentioned above - - his being a man (not to mention the ratio of women to men in our geographic area is very high). but he is also extremely extroverted. while i am introverted to the point of being a recluse. i also don't handle rejection well. oh the other hand, a few weeks ago i got called a "sexy cougar" by a young man attempting to sell over-priced magazine subscriptions. unprofessionalism and less than genuine motives aside - - it gave me a much needed ego boost and made me think there may be hope for me after all lol it's always good to get compliments even if it is from a cheesy sales man not that i've ever had any myself from a sales man you understand
radiodarcy Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 lol it's always good to get compliments even if it is from a cheesy sales man not that i've ever had any myself from a sales man you understand hahahah... i know what you mean my co-worker is over 40 and said she would have hit him with her hand bag. i'm sure he meant well. i just think he needs to learn more tact next time . and that - - as you and i both know comes with age
Duckduckgoose Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 From being in a DivorceCare class, I see people of all ages that are "starting fresh" all the time. My only advice is that you take time to work on yourself between relationships. Some of the people there jumped from one marriage or relationship to the next and it only hurt them more in the long run. It is hard for me too and I am only 27. I have seen people there from early 20s to damn near 70.
Author broken-and-lost Posted April 15, 2011 Author Posted April 15, 2011 From being in a DivorceCare class, I see people of all ages that are "starting fresh" all the time. My only advice is that you take time to work on yourself between relationships. Some of the people there jumped from one marriage or relationship to the next and it only hurt them more in the long run. It is hard for me too and I am only 27. I have seen people there from early 20s to damn near 70. I'm sure i could be perfectly happy alone for the rest of my days if that's the way it pans out, i know who i am and what i want now which i'd forgotten for a long time but it's nice to know that it's normal for people of all ages to wonder if you can start fresh at a later age
Eddie Edirol Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 Dont sweat it brudda, I also look 10 years younger than I am at 38, and theres plenty of women out there in their early 30s, or late 20's who are ready to settle down and start a family. Good thing about being a man who is good looking and single, is you can start a family at any time. since you look around 30, you still have time to start a family and dont have to risk looking like the old dad at graduation.
Cee Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 I'm a woman and started fresh at age 38. It was scary at first since I didn't know about modern rules of dating. But I learned. I made a ton of stupid mistakes, but I had good times in the precess. I met someone, but it took a few years. I never dreamed I'd be this crazy in love again. But I live this day by day. I don't have fantasies that love lasts. But I want to live life to its fullest and enjoy him while I can. Good luck in your journey
layla1983 Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 I have to comment here. My ex is in his 30's and he is god's gift to woman. Now with that being said he certaintly does'nt act like that and never would-he just has that dignified experienced way about him that I can't even begin to get out of my head. Like a complete idiot after I took him for granted and him finally breaking up with me I ran out and jumped into a new relationship and made sure he knew about it. You know what he did about it? NOTHING other than wishing me well Well with all of that you know what??? He is a man in his 30's and I am a young woman in her early 20's and I am here to tell you that loosing him and everything he is has been the biggest mistake of my life. My BF and all the others I've dated don't even compare to him in the slightest. So I had to tell you that to tell you this-Men in their 30's compared to a lot of men in their 20's win!!!! I hate the fact that he's out there without me knowing full and well that some girl is going to meet him and go head over heals for him....and I'll know exactly where she's coming from and it kills me every single day I love you Ryan wherever you are
willowthewisp Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 (edited) I feel like you do. I am 35, my ex of nearly 20 years left right after we booked our wedding, 2 years ago. I worry that I will never find anyone else, I am ready to date and have been, but find it really difficult to meet single men my age, so on that note, let me know when you're ready to date OP, I'm in the UK too Seriously though, it is difficult, add in I was with him from highschool and I have no clue about dating! I guess we will both find someone in time, I do agree with some of the other posters, I think it is easier for men starting over at our age, my ex probably robbed me of the chance to ever have children of my own now, unless I am lucky enough to find someone whom I love soon, men can father a child at any age. Edited April 15, 2011 by willowthewisp
giveittofate Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 My cousin just turned 35 and he finally found "the one" or so he says...anyways he was and still is an immature dude, who's a big kid at heart and also looks 10 years younger than he is....my point is he told me he was giving up on finding true love and that one special girl he could spend the rest of his life with, but he did and now he's talking engagement shortly...plus 37 is a damn good age I'd assume (im 24) that seems like the age where you have your career, some decent money, your own place, and some wisdom under your belt...you'll be just fine...just leave it to fate and be there when opportunity knocks.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Who was it who was 60 something and still acted 40? David Bowie keeps coming to mind. 36 is still relatively young, at least you still have a decade to go before mid-life crisis. Why do you feel that a break up would hinder you from starting over? Your ex certainly is not a hindrance especially since she has moved on herself.
Author broken-and-lost Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 It's good to get alot of different peoples opinions on the subject. i do agree with the points made about when you get to my age if your lucky enough you have sorted out the job the home and have a lot of experience under your belt. so your better placed to take advantage of what comes your way, to be fair i think my ex was the one, well she is no longer the one. I hope that i can still have the family and so sure it's easier for a man then a women apart from on the kids front, i would say for a woman it's easier to meet another partner as they usually is some guy waiting in the wings to move in once mr ex moves out, well that's always been my experience with my ex's starting to feel like that guy in movie Good Luck Chuck
Author broken-and-lost Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 I feel like you do. I am 35, my ex of nearly 20 years left right after we booked our wedding, 2 years ago. I worry that I will never find anyone else, I am ready to date and have been, but find it really difficult to meet single men my age, so on that note, let me know when you're ready to date OP, I'm in the UK too Seriously though, it is difficult, add in I was with him from highschool and I have no clue about dating! I guess we will both find someone in time, I do agree with some of the other posters, I think it is easier for men starting over at our age, my ex probably robbed me of the chance to ever have children of my own now, unless I am lucky enough to find someone whom I love soon, men can father a child at any age. Ouch 20 years i can't even imagine how that must have felt or feels that's such a long time with someone to just then walk out on you well if i eventually fall out of love with my ex, look me up but right now i wouldn't be much use to you
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