Author Byren Posted May 8, 2011 Author Posted May 8, 2011 (edited) Thanks Hellon, I really appreciate your replies I'm ready to move and have been trying, all of this was was a heavy blow but It's something that I'll care about less and less. I went to the cinema with a housemate this evening and I noticed that she was texting my ex. I was like "so what does she want?" It'd seem that my ex had told my housemate about all of this after I'd been informed (mutual friends) and has been trying to keep tabs on me to make sure I'm alright. I know my ex is a great person, but I can't help but feeling she's wanting to know if I still crave her or not - it's a classic human response and I don't blame her for it, but deep down I think she hopes I'm suffering a bit just so she knows she still has me wrapped round her little finger. I hadn't really told my housemate about how I felt about it, I'd just told her that I didn't want everyone asking if I was ok again so I wanted her to keep it private and I'd talk to her about it if I needed to. This meant that she didn't have much to reply with, apparently she'd just told my ex: 'yes, it hurt him a little, but give him some credit as he's much stronger than you think' I wish I hadn't, but I caved and asked my housemate for some details on the new guy... one of the texts insinuated that he's 'well equipped', his job seems to suggest that he's got money and his facebook page suggests that he has a fun personality. I'd been trying to keep a front with my housemate (so she didn't go telling any of this stuff to the ex) but this ***** really broke down my bloody wall. I was clearly angry and upset. I've told my housemate that I'm not asking any more questions and that I was getting on just fine not knowing what was happening. I just want to get on with my life. I don't plan on contacting my ex again in the forseeable future and if I recieve any communication from her it'll be responded with either silence or very blunt and to the point answers... I don't think badly of her for moving on, but any contact from her now is just going to cause me nothing but pain. Edited May 8, 2011 by Byren
hellon Posted May 8, 2011 Posted May 8, 2011 No problem! Glad you're going to stop contact for now. I've said it before, but I'll say it again- finding out my ex was with someone was the kick in the a$$ I needed to do it. I have had literally zero compulsion to contact him since. It'll get easier!
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