lolo1234 Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 I've been having this struggle since I started dating again. I feel like there are 2 types of guys that I like. One type... I know it won't go anywhere but I'm just attracted to him and I wouldn't mind having some fun. The second type... he looks great on paper! He is everything I'm looking for, but why am I not "feeling it?" And I'm just wondering WTF is wrong with me? Or maybe... why can't I find a sexy guy who is mature and has his sh*t together? So what do I end up doing? I get wishy washy with both sets cause I can't make up my mind if I really want him or not. I feel like maybe I need to give the second type more time to win me over. But I end up wasting too much time on type 1. I dunno. I just got out of a relationship, maybe I just need to have fun for a while and that's why I'm not into type 2.
betterdeal Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 It sounds like some uncomplicated fun is best right now, given that you've just left a relationship. How about taking a holiday and being open to the idea of a holiday romance? A week or two in the sun and maybe find a two-week-lover whilst you're there.
Eeyore79 Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 I have dated both types of guys; the hot ones who aren't relationship material, and the ones who look great on paper but who I'm just not attracted to. Neither is ideal. What you need is a guy who satisfies both sets of criteria, but they're few and far between; in thirty years I've only met three such guys. I think all you can do is keep looking, and enjoy yourself in the meantime.
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