murah989 Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 So I had the guts a few days ago to ask out this girl in my wine class. I usually come in early to hangout with the professor, but he wasn't there; instead it was just her. We talk very rarely, but this time she went out of her way to say hello instead of just ignoring I'm there. We flirted for a bit, which lead to me getting her number and asking her out on a date. A few days went by, and we really didn't bring up getting together until last Monday when I asked her out again. We agreed that Thursday we might be able to grab a drink and go see a movie. Thursday comes, and yet again I'm getting maybe's, but she said she'd call me and we'd try and figure something out. Later today I texted her asking if we were still good to go, in which she replied that she was busy with work, but we should make plans anyway. So we decided that when she was done we'd meet up. The whole time she's texting me, flirting with me, asking me what my turn offs are...the whole "Im interested in you" game...well just now, she texts me "You're going to be really mad at me..." I asked her "Why??" "I'm at this bar with a few friends....do you idk, maybe want to come? If it's not ok, sorry for being a puss :(" I mean, all I could do was just say its ok..but I refused to go out. I had made plans to do the SAME thing, yet I get blown off...and the whole time she's trying to patch up things by repeatedly saying sorry, and trying to make it seem like not such a bad thing... I mean, I don't want to be rude, but I just feel that going would lower my self-respect for myself....Should I give this another chance and see where things go?
notuneak Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 I wouldn't. Ignore her and let her contact you. Her going to a bar when you asked her out is just plain BS.
BiscuitXOXO Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 ^agree. She either 1) likes the attention but isn't too interested in you specifically. or 2) likes someone else but in the meantime wouldn't mind stringing another guy who seems kind of nice along. Either way it doesn't seem to bode too well for you. Although you could try to give her one last chance i guess...
veggirl Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 Well, I think she is interested but for some reason very shy or VERY guarded. She wants to hang out w/ you, but w/ the protection of her friends. How old is she? You could take things slowly/casually and do the whole group thing if you want, but if you're not cool w/ that then I would ask her out on one more one-on-one date, and if she bails or changes the plans or invites others, then be done.
Author murah989 Posted April 15, 2011 Author Posted April 15, 2011 ^agree. She either 1) likes the attention but isn't too interested in you specifically. or 2) likes someone else but in the meantime wouldn't mind stringing another guy who seems kind of nice along. Either way it doesn't seem to bode too well for you. Although you could try to give her one last chance i guess... I'm getting that vibe too. She broke up with her bf in February, so I'm getting kind of a rebound vibe. Also, I've dated girls who are guarded, most of them bring up the whole "I'm bringing my friends" deal during the making of the plans. This is the first time where the girl has sprung it on me. I had the idea that I was going to meet her alone (since we knew each other already). We're both 21, so I'm a little surprised she's doing this. I just think its kind of funny she tried making me feel bad by saying "Well my friends BF is here". Implying that I should be her psuedo bf for the night. sigh.....
Eddie Edirol Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 Nope, blow her off. She is bieng immature, and you dont want to date an immature woman liek that, it will be problems down the road. Especially if youre the rebound guy. Pass. When you see her in class next time, suggest to go out right after class. If she wont swing that, shes not really that interested. Matter of fact, when you see her in class, if she wont look at you or go up to you to talk like last time, then she was bullshytting you.
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