blackwidow290 Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 ive been with my partner since August and my mind still goes back and forth about him, being indecisive deep down and not knowing whether he's the one. For easter Im supposed to go to a big family celebration of his and its not cos of shyness, but I really dont want to spend time with them, make them like me. Is it normal not to care and not to know at this point?
Jazzari Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 I think what is "normal" is different for everyone. My sister was very slow and in fact rejected her future husband many times before she agreed to go out with him. And then it built up slowly over a few years. She is very happy in her marriage and going strong. I'm just the opposite. If I'm not knocked off my feet from day one, then it will never happen. I knew I was going to marry my husband the very first time I saw him. We also had a long and happy marriage.
Ginger Beer Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 For me, with the girl I'm trying to get back with, it went from friendship to relationship and it was just before the relationship stage I realised I couldn't be without her. I loved everything about her, every minute little detail, even her imperfections. There was nothing that could change that. I always wanted her to be happy, I cared. I would put her happiness before mine. It was when I realised that although I've liked many girls, this one is making me feel much different to the others, that was when I thought ''she is the one''.
Author blackwidow290 Posted April 15, 2011 Author Posted April 15, 2011 maybe thats it for women too.. the one is he who wants to make you happy, is devoted, and truly cares..
chelle21689 Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 I don't necessarily believe in "the one" anymore but I would think of it as someone I could spend the rest of my life with. For me, it'd be someone I can be completely myself. They see me at my worst, best, all different sides of me. They know everything about me but still accept me and still LOVE me. Vice versa! Also, someone I could have fun with for years and years to come!
Eeyore79 Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 I had doubts pretty early on about most of the people I dated. My interest in someone has never even lasted six months, and it rarely lasts even 2-3 months. In contrast, I've been dating my current bf for over six months, and I'm still interested and have never had any doubts. If you count the time I crushed on him before we dated, I've actually been interested in him for over a year. That's a record for me! So I guess if someone is right for you, you have a nice stable relationship with no serious doubts. If you're losing interest this early in the relationship, maybe he's not the one for you?
utterer of lies Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 There is no 'the one'. Despite this fact, your partner isn't it. Free yourself.
Citizen Erased Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 I don't have a perfect moment, where it all made sense that this was the person for me. He is just the right one for me, he continues to show me that he is and so therefor...he is. I don't know if we all have "the one". But he's mine
thatdog Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 It depends on the person and the situation. I've always been the kind of guy who can tell within a month or so if i have any deep feelings for a girl. Yet with my current GF I had serious doubts for about 6 months, yet 3 years later we are living together and have been seriously contemplating marriage.
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