WindyCityGirl Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Me and my boyfriend dated for 5 years. Poor communication was our fate. I tried NC for the first month until he started with the text messages. A few weeks ago I almost went nuts trying to make sense of it all. We've been broken up for 3 months. Two weeks ago we were hanging out at his place and he tells me that we shouldn't hang out anymore. Since that time I took everyone's advise and reinstated NC. He started texting every morning and night. Sweet things like have a good day, good morning beuatiful, sweet dreams etc. A few days ago he asked if we could do lunch, I said maybe dinner, he said "We'll talk." He calls 2 days later and I really wanted to see him so I told him I would come by before he went to work. We hung out and did the do. He was extremely nice as usual. He called me about 30 minutes later saying that he really enjoyed me and wanted me to know that. We talked until he went to a meeting. And then today............nothing. Not even the usual texts that I've gotten use to getting. I don't want to believe that he used me, but did he??
bonine Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 It is hard to say really without knowing the type of person he is...is he the type of guy who would do something like that? It might also be that he is having a hard time letting go. But it sounds to me like there is a clear pattern...every time you go NC he starts messaging you..he wants what he can't have, you...when he get's it your value in his eyes decreases...so he doesn't continue to message you, he has what he wants. I wouldn't be surprised if you go NC again and he comes running back..it is all push/pull, sort of twisted when you think about it but that is human psychology, or so it seems.
Author WindyCityGirl Posted April 14, 2011 Author Posted April 14, 2011 He's a very sweet man. He always put me first and never made me feel insecure. His issues were with communication and trust. Whenever we are around each other it's as if we are still together. He caters to me in a loving way and makes sure I feel comfortable. And yes, whenever I go NC he pursues me with texts. The emotional up & down has me so tired. I don't know if he used me intentionally but it sure feels like it. Can't stop crying. I'm determined this time to stick with NC
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