Sake Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I'm a guy and I believe it means something, I'm more of a romantic kinda guy and I only really want to have sex with girls I love (or in a relationship with). I've only had one serious relationship of 3 years but a month after she broke up with me she started dating again and having sex with the new guy. How can I convince myself that sex doesn't mean anything and delete the image of her and him doing the things we used to do..? It used to destroy me but I'm getting better and as you can see I'm trying real hard to finally push her out of my thoughts. So...does sex really mean something and what I'm feeling is real? or is it just jealousy and sex doesn't mean anything at all?
Mister_Lonely Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I think it depends on the individual. At the end of the day it's only a physical act & if you don't associate it with feeling & emotion it's not a big deal. Sex with a gf is important as it's an expression of love. My ex is sleeping with someone new but I don't think about it & when I do I just see it as sex & not the love we made together. Just don't think about it. The only thing that annoys me is that she is getting laid & I am not at the minute.
ratchet529 Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I think its hard for most people to picture, hear about, or otherwise know about your (recent) ex having sex with someone, unless of course you're into partner swapping, but that's an entirely different story. For example, the though of my most recent ex (almost 1 month post bu) having sex makes me sick to my stomach, but one of my other ex's of 4 years just got married, and we had a period where we were "friends" that didn't hang out, and used to talk about our new sexual endeavours, that was after a few years of being broken up though.
loverboy1984 Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 When I began dating my ex back in college I had so much respect for her and didnt want to ruin it. I waited 4 months before I had sex with her. And yes I am a guy and I have been with an embarrassingly high number of girls. So you can imagine waiting 4 months in college, where guys dont wait more than 4 min then move on. I fell in love with this girl and didnt want to mess things up. Was with her for 6 yrs then she cheats on me and dumps me at the worst time. So sex can mean different things for different people. Chemistry makes sex more enjoyable, so does a connection. But people can fake those too. Sex can be based solely on physical attraction too and causual. But before you give it any meaning realize what it means to your partner. Sometimes the tables turn and nothing means anything.
carhill Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 Boy, can they fake it... My advice is give sexually what is meaningful to oneself and, if/when healthy reciprocation is not sensed, accept it for what it is and move on. When one partner orients to sexual expression within intimacy and another views it as sport, that is simple incompatibility. Had a M like that...
Brokenlife Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 My ex had sex with a bunch of guys after we broke up. So it really depends on the person. Clearly she just loved to fk.
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