HeartOnSleeve Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I didn't really hear from the guy I was dating yesterday so when I was done with my day I sent a quick little text to say hi. "Hey, hope your day went well!" and he responds rather quick..."Not a good day but going to bed. Night"...I reply with a "sleep well" and get a "Thanks" back. Great no big deal, other than I feel terrible for him. He has a very stressful job and is having a really hard time with some other stuff at the moment, and since it's still a new relationship, I don't want to be annoying. Haven't heard from him again today, guys and gals...should I just wait till he contacts me or do you think I should shoot him a quick text or call to see if he is having a better day and if theres anything I can do? I know that some people need alone time when things are tough and don't want to be bothered with questions etc. Just don't want to come off like I don't care when I really do Thanks!
Nexus One Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 A night of sleep can do wonders to how you feel and to your perspective, so let him sleep and perhaps text him tomorrow with a cheerful message to cheer him up or something. Little things like that can make you the light of his day and life.
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted April 14, 2011 Author Posted April 14, 2011 Great idea...thanks so much! I guess I could send him something light hearted in a little bit as yesterday was the "bad" day
Lilmisus Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Let him have some space. Honestly, you don't know what could have been going on yesterday (though it probably was work related), and what was bothering him. I hate to say it, but it could have even been something to do with you, since he didn't even try to initiate contact and didn't try talking to you at all and hasn't said anything to you yet today. Unless of course, he's not a phone type person and short little messages from him are the norm, in which case, I still stick to what I said about letting him have some space. People who aren't used to talking on the phone via text or calling don't typically like to have someone text them everyday or every other day. Let him come to you, if he doesn't by say..Saturday (you don't want to overdo phone contact in a new relationship), then shoot him a message or call him asking what's up and how he's doing. If he's still as not thrilled as he was yesterday to talk to you, then something is up with him, and you may need to talk to him about things, since in a relatively new relationship, that's not a good sign.
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