DarkAngel7 Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I've posted on here before about my situation. I will summarize and make it very general with some updates. Started seeing this guy about 10 months ago, he was eager to jump into something official right away. I wasn't ready due to things in my private life, NOT because he wasn't good enough for me. I didn't clarify this and explain, just said I wasn't ready for a Bf. He stuck around regardless, things were the same but looking back He kind of went back into a shell after getting rejected. He had talked about moving together etc. But I just wanted to not jump into that so fast. After this he would give hints, but never straight forward. Got to the point where I realized we were exclusive from day one, and I was denying what we were in, which was a relationship. I thought he would bring it up again, but not really. He just kept hinting moving in together. I got really insecure that he wasn't asking to make it official anymore, felt that because of my fears I made him comfortable without full commitment(even though he chose to be exclusive with me). At the end stage hell started to break loose. I was insecure, would lash out. I wasn't the same around him anymore. I would get sad because I started to question if his feelings had changed. It also didn't help that certain things happened in his private life that stressed him to death. Oh and yes I was a biatch when angry. We also had diff ways of dealing with things, and he takes the whole silent lets not talk about it approach. Okay obviously I wouldn't have been in it that long if we didn't feel great around eachother. He always made me feel special, would tell me im wife material for him, most beautiful woman hes met, smart, funny. His mom doesn't live anywhere near the state we live in but she knows all about me and told him im a keeper. Same with his older brother. The feelings were genuine im intuitive enough to know that...this guy was head over heels...and with arguements he started to feel distant. I mentioned before his ex was psycho and I guess he got scared of the same crazy things happening again(she was physical,bitchy,cheated). Well after this site I decided even though we didn't break up, to try laying low. I kept questioing him and realized how scary and annoying that could be. He text me saying he was thinking of me and really stressed. I just left it at that, a week later we talked he was flirting with me saying hes thinking of me etc. So we had a reunion this weekend. It was great, felt like old times honestly. The 3 weeks or so of not talking too much n cooling down helped. I felt I was a bitch in the past, even though it was out of hurt. I offered to take us out for a dinner. He suggest we watch a movie at home after and we did. We just had good fun lots of joking all natural. The whole time he was getting close to me and wanted sex, I kept saying I dont think its right. Reason being I don't know where we stand, and as attracted as I am to him I thought sex may complicate. He told me no your my baby, look how i am with you. He is very attracted to me, to the point that yes even after 10 months he gets aroused without me even doing anything/wearing normal clothes. We have amazing sex...and I ended up giving in. We had probably one of the best sexual experiences in our whole Rship...very intimate...the things he was saying so intimate. After we fell asleep and he held me tight all night. Next morning, time for work he couldnt stop kissing me. Told me not to hesitate to call or text him(I usually wait for him to do that) Well anywyas he still texted me that day while at work etc. I was happy, even though nothing was solved. He told me that its his situation and nothing to do with me. He said it should be obvious what he feels for me. Well as many of you guys on this site HATE I asked friends advice. One friend told me to talk it out, but it seems hes not ready to do that? He is majorly stressed. Other people said you either leave the door open or shut it for good. I asked him yesterday what the deal is, and hes like tell me what you want. I didn't, why would I? He already knows...and it's like I only want it if he wants it. I don't want it if its all on me...u know? And hes like you already know why it is this way, when I kept wanting more you basically turned it down. I said what about now? He said now im at a point where what im dealing with it seems as though adding a full relationship will complicate things/prolong the thing that im going through. He just wants to bam fix the situation before he gets into anything. The thing is, that is fine. I just don't understand, why he wouldn't ask me if I want to wait for him? Guys if you really cared for/loved a girl wouldn't you be afraid she might slip away? I asked him that, don't you think I might slip. He was like yes im fully aware of that and I know you're beautiful and other guys will try to get to you...why do u think im acting this way? So with that statment, is he saying he is distancing himself becaues he thinks I wont be there later? If he really cared wouldn't he make sure I was there/try all he could? It confuses the crap out of me because hes like always telling me how amazing I am, but if I was that amazing to him why would he let me slip away?
Author DarkAngel7 Posted April 14, 2011 Author Posted April 14, 2011 I actually asked him, "if you think all of those wonderful things about me, why would u want me to slip away" His response " what do you mean, where are you going?" Me " I am just saying why would you even risk that..." Him " I don't want to risk that, thats not what I want but u know what I am going through" Does this make anything clear???
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