SoulStorm Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 I don't see where I was as flip with my answer as you say "Nope I Don't Think So" I am curious as to how others view a situation like this. It doesn't mean I'll agree with it. It means I am curious. Because the situation was one that I'd not read here so I just thought I'd toss it out there & get a little different perspective. I'm not being arguementative with anyone. (except Drifter, I don't think it's his place to ask me to leave a forum) I appreciate all the other input. It's made me thihnk a bit. But it doesn't necessarily change my opinion. You have based this on how you felt. you have said also how your husband felt, but dismissed him as being wrong for being upset because you said he knew. It's semantics..he knew but not to what extent. You have said you did it FOR YOU. Not for him and you. Therefore it is a deceptive act and goes beyond the boundaries initially set. The agreed upon rules were broken by you. That constitutes dishonesty. Which is a core ingredient for an affair. IMO..you had an affair FOR YOU. If your husband agreed with it..he would not have been upset. His emotions are valid too.
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