Imajerk17 Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 how did you meet your significant other? Open-ended question here...
AzaleaBelle Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Hey! You asked me this in the "Player" thread, but I didn't answer. It happened when I least expected it, thats for sure. I met my current boyfriend on a greyhound bus. I had been in Tuscaloosa, AL visiting some college friends over new years and was heading back to Mobile, Al. He was heading down from Denver, Colorado to work in Biloxi, Mississippi for a month. We met on the platform in Jackson, Mississippi. I looked at him at thought, "He is a cutie." I looked a mess, though. I had on no makeup, sweats and my glasses. I was also considerably hung over and all that entails. So, I didn't make any eye contact or otherwise show attraction. Then, it started to snow. I was wearing flip flops because its the South and it is usually a safe bet. I heard him say, "Today may have been a good day to wear some whole shoes, huh." He smiled at me and it was a good, warm smile. I said, I reckon so and smiled back. Then, he came over and we chatted for a while until it was time to board. We were riding the same bus, so he helped me with my bag and we sat together. For the next 5 hours we talked about all kinds of random, but some important, things. We had a lot in common. What was interesting, was there was no real flirting. Though, later he admitted he wanted to kiss the top of my head. I mentioned that my friends and go to the boats in Biloxi and gamble about once a month. So, he gave me his number before he got off the bus and told me to give him a call if I wanted to hang out. After he got off the bus, I got the most ridiculous smile on my face. However, I hadn't planned on calling, really. The next day I had a phone interview for an ESL position in South Korea and had a lot of stuff to take care of. I don't sleep around, so I saw no point in starting something I couldn't see through. Phone interview went fine, but a day or so later, they called to let me know my misdemeanor had had come up and they couldn't continue with the application. I was pretty upset, but a few days later I had regrouped. I decided to call this adorable, sweet, chatty man I met on the bus. I called him and we talked every night on the phone. He would come over to visit. We dated and decided we wanted to be exclusive. Neither one of us had felt this way and we didn't want to let it go. One day, he took me to the movies but we just sat in the car talking instead of going into the theater. He went back to Colorado and we did the long distance thing for a while. And still do, sorta. I freelance for an online media company, so I'm free to go back to Alabama regularly and visit my family. Before I met him, I had decided I was getting out of Mobile, Alabama. When he asked me if I wanted to move up to Denver, I said yes. About the bus. I believe in using mass transit whenever possible. I wouldn't recommend using it as a meeting spot. There are a great deal of shady people on the bus. And some loose women. I've heard some thing I wish I hadn't from seat behind me. I believe I got lucky. The bus gave us just enough time to make a solid connection.
Author Imajerk17 Posted April 14, 2011 Author Posted April 14, 2011 Wow.... cool story! Salutes to your boyfriend for stepping up and making a move too.
Stung Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I had just moved to a new city and put up an OKC profile to meet new people. He did a match percentage search, and found that I was consistently his highest match within a thousand miles, although I lived 800 miles away (we were 99% match, 98% friends, and 0% enemies). Oddly, I had just moved from his metro area, which we were both natives of. He got in touch with me just as kind of a 'what the hell', figuring it was good to make new friends, we had a lot in common, but not thinking anything would really come of it. We wrote back and forth for several months, and we were on each other's radar for sure--we really liked each other, found each other intriguing--but we were trying not to take it too seriously, after all we lived 800 miles apart and I was trying to start a new life in a new area. I'm not sure who we were fooling though as we were emailing and IMing pretty much every day. We both dated a couple other people casually, but we just couldn't get too interested in anybody because we were too interested in each other. Then I flew back to visit my family and I met him in person on what was supposed to be a casual date, and things snowballed rapidly from there. Six more months of intense LDR, flying back and forth to visit each other every other weekend, IMing and phoning every day. Grabbing whole weeks to stay together, when we could. He gave me half his dresser and a key to his place after just a month. I met his daughter, became her pen pal. Finally I uprooted again and moved back to my own point of origin to live with him and his daughter. So, fast forward a few years, now we're married and have a little son together, plus I have an awesome stepdaughter who totally adores her baby brother.
tigressA Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I met my BF online--OKCupid. I had given up on multidating a month prior and was only ever surfing the site out of boredom; I contemplated taking it down the night he had IMed me. He asked me out for dinner, I said yes, we went out 2 days later. We had a second date set up by the end of the first, and so on it went.
threebyfate Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 My husband is a neighbor of close friends. He helped dig me out when my car got stuck in the snow. I had my friends invite him to our annual open-ended NYE party, whereby he got my number from my friend and the rest is history!
P&R Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I met my girlfriend in a foreign language college class. I'm naturally shy so I sat near the back on the first day so I didn't have to interact with my classmates. 10 minutes into the class a VERY beautiful girl enters the room, her face is red, and she's breathing hard because she was running to class. She plops herself down next to me so the teacher wouldn't notice. The teacher enjoys making the class interact with each other. The people that you sat next to ended up being your "partner". We had to ask each other our hobbies, likes and dislikes. It turns out we had almost the same hobbies, likes and dislikes. The teacher then mentioned something about conversational partners... Students from different countries that need help learning English. I didn't want to go into the building alone so I asked her if she wanted to come with me. We ended up lost, and spent a good hour wandering around the campus. After we found the building and signed up she ended up sticking around. Now every day after class she invited herself to hangout with me. My teacher of the class saw us walking around one day, at this point I didn't know she liked me. When my now girlfriend turned her head for a second my teacher me a smile and a look that told me all I needed to know. At this point I didn't make a move for 2 months. She had friendzoned me at this point. During class she looked stressed out, and nervous. I asked her what was wrong and she told me she was about to go out on a date for the first time in awhile. I felt like I had been punched in the stomache and my mouth was dry. I told her I needed to talk to her after class. We ended up wandering around for an hour, and then she said that she needed to go and get ready for the date. As she was going to her car I grabbed her hand and turned her around. Looked her straight in the eye and told her that I like her (yes a bit juvinille I know). She gave me her email and off she went. Although we didn't set up a date. I didn't officially ask her out for 3 more weeks. She had this thing... she told me that she had never been in a relationship before. She told me she had very good friend that she had a crush on. She compared every person she ever dated to him, and none of them compared. In fact the longest she ever dated somebody was 3 dates. A couple of months later we're in the car and I stupidly blirt out that I loved her. At this point she is still cycling through many guys ok OKC and in real life. I was frusterated, and the feeling of loving somebody while they're dating other people was hard. Especially when she wasn't getting serious, and STILL bringing new guys in and out. One when we were driving she looked nervous. Then she told me that she had broken up with the other guys 3 weeks ago. Then she told me it seemed pointless to date other people when none of them compared to me. A month later I got an I love you back. We were kind of having and argument and I asked her if she regretted starting a relationship with me. She paused for 10 minutes and had a weird expression. Then she said IT'S TOO LATE BECAUSE I LOVE YOU. I thought that was really sweet.
tman666 Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I was out at a popular bar in the city where I went to college with a group of buddies for my friend's birthday. I saw my girl walk in the front door, and I couldn't get over how beautiful and unique she looked. It was sort of weird actually. As soon as I saw here, I sort of new that I had to talk to her. I waited until she sat down and then walked up to her, sat down next to her, and introduced myself. We talked for a while, exchanged phone numbers, and my group moved on to a different bar. We ended up running into her and her friend again at the other bar, where we sat down and talked for another few hours. I told her that I'd call her, and we parted ways. It was funny, because when I did call her a couple of days from then, she sounded sooooo chilly on the phone: Me: "Hey, this is Tman666 from Lucky Joe's the other night! How's it going?" Her: "Oh, it's going ok..." Me: "So, we're having a party this weekend at our place and I was wondering if you wanted to come by." Her: "Oh ok. Yeah, I'll see what's going on." Me: "Cool, so I'll see you then?" Her: "Yeah maybe, we'll see what ends up going down." I hung up and basically told myself "welp, never going to hear from her again!" Needless to say, I was extremely surprised when she called me asking for directions to my house. She actually told me later on that when I first called her, she was actually really excited, but was trying to act "cool" about it. We've been in a relationship for over three years now, and we're only getting happier. I generally would be wary of meeting women in a bar, but it actually worked out for me.
curlygirl40 Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Awww, keep em coming. I can feel my heart actually melting It's very sweet to read. We usually only hear the 'oh no, what's going on, what in the world does this meannn?' stories.
Mutant Debutante Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I started working for a new theater company, and my bf also worked with them sometimes through the University. He started asking about me after the first day he saw me there. We talked a few times, and I thought he was really attractive and interesting...and then he asked me out and I was totally excited. I was horribly nervous because I have a weird family situation where I have custody of my sisters, and some guys aren't cool with the responsibilities that come with that, that I can't always just do what I want. He was great, though. He's met my sisters, now, and they really like him. We're trying not to move too fast but we feel pretty intense about each other. I've definitely never been this serious about anyone before.
lemonlegs Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 How I started dating my boyfriend is an interesting story. First off, he was my second cousin's first boyfriend. I know that sounds terrible, but we're not really close... so it's not like we see each other at family reuinions or anything. I'd say we're more aquaintances that happen to be related somehow... I inititally met him when I dated my first boyfriend (17 at the time) for about two months. This guy happened to be friends with him. The guy I dated was a total douchebag and looking back, and still knowing him today, he's kinda psycho. Anyway, I hungout with him and his group of friends for that short period, so I got to know some of them a little. Then, we broke up, and I stopped hanging out with them. Fast forward two or so years...I was bored one night last summer. My second cousin (mentioned above) was having a party at her place. Originally I had no intentions on going as none of my close friends were going. I ended up at a really boring party with my sister and her friends, and was close to this party anyway, so I just cabbed by myself, figuring I'd at least know the people there. So, I get there and say hello to some friends, have some drinks, and then my now-boyfriend comes up and says, "Hey, Rachel! How's it going!?" I was surprised he even remembered who I was, as he was three years older than me, and when I first met him I was just a little 17-year-old who his friend was dating... they probably didn't think much of me being stupid 20-year-olds at the time. Anyway, I knew from facebook and whatnot that he had moved to a different province so I asked him about that and he told me that he had just moved back. Then, my cousin said, "Hey _____, stop flirting with my cousin!" and he said, "Sorry, she's hot!" Anyways, we talked for a bit, whatever. Then... it was time to go, and I was going to leave with some other people as they were going to a bar. Then, my guy and his friends were going the direction of my house so I figured I'd just leave with them, I felt comfortable with them. So, we walked and talked and he was so sweet and nice and just listened and made conversation with me. They saw one of his co-workers driving, and he offered to give me a ride home. I declined at first cause I was a little weirded out, but he assured me that I'd be fine and he gave me his number and told me to text him to tell him I got home safe. Then, he gave me a quick hug and said, "good night, hun." Awww We texted on and off for about a weekk... then he asked me to meet him at a bar with him and his friends. We had drinks and danced like absolute fools (the only guy I know that will dance at a bar) and he said, "I really want to kiss you right now". Then we spent the remainder of that night walking around downtown together. A couple days later, he took me out on a formal date. We fell in love quick, and now we've been dating just shy of a year. Ahhh. It was fate. If I hadn't gone to that party that night... well, I wouldn't be with my boyfriend.
AshleyFox Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 My husband is a neighbor of close friends. He helped dig me out when my car got stuck in the snow. I had my friends invite him to our annual open-ended NYE party, whereby he got my number from my friend and the rest is history! Mind if I sell the script to Hollywood? Sound like a really sweet story. Ashley
Arasae Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 Our story is kind of bizarre... I first met my boyfriend on day one of my senior year of high school. There was this dreamy-eyed blond kid at the front of the room, very articulate, and he seemed particularly intelligent as he spoke with some of the other kids in class. I was immediately smitten. The bell rang, everyone took their seats, and Mr.Smart-Hunk wrote his name on the board, handed out the syllabus, and revealed himself as the teacher. Oops. In spite of the fact that it was his first year teaching, his class rocked. He managed to take an otherwise dull subject and make it awesome--we got to spy on other people's classes, break social rules (and write papers about it), and discuss morality and ethics. Unfortunately, halfway through the semester, I switched schools. Bah! Fast-forward two years, and I, on a whim, decided to write him a thank-you letter; nine weeks in his high school class earned me a B with practically no work in a similar college course. He responded graciously, and that was that. Fast-forward another two years, and I friended him on facebook. A few months later, I arbitrarily received an e-mail from him, essentially thanking me for my prior thank you; it was his fifth year teaching, and he was sending all the students who'd thanked him e-mails, letting them know how much those letters had meant to him. He was also curious about a note I'd written on FB about a little-discussed subculture in the US and he, ever the activist, was interested in learning more about it. We started a correspondence where I basically told him everything I knew about that culture (he has since implemented much of it into that very same class, haha), and one thing led to another... and here we are. Together, ten months later!
Cee Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 I had been attending a meetup group for a year. It was for politically left or liberal people. I initially attended because I wanted to meet men, but stuck around because I made friends. I was at the meetup and this new guy showed up. I thought he was cute and interesting and I asked his age. He said 24 and I was totally deflated because I'm 41. But we had a good chat. The next week new guy was back. It was the night of the State of the Union speech and we were all watching. New guy chatted me up from across the bar. We weren't next to each other and were talking from afar. And we kept talking. And talking. Then I turned away to talk to someone and I looked over at new guy. He was looking at me. I turned away and then looked at him. Still looking and I thought, "Maybe he likes me." I asked the guy to sit next to me and we exchanged numbers. He gave me 2 business cards and plugged my number into his phone. I forgot about the whole thing and then two days later he called. We had coffee and started dating. We've been together for 3 months and so far, so good. We still go to the meetup group as a couple.
threebyfate Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 This is interesting. 8/10 respondees met in real life where 2/10 found their partners on dating sites.
runner Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 This is interesting. 8/10 respondees met in real life where 2/10 found their partners on dating sites. interesting, but not surprising. i think online shopping should be reserved for shoes and movies, not people.
threebyfate Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 interesting, but not surprising. i think online shopping should be reserved for shoes and movies, not people.I also feel the same way but some have had success with online dating although it appears that more and more, this isn't happening. It's like the people interested in serious relationships have almost given up with online dating, at least according to what's seen on LS. But then, LS isn't necessarily reflective of real life.
sally4sara Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 The first time I met the guy who would become my husband was late 2002 when I was leaving the apartment he shared with a guy I was seeing and stopped in the bagel shop below their place the next morning. I didn't know he was room mates with the guy I was seeing till I saw him at their place later and remembered him from the bagel shop downstairs. Things didn't work out with his roomie, but we stayed friends and I got to know my husband better through him. We started dating about a year and a half later, summer 2004. We got married in Vegas 01-11-10.
anne1707 Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 We met at work. Friends were trying to jokingly get us together but never expecting it to happen. For a start, they knew I did not like him but to be honest I had barely spoken to him above minimal work contact. Then one night we all went out from work one night and we ended up sitting next to each other. We pretty much talked to each other all night and ignored everybody else. I was hooked :love:. It was still a few more weeks before we eventually got together as we were concerned about us working together. When we finally "came out", those same friends who had done the joking matchmaking could not believe it
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 I think I wrote a story of how I met my current bf. I went through 40 online men and my longest relationship out of it was 5 weeks. It all started when my best friend in real life and her friend went for a coffee one afternoon (I wasn't even present). They spoke in certain Eastern European language. Two guys approached them because they were from the same country and understood what they were talking about. They chatted and the two guys invited them to the house party happening a week after. They told them to bring friends as the party will be a bunch of engineers (all guys). My two girlfriends invited me (of course) Off we went, and I met my bf there. He was the brother of one of the two guys from the coffee shop. We hit it off right away and talked all night. I had to sort of make the first move and ask him for his Facebook. He asked me from my number right after. He likes to tell people that I picked him up Our first date was actually that night. We went to a kebab place at 4am It's still early days but this R has already outlasted ALL of 40 online dating scenarios.
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