honeypear Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Long story short i came out of a painful relationship where i did not want to go directly into another. I have always been the good girl in life, so I met this guy on FB and we became friends seen each other at the gym. When he approached the subject of sex. I explained im not looking for a relationship right now i wanted a NSA friendship and that was it. He said he was up for that so we talked some more. We both agreed that a NSA was good for both of us. This was at Xmas time. I found out just before our first meeting he had a gf and i didnt want to be involved at all as a result. He has since then pursued me and convinced me that he and his gf broke up so we started to flirt then i saw he listed himself in a relationship with the gf he broke up (so he said). I told him that was it for me and ended it. Well he has popped up again recently wants us to be together like we planned however now he and his gf live together. He wants to spend time with me not just for sex, but going to the movies, dinner and being together.. i have no intentions of going out with him but would like some info as to WTH he is playing at..he would talk to me for hours about his life, his job and everything, wants a relationship with me..i am not sure if he is a major player or a guy who is not sure who he wants to be with and until he figures it out he will live with her and spend all his spare time with me.. help
curlygirl40 Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Oh I can tell you exactly what he is. He's a cheater. Plain and simple. He's downplaying the situation with the other girl so to maybe increase the odds that you'll sleep with him. He's like a squirrel who will not stop until he gets the nut. Yup, that analogy cracks me up so I'm leaving it there. lol He's fishing to see if you'll bite. And as some wise person here on LS said one day recently (sorry, can't remember exactly who but I won't forget the quote) "The only one who gets hurt in a fishing expedition is the fish". Unless you want to be the other woman, RUN and don't look back. Don't even give him the satisfaction of knowing that you're at all interested. Creep.
JohnnyCage Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 He is living with his gf and he wants to be with you as well "not just for sex but for going to movies and other fun stuff" So what advice are you looking for exactly?
Enchanted Girl Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I think its obvious. Some people just enjoy to be sleeping with and dating more than one person at a time. And he obviously thinks you're a sucker because you figured him all out and STILL you let him go back to you over and over again.
Author honeypear Posted April 14, 2011 Author Posted April 14, 2011 i have not slept with him at all..and i knew about him moving in with the gf. and i have no intentions of being the other woman i am no one's second best..i am curious as to what others think about the situation. and sadly im so tempted to have a convo with his gf about his actions, because my ex cheated on me and it ended our engagement at first i was extremely hurt but in the end very happy not to be living a lie..so i am tempted but i wont because i can bare the thought of hurting her.
Enchanted Girl Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 i have not slept with him at all..and i knew about him moving in with the gf. and i have no intentions of being the other woman i am no one's second best..i am curious as to what others think about the situation. and sadly im so tempted to have a convo with his gf about his actions, because my ex cheated on me and it ended our engagement at first i was extremely hurt but in the end very happy not to be living a lie..so i am tempted but i wont because i can bare the thought of hurting her. He was the one who hurt her, but don't tell the girlfriend because she won't believe you. He'll just say you're lying and something about how you have a crush on him or whatever and she'll hate you and think you're a psychotic bitch. That's usually how those situations turn out because everyone wants to believe that the person they are with is wonderful and faithful to them. Secondly, I wasn't saying you did sleep with him, but he wants to be able to sleep with and date more than one person and since you keep kind of entertaining the thought, he thinks you're a sucker and that he can lie to you over and over again and you'll just forget about his past and all the things he said to you.
DollyGirl12 Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 The next time he bothers you I would tell him that you would like to speak with his gf first to make sure it's ok that the two of you hang out. She probably doesn't have any idea what kind of creep she is living with. Plain and simple, he's a loser!!!!
Nexus One Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Players and wankers are not mutually exlcusive. Seriously though, he intends to cheat, that should tell you enough. Today her, tomorrow you.
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