Found out the real reason for breakup, I feel terrible (for her also)

[ayjt80]

I found out she tested positive for HIV. Im thankful that I didnt sleep with her. But the news hit me even harder than the breakup. All the pieces are coming together. First she told me like 2 weeks before the breakup she needed to make a will because she didnt have one and wanted to leave me something in it. After the breakup she would get extremely emotional when ever she seen me, She would just start crying and run away. Her closest friend told me out of the blue that you have to be very carefull who you date bacause of STD's and than this news. I appreciate that she was looking out my my safety and I love her even more for that. I feel horrible that she is ill. i understand that no relationship can come out of this and that makes me feel terrible but I would definatly be her friend despite what everyone on this board says.

[Exit]

Oh wow that is rough, and not to have a selfish attitude about it, but thank god you dodged a bullet here! It's great that you'd be willing to be friends, but I would let it come from her, see if she still wants someone to talk to or if it's too painful for her to see you if she wanted this to be more but now she obviously can't.

[lma]

This is painful to be in your situation. I would try to support her as much as I can. You are a good person, take care of her whether she want or not. I know you cant get anything out of it, but you will realize that this is the right thing to do. I wish her good health...

[bonine]

That is a really difficult situation..I really feel for you both..it is tragic because it really is out of both your hands...but on the positive many with HIV can live rich and healthy lives, I understand the shock for her and you must be immense, but you should be there for her if you can handle it. I wish you and her great luck!

[ilovedhim]

wow thanks for posting this. its a good reminder for all of us to use protection.

 

I would definitely continue to be her friend and support her. she sounds like gold to me for wanting to protect you. my prayers are with her.

[Fufu]

Sigh, this is truly a painful situation.

 

You are a good guy, try supporting her as much as you can.

[smudge21]

HIV is no longer seen as a death sentence like it was years ago. It's now classed as a disease, a disease that many people live with for well past 30 years with the right care. This is what my doctor told me when I had concerns a few years back (I tested negative).

 

Clearly her world is falling apart and she needs support and friendship more than anything. Quite frankly, in these situations, no matter how a relationship ended I would make sure my ex knew I was there for her.