devil moth Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Sometimes they can be a good thing, if the couple TRUSTS each other with another person, but I think when a couple is new and they barely know if they like each other, it's just a reason not to really give the relationship a chance. and unless the two people who are in the relationship have good communication, it can lead to a lot of fights about cheating.. Open relationships--good idea or not?
ASG Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I've had open relationships... they were called friends with benefits! I honestly don't believe an open relationship can work. Not when there's feelings involved.
Professor X Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 if the couple TRUSTS each other with another person Excuse me, but with what exactly do you trust the other person when he/she goes to have sex with someone else? - This is the essence of open relationship, isn't it? To be able to see other people.
Memphis Raines Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Sometimes they can be a good thing, if the couple TRUSTS each other with another person ??? huh? trust them to what? not have sex with the other person? unless the two people who are in the relationship have good communication, it can lead to a lot of fights about cheating.. Open relationships--good idea or not? gotta LMAO at the underlined part. good idea? sure if both agree and can handle it when the other screws someone else. IMO, when people open up the relationship, they have lost their right to get pissed about "cheating". whenever I hear people in open relationships complain I just wanna say, "Oh shut up"
Memphis Raines Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I've had open relationships... they were called friends with benefits! FWB are not open relationships, they are people you have no bond/relationship with in a bf/gf, husband/wife sense. they are just people you screw.
ASG Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 FWB are not open relationships, they are people you have no bond/relationship with in a bf/gf, husband/wife sense. they are just people you screw. That was my point. I don't believe open relationships can actually work. If there's feelings involved, seeing (or knowing) your SO is out sleeping with someone else will soon make a dent in your relationship and things will go sour.
stace79 Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 That was my point. I don't believe open relationships can actually work. If there's feelings involved, seeing (or knowing) your SO is out sleeping with someone else will soon make a dent in your relationship and things will go sour. Agreed. If you're okay with your bf sleeping with another woman, then I don't buy that you really care about or love the person. Real love doesn't allow room for another.
Kelemort Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 In Western culture, open relationships likely are not going to be successful. In other cultures? Women were thrilled when a husband took another wife. In one of the books I read - "Romantic Jealousy: Causes, Symptoms, Cures," the writer pointed out that in one culture, women lost their virginity to men other than their husbands prior to marriage and this was not an issue. In Western culture, that's often the stuff of fights - even if it happened long before a couple knew each other. Many of us are reared in a monogamous mindset. I've entertained the thought of opening up my relationship with my boyfriend so I could get more experience, as he's only my second boyfriend. But I'm sure that nothing would induce monogamous commitment faster than hearing him pleasure another woman - or just imagining the thought. I could never do an open relationship...unless it was sex and we were both present. A threesome wouldn't really bother me. Open relationships require constant communication and reassurance - your mind must always be on the relationship to make it work and to avoid partners leaving/falling in love with others. And that's a degree of work that most aren't willing to commit to.
stace79 Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 Oh please. Open relationships are just a way to screw around and be slutty, but feel like you're not doing anything wrong. If you want to sleep around, just be single and then accept yourself for what you really are!
Skump Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Yeah, I subscribe to the view that anyone interested in an open relationship really just doesn't give that much of a sh*t about their relationship, anyway. Besides, who would settle for such treatment? If the best you can do is some skankass dude/tte daft enough to try and pass puerile hedonism as a mature lifestyle choice, I seriously feel for you.
Chi townD Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Open relationship rarely EVER work. Even with people that have been married for years and fully trust each other. These couples usually set boundaries that they don't cross. But sometimes they do cross the line and blame it on the heat of the moment. It causes a chain reaction of resentment and mistrust, and that fully committed and trusting relationship is gone for good.
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