Keke1 Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 This guy is just winding you all up, he's asking you what her feelings are, I think she made it pretty clear when she dumped his ass as soon as hubby came calling. Go out and meet somebody instead of hunting for vulnerable woman on the internet, if you were such a knight in shining armor you'd be happy she's trying to work on her marriage...unless of course your reasons for "helping" her were entirely self centered and delusional and now you can't let go of the elaborate fantasy you constructed in your head which would have had her running off with you whilst leaving her kids and husband. A knight indeed. This is the best advice for this dude before he goes completely psycho. He absolutely needs to leave this lady alone. He will only hurt himself from here on out. & like Darren said he was/is NO Knight at all.
Memphis Raines Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Hey skeet---you better wake up---you want her---she has kids----and if she were to cheat, I guarantee you because you wrecked the life of those kids do you really think guys like this, who are trying to wet their willy, give one squirt about kids?
Memphis Raines Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 OK...assuming youre a man....a beautiful lady comes on to you...hurting from a bad marriage....flirts with you, probably wants to have you ( but you dont know that)...youre telling me, youre not even gonna think about it, at least? i might be flattered, but it won't go anywhere. but glad you asked this question. I had this happen to me, and the absolute gall the woman had surprised me more than anything. We live in a rather smaller city where almost everyone knows everyone somehow. This was about 10 years ago when I was younger and single. I was at a bar with a few friends watching a game on a Friday after work. There happened to also be a birthday bash in the other room, where the bar is. So here I am going up to the bar to get myself another brew, and the wife of this other guy in town, who lost an arm recently in an accident, came up to me and flat out said, "hey, if you are looking to get out of here, so am I". Now I knew what she meant as I knew she had cheated on him before. And believe me, she was very attractive. But married with young kids. I told her, "I don't know whats worse, losing an arm, or having a cheating scumbag for a wife", I also told her to have some respect for the man that provides a good life for them, especially after losing an arm providing that life. So while I would be flattered, no way am I going to bed down someone elses wife. kids or no kids. and the fact that you would want a woman that cheats is pretty damn pathetic.
emjbee Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 its hard to feel like that.. and sometimes you really dont what to say.. ....maybe your not for her... it makes me smile while reading this.. i like the way on how your express your self to her even though that she' s married woman.. but in the end... you' ll be the loser if you still l continue this feelings for her.. just let her go in your mind.
Kezu Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 (edited) I think what i'm seeing here is either: You had your chances but you made a mistake and she probably lost interest. She never had any interest and she was just toying with you as an ego boost because she noticed you were interested in her. She may regain interest if she had it, but the way to do it would be to not be clingy and try to make her chase you. Find a way to get away from her sight but not completly, don't give her attention but don't make her forget you exist. Maybe delete her on facebook if she sees you alot at work but then again she might take it the wrong way, or maybe keep her but don't speak to her, kind of like to make her miss you, if she had any attraction to you before it might come back. I don't know if you get my idea, but that might work. Not by these exact methods maybe, I don't know the girl after all, but you know, go in that way etc.. edit: sorry for thread necro, I didn't check out the post times. Edited May 26, 2011 by Kezu
seibert253 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 1. She is married so no matter what anyone else says, you were wrong to engage in this with a M'd woman. 2. She didn't lose interest, she got busted. That's why she fell off the face of the earth. 3. When faced with the reality of her "bad" marriage imploading, she chose to toss you aside in order to save her M. So much for her being unhappy in her M. Dude, deep down you knew it would end up this way. Now you know if you mess with a married W, you end up losing. Keep praying her H doesn't come and pay you a visit.
OldOnTheInside Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 The question is this: Why do you want to pursue her? You've said she has a cr*ppy home life. So what? That's her business, not yours. Odds are you are just her side dish, her escapist fantasy man. She hasn't dealt with her personal problems in a constructive way and she is just using you as her psychological support. If you are content with that...well, good luck. Sounds like you both have your own personal issues. Do you think so? Better to work them out alone than cling to somebody else and leave them unsolved. IMO it is not so much the moral issue of getting involved with a married woman (though that plays a part), it is more about not placing yourself or others in a situation with a high likelyhood of negative emotional fallout for temporary and selfish reasons. Why would you want that? I'd be curious to know if the OP is ever going to come back and reply. Suppose it is unlikely.
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