soundboy96 Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 (edited) I just came across a shocking discovery with my girlfriend. Its ironic because just last week I asked her when her and her ex-husband divorced. She said 8 years ago. I know for surely they have been separated because shes had a few ex-boyfriends in the past few years. I felt something weird going on with her...and I know this is very invasive...but I searched her name on the public records in her state. It shows that her husband filed for divorce on April 1st of this year and it was settled on April 8th. Would you be pissed if you were me? Is it normal to file divorce many years after separation? Should I say something? If I do surely she will freak out and this relationship may end. Also.... Can a divorce really be filed that fast? It does list their children and says this for the case: Divorce - Complaint Subtype: Complaint Subject Minor(s) 04/01/2011 Joint Petition for Summary Decree of Divorce Joint Petition for Summary Decree of Divorce 04/04/2011 Request for Summary Disposition Request for Summary Disposition 04/04/2011 Initial Appearance Fee Disclosure Initial Appearance Fee Disclosure 04/04/2011 Affidavit of Resident Witness Affidavit of Resident Witness 04/04/2011 Notice of Seminar Completion EDCR 5.07 Notice of Seminar Completion 04/04/2011 Notice of Seminar Completion EDCR 5.07 Notice of Seminar Completion 04/04/2011 Acknowledgment Acknowledgment of Self Representation 04/04/2011 Afft Support of Req for Summary Dispo for Decree of Divorce Affidavit in Support of Request for Summary Disposition for Decree of Divorce 04/07/2011 Decree of Divorce Decree of Divorce 04/08/2011 Notice of Entry of Decree Notice of Entry of Decree 04/08/2011 Notice of Withdrawal of Counsel of Record Is this just an addiction or attachment to a prior divorce do you think? THANKS! Edited April 14, 2011 by soundboy96
cmh2002 Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 depending on where you live a divorce can be that fast or even faster. When I was married to my ex husband we filed the papers in the morning and by that evening we were officially divorced.
willowthewisp Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I can't advice you on the divorce info you posted as I am in the UK and know nothing about divorce law in the US. What I would say though is that it is very worrying that she would blatently lie to your face about when she got divorced. For me that would be a huge red flag. You could ask her why she lied, but the chances are she will lie about that too. If there is one thing I have learnt from having a relationship with a liar for 20 years, it is that people who lie have no moral compass, no ability to realte emotionally to others and no integrity. A relationship without honesty is a relationship without intimacy and without that there is no real relationship. If I were you, I would seriously be reconsidering this relationship, do you really want to be with someone who has so little respect for you? This is just my opinion, and it is coloured by the fact that I was a liar for 20 years, total waste of my life.
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