jemmashemma Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Ok so things were going great with a guy I was seeing, he was very romantic and he wanted a future with me etc at first I was reserved as I knew he had always been a bit of a player, but he assured me otherwise and he was living up to it, introducing me to family etc... then he suddenly got cold feet and said i deserve better and he wants all the future stuff but right now at this time he doesn’t know where his heads at and then just stopped contacting me altogether unless I initiated the contact and I acted all buddy buddy like an idiot. 3 weeks passed with no contact whatsoever and then I text him just saying “hey stranger how are ya?” he replied and was very interested in where I was, who I was with, if I’ve been seeing anyone, if i’ve slept with anyone and when I didn’t give him straight forward answers he’d asked repeatedly. He also freely offered up information that he has been chatting to a girl but she wanted to know what he was doing every second so he is no longer chatting to her. Then he asked if he could take me for dinner when im back in town. Then there was lots of flirty messages and he made it clear he wanted to hook up again like FWB, and i went along with it all (like an idiot) saying yeah me too, lets meet up when im back. This messed with my head hugely. Last night drunk, I called him. I told him I was drunk, but that it has given me the courage to say I don’t just like him as a friend, I want more than that and all these messages are messing with my feelings and stuff. He said he totally knows where im coming from and he is sorry he hurt me, that he wants me as a friend, he likes me, but he doesn’t want to hurt me and said he’ll leave it up to me to decide if we stay in touch, and then said he’ll call me tomorrow (today) when im sober... Should I answer if he does call? This is tough because I fell for him pretty hard, and im feelin very lost right now.
Eddie Edirol Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Nope, do not answer. Sounds like he used you as an interim gf until he dated someone he liked better. So to answer your question, he is rejecting you, not relationships.
ihatedrama Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I think you should let go of this guy starts from not answering his phone calls anymore. He knows you want him more than just a friend or FWB. Instead he still mentioned he wants to hook up with you again. He surely knows what he wants with you. If you allow him or yourself to keep messing around, you will end up making yourself even hurt more. So back off now and let it go.
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