rhonian Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 what should I do with them? Keep or delete? She is stunningly beautiful and I love the pics but wonder if it is "right" to hold onto them. We cut ties immediately during a fight and havent spoken since. So, I dont know how she feels about me having them but she willingly let me take them with a smile on her face.
highviolet Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I don't know how your ex would feel about it, what do you think she would want you to do? I will tell you for me personally, I only let one person take pics of me, mostly because I knew the type of guy he was in that he wouldn't do something malicious with them in case of a break up. I personally don't get bothered that he has them, if he still does, as long as he's not showing other people or anything. I don't care if he looks at them. I wouldn't care if he deleted them either. I think some women may be bothered by you keeping them, so it might be better to err on the side of caution and delete. At the very least, please don't go showing people or post them publicly out of spite or something! That would be very immature and a complete betrayal of her trust. HTH!
TheLoneSock Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Keep them, as long as they don't start tugging at your emotional strings instead of something else *cough cough*. Otherwise, you have no reason to get rid of them. Obviously you don't share them with anyone else.
joshextreme Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Keep them, as long as they don't start tugging at your emotional strings instead of something else *cough cough*. Otherwise, you have no reason to get rid of them. Obviously you don't share them with anyone else. LOL your name is the "TheLoneSock" and you told this guy to keep nudes of his gf. am i the only one who picked this up? haha all seriousness now, i think you should get rid of them. you're better off removing every aspect of her out of your life. if you need to see someone naked you got the world wide web at your disposal.
TheLoneSock Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 LOL your name is the "TheLoneSock" and you told this guy to keep nudes of his gf. am i the only one who picked this up? haha I'm not making the connection. I wanted to laugh but nothing came out. Do you have some perverse thought process about socks?
Author rhonian Posted April 14, 2011 Author Posted April 14, 2011 Yeah, but I havent been intimate with them!
Exit Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Don't make this decision now. Keep them, but put them somewhere out of sight until you are done healing. Some day you might just wanna look at them again when it won't really cause you pain and if you trashed them in a moment of thinking it was really what you wanted, you'll regret it.
TheLoneSock Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Yeah, but I havent been intimate with them! And you don't need to be. You don't have to do anything with them. Keep them for now for when you want to take a look but get rid of them if they start f*cking with you, or when you're just plain ready to burn them.
smudge21 Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 My ex is a model so the temptation to look at some of her work online is always strong, but I know it just makes me feel like crap afterwards. I did have some personal shots of her and I had to delete them as the temptation to look was always too strong (and unlike her professional pictures, these were personal to us - so they meant more). It all depends on how you feel about her now. If you're still in an emotional state over her, then I would say delete now as it's never going to help with the healing. But if you're over her and don't burst into tears after looking at them, then keep them. I do however know that most women would not like to think their ex's keep hold of naked pictures of them. Even my modelling ex mentioned above, I know she would hate that.
zakfar Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Send them back to her. If you keep it, you won't be able to forget her (which is what is most important right now, as you are split). If you destroy it, then there would not be any way to recover them (who knows if you get back together some day.) Btw, if those are computer pics, and she has them, then remove them. It's the best thing for you.
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