Ex contacted me after months of nc. Dont know whether I should respond.

[Chance_taker]

Together 3 years and she left for no apparent reason back in september and I was completely blindsided. Went nc and eventually she started contacting me again and we ended up spending time together again until she vanished again with someone else. I thought that was the last time I would see or hear from her again so I moved on with my life. I have been casually seeing someone but nothing serious. I still love this girl but Im not wanting to be her fallback and I've reached the point where Id like to see her but I dont have to anymore. My dilema is I enlisted in the army and I ship out in 25 days and she knows this and my time is very limited. Why is she all of a sudden getting in contact out of the blue? Here are the 2 texts I received btw.

 

1)"Hey how are you doing? So my situation changed recently for different reasons and I wanted to let you know that if you ever want to hangout there would not be anyone else in the background"

 

2)"I'd love to hangout again before you leave because Im really going to miss you"

 

Please help me figure this girl out. Thanks

[Lil1]

Chance Taker, don't take another chance with her... she is feeding you bread crumbs and most likely is feeling guilty about the way she has treated you and is now looking to make herself feel better. Things will just get more confusing for you if you see her before you leave - and you probably want a clear head for when you are doing your thing in the army. Just stay NC and go on with your own life. If you and her are really meant to be then life will find a way. I think you're absolutely awesome for enlisting (thank you for the sacrifice you make for the rest of us!). Good luck to you and please be careful!

[lcfc1993]

Ignore her mate, leave her be.

 

Goodluck in the army, hope all goes well, your making us all proud (coming from a English lad)

[smudge21]

I agree, ignore her. She knows you're leaving soon and may just want to make herself feel good by knowing you're still talking to her. Don't do it. Say you reply, then she never does again - how would you feel? You don't need that in your life at any time, let alone with what you're about to take on.

 

If she really is wanting you back, then she'll be there when you return.

 

Now go on, go be a hero.

[zakfar]

You want to figure out this girl? Are you sure? Or you want to hear something good like... don't worry mate... she would be back soon?

 

You know yourself what's happening. You know yourself what she has done, and is currently doing. Don't lie to yourself. Accept the reality. Make up your mind, and avoid thinking about 'Good times' with her. Whenever you get some good memories of hers... think about the 'Bad situations' and 'Fights' with her. Then... and only then... you can 'Reject' her next time she pops on your door. If you get back to her one more time, you know yourself that she would leave you some other day. You need to be serious, and she should be as well. Both of you are playing with your lives.

 

I hope it helps.

 

Zakfar.

[nana841121]

Yes, pal.

 

Life in Army will make you become a better man.