The Player Game Book Revealed!! You will be surprised!

[sumdude]

These examples are too extreme, but some make sense.

 

I. Never say ‘I Love You’ first

 

Women want to feel like they have to overcome obstacles to win a man’s heart. They crave the challenge of capturing the interest of a man who has other women competing for his attention, and eventually prevailing over his grudging reluctance to award his committed exclusivity. The man who gives his emotional world away too easily robs women of the satisfaction of earning his love. Though you may be in love with her, don’t say it before she has said it. Show compassionate restraint for her need to struggle toward yin fulfillment. Inspire her to take the leap for you, and she’ll return the favor a thousandfold.

 

Never thought of this as a rule, but generally it's the way it works out. Let's face it women in a way are expected to be more emotional. Example, cute bartender the other night says "My boyfriend said I love you. I was like whoa that's too much. It kinda turned me off."

 

II. Make her jealous

 

Flirt with other women in front of her. Do not dissuade other women from flirting with you. Women will never admit this but jealousy excites them. The thought of you turning on another woman will arouse her sexually. No girl wants a man that no other woman wants. The partner who harnesses the gale storm of jealousy controls the direction of the relationship.

 

If you go out of your way to do this you;re an a$$hat. If it happens by coincidence and women are flirting with you it does prove to your girl that you are desirable to others and she should stay on her toes (as should you)

 

III. You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority

 

Forget all those romantic cliches of the leading man proclaiming his undying love for the woman who completes him. Despite whatever protestations to the contrary, women do not want to be “The One” or the center of a man’s existence. They in fact want to subordinate themselves to a worthy man’s life purpose, to help him achieve that purpose with their feminine support, and to follow the path he lays out. You must respect a woman’s integrity and not lie to her that she is “your everything”. She is not your everything, and if she is, she will soon not be anymore.

 

Don't like the way this is approached. Early in a relationship you're watching to see if she's worth a commitment and that's one thing. True, your world cannot revolve around her or be ruled by her. However once a commitment is made she should be the most important person in your life besides yourself.

 

IV. Don’t play by her rules

 

If you allow a woman to make the rules she will resent you with a seething contempt even a rapist cannot inspire. The strongest woman and the most strident feminist wants to be led by, and to submit to, a more powerful man. Polarity is the core of a healthy loving relationship. She does not want the prerogative to walk all over you with her capricious demands and mercurial moods. Her emotions are a hurricane, her soul a saboteur. Think of yourself as a bulwark against her tempest. When she grasps for a pillar to steady herself against the whipping winds or yearns for an authority figure to foil her worst instincts, it is you who has to be there… strong, solid, unshakeable and immovable.

 

Well, just don't be a doormat.

 

 

V. Adhere to the golden ratio

 

Give your woman 2/3 of everything she gives you. For every three calls or texts, give her two back. Three declarations of love earn two in return. Three gifts; two nights out. Give her two displays of affection and stop until she has answered with three more. When she speaks, you reply with fewer words. When she emotes, you emote less. The idea behind the golden ratio is twofold — it establishes your greater value by making her chase you, and it demonstrates that you have the self-restraint to avoid getting swept up in her personal dramas. Refraining from reciprocating everything she does for you in equal measure instills in her the proper attitude of belief in your higher status. In her deepest loins it is what she truly wants.

 

Eh, in a good relationship this is bull####!

 

VI. Keep her guessing

 

True to their inscrutable natures, women ask questions they don’t really want direct answers to. Woe be the man who plays it straight — his fate is the suffering of the beta. Evade, tease, obfuscate. She thrives when she has to imagine what you’re thinking about her, and withers when she knows exactly how you feel. A woman may want financial and family security, but she does not want passion security. In the same manner, when she has displeased you, punish swiftly, but when she has done you right, reward slowly. Reward her good behavior intermittently and unpredictably and she will never tire of working hard to please you.

 

This only applies to those trick questions that people ask. You know, the ones they don't really want the answer to but ask to see how you react to the question. In which case, this is good advice. As far as the punish and reward stuff. I want a partner, not a pet.

 

VII. Always keep two in the kitty

 

Never allow yourself to be a “kept man”. A man with options is a man without need. It builds confidence and encourages boldness with women if there is another woman, a safety net, to catch you in case you slip and risk a breakup, divorce, or a lost prospect, leading to loneliness and a grinding dry spell. A woman knows once she has slept with a man she has abdicated a measure of her power; when she has fallen in love with him she has surrendered nearly all of it. But love is ephemeral and with time she may rediscover her power and threaten to leave you. It is her final trump card. Withdrawing all her love and all her body in an instant will rend your soul if you are faced with contemplating the empty abyss alone. Knowing there is another you can turn to for affection will fortify your will and satisfy your manhood.

 

My perspective on this is skewed. Because I was totally committed to a woman and rejected any advances or thoughts of others.. only to find out that she had others and left me for one. So, yeah might be good to at least know there's some kind of plan B out there.

 

 

VIII. Say you’re sorry only when absolutely necessary

 

Do not say you’re sorry for every wrong thing you do. It is a posture of submission that no man should reflexively adopt, no matter how alpha he is. Apologizing increases the demand for more apologies. She will come to expect your contrition, like a cat expects its meal at a set time each day. And then your value will lower in her eyes. Instead, if you have done something wrong, you should acknowledge your guilt in a glancing way without resorting to the actual words “I’m sorry.” Pull the Bill Clinton maneuver and say “Mistakes were made” or tell her you “feel bad” about what you did. You are granted two freebie “I’m sorry”s for the life of your relationship; use them wisely.

 

Well you don't want to be walking around saying I'm sorry all the time. But when you really do eff up, be a man and admit it.

 

IX. Connect with her emotions

 

Set yourself apart from other men and connect with a woman’s emotional landscape. Her mind is an alien world that requires deft navigation to reach your rendevous. Frolic in the surf of emotions rather than the arid desert of logic. Be playful. Employ all your senses. Describe in lush detail scenarios to set her heart afire. Give your feelings freedom to roam. ROAM. Yes, that is a good word. You’re not on a linear path with her. You are ROAMING all over, taking her on an adventure. In this world, there is no need to finish thoughts or draw conclusions. There is only need to EXPERIENCE. You’re grabbing her hand and running with her down an infinite, labyrinthine alleyway with no end, laughing and letting your fingers glide on the cobblestone walls along the way.

 

Well, of course.

 

X. Ignore her beauty

 

The man who trains his mind to subdue the reward centers of his brain when reflecting upon a beautiful female face will magically transform his interactions with women. His apprehension and self-consciousness will melt away, paving the path for more honest and self-possessed interactions with the objects of his desire. This is one reason why the greatest lotharios drown in more love than they can handle — through positive experiences with so many beautiful women they lose their awe of beauty and, in turn, their powerlessness under its spell. It will help you acquire the right frame of mind to stop using the words hot, cute, gorgeous, or beautiful to describe girls who turn you on. Instead, say to yourself “she’s interesting” or “she might be worth getting to know”. Never compliment a girl on her looks, especially not a girl you aren’t ****ing. Turn off that part of your brain that wants to put them on pedestals. Further advanced training to reach this state of unawed Zen transcendence is to sleep with many MANY attractive women (try to avoid sleeping with a lot of ugly women if you don’t want to regress). Soon, a Jedi lover you will be.

 

C'mon, if she looks good let her know. Just don't be a sycophant.

 

XI. Be irrationally self-confident

 

No matter what your station in life, stride through the world without apology or excuse. It does not matter if objectively you are not the best man a woman can get; what matters is that you think and act like you are. Women have a dog’s instinct for uncovering weakness in men; don’t make it easy for them. Self-confidence, warranted or not, triggers submissive emotional responses in women. Irrational self-confidence will get you more pussy than rational defeatism.

 

Don't take this too far, you'll look like a buffoon.

 

XII. Maximize your strengths, minimize your weaknesses

 

In the betterment of ourselves as men we attract women into our orbit. To accomplish this gravitational pull as painlessly and efficiently as possible, you must identify your natural talents and shortcomings and parcel your efforts accordingly. If you are a gifted jokester, don’t waste time and energy trying to raise your status in philosophical debate. If you write well but dance poorly, don’t kill yourself trying to expand your manly influence on the dancefloor. Your goal should be to attract women effortlessly, so play to your strengths no matter what they are; there is a groupie for every male endeavor. Except World of Warcraft.

 

Yes.

 

XIII. Err on the side of too much boldness, rather than too little

 

Touching a woman inappropriately on the first date will get you further with her than not touching her at all. Don’t let a woman’s faux indignation at your boldness sway you; they secretly love it when a man aggressively pursues what he wants and makes his sexual intentions known. You don’t have to be an *******, but if you have no choice, being an inconsiderate ******* beats being a polite beta, every time.

 

Fortune favors the bold. Later in life you're more likely to regret the things you didn't do than what you did.

 

XIV. **** her good

 

**** her like it’s your last ****. And hers. **** her so good, so hard, so wantonly, so profligately that she is left a quivering, sparking mass of shaking flesh and sex fluids. Drain her of everything, then drain her some more. Kiss her all over, make love to her all night, and hold her close in the morning. Own her body, own her gratitude, own her love. If you don’t know how, learn to give her squirting orgasms.

 

Con mucho gusto!

 

XV. Maintain your state control

 

You are an oak tree. You will not be manipulated by crying, yelling, lying, head games, sexual withdrawal, jealousy ploys, pity plays, **** tests, hot/cold/hot/cold, disappearing acts, or guilt trips. She will rain and thunder all around you and you will shelter her until her storm passes. She will not drag you into her chaos or uproot you. When you have mastery over yourself, you will have mastery over her.

 

Don't lose your head.

 

 

XVI. Never be afraid to lose her

 

You must not fear. Fear is the love-killer. Fear is the ego-triumph that brings abject loneliness. You will face your fear. You will permit it to pass over and through you. And when your ego-fear is gone you will turn and face your lover, and only your heart will remain. You will walk away from her when she has violated your integrity, and you will let her walk when her heart is closed to you. She who can destroy you, controls you. Don’t give her that power over yourself. Love yourself before you love her.

 

Yes, and always be prepared to walk if necessary.

Edited April 14, 2011 by sumdude

[somedude81]

Would you want the type of woman that would allow herself to be controlled? If not, hold out. I have to say, no one is happy broken. If you care about your partner as a person, you will want them to enjoy life in their own way. I believe that partners's courses should naturally flow together. If it doesn't work or feel right, it won't and it isn't.

That sounds a hell of a lot better than no woman.

 

All I know is that what I'm doing now, doesn't work.

You don't usually come across as much of a nice guy. You're a self-pitier, but not really nice. I'm willing to bet that in real life you come across as too neutral and innocuous as well.

That's a big part of being a nice guy. I don't really stand out and am pretty forgettable.

 

As for whether I'm nice or not, that depends on what your definition if nice is. I'm certainly not rude or abrasive.

 

The self-pity thing is done only when I'm alone. Posting about it online counts as when I'm alone. I don't express it around real people.

This. And he also expects women, far above his looks, to be interested in him, despite having women interested in him. If only he could understand that one has what can be had, not what one desires, he'd be much happier.

Such a tired argument that never goes away.

 

And what exactly are the women that are not far above my looks? Who is in my league?

[Imajerk17]

I think this list is, for the most part, spot on.

 

If you touch a woman "inappropriately" on a first date, you need to pull back from that quickly. By the time she's objecting, your hand is gone. Don't linger. I think it's overall very good advice but can backfire if overdone or done clumsily.

[Imajerk17]

As much as I hate to admit it, some of these are spot on.

 

2 - Yep. No one wants to be with someone that no one wants. For fun, we go to strip clubs because I *LOVE* watching another women try to turn him on and watch him get turned on by her. It's exciting and so erotic. This may not be exactly what you are talking about, but I get the principle behind it.

 

4 - Yep. I want to be with a MAN, strong and powerful. He should keep his path, not bend to mine. Though, I disagree that a women doesn't want to be the "one." It's good to know that he wants you to walk his path with him.

 

6 - absolutely. I do this, too.

 

8 - Yep. I hate it when he apologizes for things that upset me, but he shouldn't necessarily say he is sorry for. Most of the time, the problem is coming from my own insecurities rather than his mistake. Saying your sorry when it isn't necessary is like forking over your right to do what you want. Not sexy.

 

9 - of course.

 

11 - This applies to women to, too. Confidence is an aphrodisiac.

 

14 - OH YES! This is essential. I do worry that if my current boyfriend leaves, I will never find someone that makes me shakes and scream the way he does. It makes me humble, honestly. Dang it.

 

The rest, I think are absurd, but the majority seem to make since to me.

 

 

Good to see a woman who gets it for the most part. Out of curiosity, how did you meet your current bf?

[Gala]

Great comments by a few folks -- includingMuseMaj11, and threebyfate. As some here have noted, if you're serious about someone you've snared through these means, eventually you have to have the relationship. There may be people who are OK with an inauthentic situation, but I am not one of them. Moments of distance/alienation? Unavoidable. But inherently inauthentic? NFW.

Edited April 14, 2011 by Gala
Grammar/wording

[9Lives]

As much as I hate to admit it, some of these are spot on.

 

2 - Yep. No one wants to be with someone that no one wants. For fun, we go to strip clubs because I *LOVE* watching another women try to turn him on and watch him get turned on by her. It's exciting and so erotic. This may not be exactly what you are talking about, but I get the principle behind it.

 

I canT believe you are on board with #2. I understand a part of it but I dont see why you need another woman to want him to make it more exiting. Grey line here in my opinion.

 

4 - Yep. I want to be with a MAN, strong and powerful. He should keep his path, not bend to mine. Though, I disagree that a women doesn't want to be the "one." It's good to know that he wants you to walk his path with him.

 

Again, his mindset is here I dont think is describe as trying to blend with you but keeping power by not blending with you. Its not cool. Keep a balance with me would be appreciated instead.

 

6 - absolutely. I do this, too.

 

8 - Yep. I hate it when he apologizes for things that upset me, but he shouldn't necessarily say he is sorry for. Most of the time, the problem is coming from my own insecurities rather than his mistake. Saying your sorry when it isn't necessary is like forking over your right to do what you want. Not sexy.

 

9 - of course.

 

11 - This applies to women to, too. Confidence is an aphrodisiac.

 

14 - OH YES! This is essential. I do worry that if my current boyfriend leaves, I will never find someone that makes me shakes and scream the way he does. It makes me humble, honestly. Dang it.

 

IT IS NEVER GOOD TO BE THIS WEAK. I have been there and it gives the man incredible power..INCREDIBLE!!!

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The rest, I think are absurd, but the majority seem to make since to me.

 

Anyway, if you like it...then fine. Good luck with bullsht! I dont want my man to be THINKING like this. Doesnt seem very healthy. Not looking for mr nice guy but damm. Do you!

Edited April 14, 2011 by 9Lives

[Untouchable_Fire]

Nothing that surprises me from that list. It actually combines some decent ideas with some worthless ones.

[9Lives]

Nothing that surprises me from that list. It actually combines some decent ideas with some worthless ones.

 

Well good! As long as you KNOW the differnce between a cockroach and a real man. Sometimes u just get played and don't understand but if u can see what's happening, u are better at dealing with it. I have been thru the stuff on. The list and I didnr like it one bit. Its all good tho. I see the light now.

[AzaleaBelle]

As much as I hate to admit it, some of these are spot on.

 

2 - Yep. No one wants to be with someone that no one wants. For fun, we go to strip clubs because I *LOVE* watching another women try to turn him on and watch him get turned on by her. It's exciting and so erotic. This may not be exactly what you are talking about, but I get the principle behind it.

 

I canT believe you are on board with #2. I understand a part of it but I dont see why you need another woman to want him to make it more exiting. Grey line here in my opinion.

 

4 - Yep. I want to be with a MAN, strong and powerful. He should keep his path, not bend to mine. Though, I disagree that a women doesn't want to be the "one." It's good to know that he wants you to walk his path with him.

 

Again, his mindset is here I dont think is describe as trying to blend with you but keeping power by not blending with you. Its not cool. Keep a balance with me would be appreciated instead.

 

6 - absolutely. I do this, too.

 

8 - Yep. I hate it when he apologizes for things that upset me, but he shouldn't necessarily say he is sorry for. Most of the time, the problem is coming from my own insecurities rather than his mistake. Saying your sorry when it isn't necessary is like forking over your right to do what you want. Not sexy.

 

9 - of course.

 

11 - This applies to women to, too. Confidence is an aphrodisiac.

 

14 - OH YES! This is essential. I do worry that if my current boyfriend leaves, I will never find someone that makes me shakes and scream the way he does. It makes me humble, honestly. Dang it.

IT IS NEVER GOOD TO BE THIS WEAK. I have been there and it gives the man incredible power..INCREDIBLE!!!

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The rest, I think are absurd, but the majority seem to make since to me.

Anyway, if you like it...then fine. Good luck with bullsht! I dont want my man to be THINKING like this. Doesnt seem very healthy. Not looking for mr nice guy but damm. Do you!

 

I don't NEED another woman to make our relationship or sex exciting. But it's fun to experience this arousal with him. This is just something I am not afraid to recognize about our relationship. It is irrational and naive to think that men stop looking at/being turned on by beautiful women. I wouldn't want him to feel like he had to. I don't want his balls in a jar. Relationships aren't about "this is mine", step off, to me. You are with someone to experience life together. And for a full, complete life I don't think basic instincts should be ignored completely. It is exciting for me to know that he is getting fulfilled in a way that is outside of me. This may sound nuts and I know I am not explaining it correctly. Both of us agree that going outside of our relationship for sex would be going too far.

 

I never said that there shouldn't be a blend. Of course you two should blend, but I want us to be headed in the same direction naturally, without either of us bending for the other one. I just don't want him to drop everything to be with me. I wouldn't. I didn't see this one so much about power but rather ensuring that you two don't resent each other down the line. What if you had to give up your dreams because your partner wasn't headed down the same path or were too weak to stand up for you wanted out of life. That's not healthy, is it?

 

I guess I see the first two as standing up against women who try to control a man's sexual arousal and social life. For example with the first one, women who are of the mind set that "you are now with me and your penis better not get hard for anyone else. You also can't appreciate a beautiful woman anymore. If you do, FEEL MY WRATH." I can appreciate that.

 

These are small things that contribute that my attraction for my lover. Not end-all, be-all rules for relationships. I'm just saying there is SOME truth, for me anyway, on how anyone should conduct themselves in a relationship.

 

I think its unfair to call me unhealthy or weak because I acknowledge a few things that you and other women don't. Relationships aren't about control - in either direction.

 

As for the sex, I'll keep enjoying that as much as I please. I am in awe of what that man can do in the bedroom. I think it comes from and creates deeper love, not power over me.

 

I'm not sure if I got that out right. It is hard to explain.

Edited April 14, 2011 by AzaleaBelle

[Sanman]

I'm at a point of my life where I want a secure relationship in which I can be myself without playing.

 

Games do work, but I don't want to play forever.

 

 

Quoted for truth and wisdom.

 

Reading these rules can tell you that they do work. I find the them to be especially useful on the Sex and the City girls in NYC. It just makes you seem like Mr. Big. If throw in the "I'm a doctor" bit, it usually seals the deal. Much like in fashion, business, or other arenas of life, you are as big of a deal as you make yourself out to be. Act like you are the big swinging d*ck in the room and others will believe it as well.

 

However, after having been in a few healthy relationships with wonderful women (and my share of unhealthy relationships) I prefer to look for a healthy relationship rather than indiscriminately chase a**. It is honestly funny how many of my male friends do not understand this.

[DollyGirl12]

These are the more transparent type of players. Hello/goodbye in my book if I meet one like this. It's the ones that are good at doing things behind your back that you really have to watch out for!

[9Lives]

I don't NEED another woman to make our relationship or sex exciting. But it's fun to experience this arousal with him. This is just something I am not afraid to recognize about our relationship. It is irrational and naive to think that men stop looking at/being turned on by beautiful women. I wouldn't want him to feel like he had to. I don't want his balls in a jar. Relationships aren't about "this is mine", step off, to me. You are with someone to experience life together. And for a full, complete life I don't think basic instincts should be ignored completely. It is exciting for me to know that he is getting fulfilled in a way that is outside of me. This may sound nuts and I know I am not explaining it correctly. Both of us agree that going outside of our relationship for sex would be going too far.

 

I never said that there shouldn't be a blend. Of course you two should blend, but I want us to be headed in the same direction naturally, without either of us bending for the other one. I just don't want him to drop everything to be with me. I wouldn't. I didn't see this one so much about power but rather ensuring that you two don't resent each other down the line. What if you had to give up your dreams because your partner wasn't headed down the same path or were too weak to stand up for you wanted out of life. That's not healthy, is it?

 

I guess I see the first two as standing up against women who try to control a man's sexual arousal and social life. For example with the first one, women who are of the mind set that "you are now with me and your penis better not get hard for anyone else. You also can't appreciate a beautiful woman anymore. If you do, FEEL MY WRATH." I can appreciate that.

 

These are small things that contribute that my attraction for my lover. Not end-all, be-all rules for relationships. I'm just saying there is SOME truth, for me anyway, on how anyone should conduct themselves in a relationship.

 

I think its unfair to call me unhealthy or weak because I acknowledge a few things that you and other women don't. Relationships aren't about control - in either direction.

 

As for the sex, I'll keep enjoying that as much as I please. I am in awe of what that man can do in the bedroom. I think it comes from and creates deeper love, not power over me.

 

I'm not sure if I got that out right. It is hard to explain.

 

Aza going to the strip club with your man is your business.Having lots of sex with your man???? who care!

 

That is NOT was #2 is about what so ever. It is about INTENTIONALLY trying to make your women jealous and make her feel disrespected and a couple of other negative emotions to name a few. It is a ego trip baby. I dont think that is cool.

 

Feeling SECURE about admitting you are afraid of your man IS going to leave you should bother you. again he is at a major advantage over you. If he KNEW this, eventually he will use this to his advantage because you knows you gonna beg him and all that nonsense.

 

Alot of this stuff here is not meant to keep his ego boosted, you in check as a woman, and him getting the overhand over you. It is not good aza. You confused.

[AzaleaBelle]

Aza going to the strip club with your man is your business.Having lots of sex with your man???? who care!

 

That is NOT was #2 is about what so ever. It is about INTENTIONALLY trying to make your women jealous and make her feel disrespected and a couple of other negative emotions to name a few. It is a ego trip baby. I dont think that is cool.

 

Feeling SECURE about admitting you are afraid of your man IS going to leave you should bother you. again he is at a major advantage over you. If he KNEW this, eventually he will use this to his advantage because you knows you gonna beg him and all that nonsense.

 

Alot of this stuff here is not meant to keep his ego boosted, you in check as a woman, and him getting the overhand over you. It is not good aza. You confused.

 

I'm not confused. With the exception of "keep him quessing", which is fun for both partners. None of it is intentional or contrived to control me. I get that some men use it for control and as an ego booster. However, that doesn't mean that some of the principles behind them don't have merit in a healthy relationship, too.

He doesn't flirt with other random women in front of me. He's never hurt me on purpose. He supports me in my ambitions and goals.

 

I would NEVER beg him to stay. Though, he has begged me to stay before.

[9Lives]

I'm not confused. With the exception of "keep him quessing", which is fun for both partners. None of it is intentional or contrived to control me. I get that some men use it for control and as an ego booster. However, that doesn't mean that some of the principles behind them don't have merit in a healthy relationship, too.

He doesn't flirt with other random women in front of me. He's never hurt me on purpose. He supports me in my ambitions and goals.

 

I would NEVER beg him to stay. Though, he has begged me to stay before.

 

Never? Really? I find that hard to believe. You seem very invested and afraid to lose so I dont believe that.

 

Im just going by your original post regarding number 2. If you review it, it is not talking about your man hanging out with you at the club. It is check mate situation.

[AzaleaBelle]

Never? Really? I find that hard to believe. You seem very invested and afraid to lose so I dont believe that.

 

Im just going by your original post regarding number 2. If you review it, it is not talking about your man hanging out with you at the club. It is check mate situation.

 

If he doesn't want to be with my anymore, I'm not going to beg him to stay with me - no matter how much I love him. It doesn't help anything to beg. And I wouldn't say that I'm "afraid" to lose him. I know it could happen and I hope it doesn't, but I don't go around biting my nails over it and fretting about it constantly. Thats not way to live and its certainly no way to go about your relationship.

 

As for the dreaded #2 - I said

2 - Yep. No one wants to be with someone that no one wants. For fun, we go to strip clubs because I *LOVE* watching another women try to turn him on and watch him get turned on by her. It's exciting and so erotic. This may not be exactly what you are talking about, but I get the principle behind it.

 

This isn't a check mate situation, this is me enjoying my boyfriends sexuality. True, this deviated from the original post for #2, but I said I can relate to where its coming from.

 

I do appreciate your comments, 9.

[AshleyFox]

The only type of women that men will meet by using these "rules" will be unhealthy ones. I have respect for myself, I don't want to play cat and mouse.

 

For instance XIII - "Touching a woman inappropriately on the first date will get you further with her than not touching her at all."

 

The only thing a man will get from me if he touches me inappropriately is a smack in the face, along with my drink thrown at him.

 

Id much prefer not to be touched at all. It at least show's that he has respect for women and doesn't want to move too fast or make us uncomfortable.

 

I'd like to say the same but the truth is different. Emotions are the fuel of life, not logic. When a man is turning on the attraction switches (and touching is certainly one of them), you don't have a choice.

 

Whether you like it or not, attraction is not a choice.

 

Ashley