BTLSU Posted April 6, 2004 Posted April 6, 2004 I posted a thread a few weeks ago in the Marriage forum about my wife's past. I just stated that I was having trouble dealing with it after 7 years of marriage. Well, now I've become completely obsessed with it. It is all I think about. I have become greatly depressed by my compulsive thinking. I hardly eat anymore, I can't sleep at night, and I have no energy or willingness to do anything. I saw my doctor last week, and he put me on Zoloft. Now I'm having problems with feeling like I have to be on medication to live. I haven't told my wife what my problem is because I don't want it to cause any problems. I love my wife and I trust her very much, but I can't seem to get these ridiculous thoughts out of my head. Sometimes I feel like I can't take this anymore. I just want it to go away so we can live a normal and happy life. Any responses besides the past is the past would help. Thanks.
amerikajin Posted April 6, 2004 Posted April 6, 2004 What kind of doctor did you see? I think you need to see a mental health professional, and I'm NOT saying this to imply that you're nuts or anything. The best of us can be a bit obsessive sometimes. But in your case it's really interfering with your daily life and you need to find someone who's going to help you. Take time to look around and find a good therapist. Don't just go for the cheapest Joe or the one with the biggest advertisement in the Yellow Pages. Good luck.
DebraLee Posted April 6, 2004 Posted April 6, 2004 It would probably be helpful for you to speak with someone regularly for awhile to get this resolved in your own mind. Keep communication with your wife and take some time out to do things just the two of you to help solidify the marriage and help you gain some more added trust. That would be my suggestions.
Author BTLSU Posted April 6, 2004 Author Posted April 6, 2004 I'm just seeing a therapist at the moment. I saw my family doctor and he prescribed the medication. I don't need to gain trust. I trust her and our relationship. I just can't seem to get the past out of my mind. The thing is, I recognize that this behavior is damaging, and that it means absolutely nothing to my present and future, but it still won't go away. I know that this is my problem, not ours, that's why I'm not going to bring it up to her. That would just bring up things that mean nothing to her, and cause problems in our relationship.
Thinkalot Posted April 7, 2004 Posted April 7, 2004 A few of us here have similar problems to you, or have overcome them. Have you read posts of mine in this section about obsessing and overcoming the thoughts. There is tons of advice, and people have shared their stories too. It might help you. Good luck.
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