ShoeGurl1973 Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 My bf and I have been together 3 1/2 years. LIved together for 2 1/2. We had been talking about marriage and engagement rings for awhile and had a discussion about it a couple weeks ago. 48 hours later, we got into a random argument and he said he wanted to move out. I have no idea how things took a turn for the worst in such a short amount of time. He had just told me I was the best gf ever and how lucky he was to have me and now he simply walked away. He said some horribly hurtful things to me on his way out, although he was drunk, but I don't think that's an excuse - I have no idea who that person was. It makes absolutely no sense why he would trash me after 3 1/2 years of loving each other. I said nothing in response, I didn't want to stoop to his level. Now I am simply left feeling alone wondering what the truth really is? Even his parents are dumbfounded saying he just visited them and discussed proposing. It's like he had to find any excuse to walk away and make a quick exit and he hurt me horribly in the process. I can't eat, I can't sleep, I feel like half of me is missing. It's so painful.
TaraMaiden Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 you had this thread going.... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t270358/ and this one.... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t270474/ and again, this one.... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t271663/ and finally, this one. Read the last comment, and answer the question.... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t270420/
Rea333 Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Hi I can totally sympathise with you. I know exactly how you are feeling and I'm so sorry you're hurting. A similar thing happened to me and I still don't know the real reason why he suddenly changed his mind. The week before he was declaring love and marriage and even saying you do know we'll get engaged soon don't you. Next thing, minor argument gave him the opportunity for a back handed break up. All I can think that may have happened in your situation is that he liked the idea of getting married and commitment, but when it came down to it he panicked and back tracked. My only advice is to go no contact and give him some space. I know how difficult this may be. Ultimately, if someone can walk away that easily after talks of marriage after a petty argument, then he doesn't deserve you. Be strong and take a day at a time. I went through weeks of anxiety, lack of sleep, constant why why why? but after 6 weeks, I'm starting to feel better day by day. For every bad day I have two good days. So I know I'll get there in the end. Stay strong
Irishlove Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 After reading all those posts I can tell you this is a toxic relationship, let it go.
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