Ross MwcFan Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=27036918 What do you think?
BeginAgain Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 You should really try smiling. You seem too threatening.
donnamaybe Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 You shot yourself in the foot BIG TIME when you said girls aren't attracted to you. None of them are going to bite now. Why don't you leave all that negative stuff out? Talk about things you like to do, music you enjoy, animals, etc. Get women interested in who you are as a person. And seeking friends? Really? Is that all you want is a female friend?
TaraMaiden Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I have to agree. people can even detect you're smiling when you speak on a 'phone, and it's a nice way of communicating pleasantness.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 You should really try smiling. You seem too threatening. You're joking right? I look like a beta male. Lol. I thought I looked like I was smiling anyway.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 I have to agree. people can even detect you're smiling when you speak on a 'phone, and it's a nice way of communicating pleasantness. I was actually smiling in the pictures, and when I look at them I think I look like I'm smiling, although not that much. I dunno, maybe I need to smile more then.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 You shot yourself in the foot BIG TIME when you said girls aren't attracted to you. None of them are going to bite now. Why don't you leave all that negative stuff out? Talk about things you like to do, music you enjoy, animals, etc. Get women interested in who you are as a person. And seeking friends? Really? Is that all you want is a female friend? I only made the profile to talk to women about my situation. I wouldn't actually have the confidence to go on a date.
TaraMaiden Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Yes, Ross, maybe you do. It also releases endorphins in your brain and actually makes you feel better.
BeginAgain Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Your second pic looks like that of a bully who is going to beat me up on the playground after school. Partially it has to do with the way you have to scrunch your face since the sun is in your eyes. As mentioned before your pity whoring in the description won't work on women. Pity whoring and compliment fishing only works on men when done by women.
BeginAgain Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I was actually smiling in the pictures, and when I look at them I think I look like I'm smiling, although not that much. I dunno, maybe I need to smile more then. It might be a British stiff upper lip thing we aren't getting.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 I forgot to say, I also made the profile to just experience some women being attracted to me. And believe it or not, whenever women take a shine to me online, it's always when I'm feeling sorry for myself or pity whoring (if that's what I'm doing). When I'm not like this and I feel good, women never even seem to notice I'm there.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 It might be a British stiff upper lip thing we aren't getting. If I smile a lot I feel like I look like a goofball.
Kamille Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Ross, I agree with everything that's been said. You have a good looking face, but your facial expression makes you look haunted. Guess what, alpha men don't look miserable. They look confident, and confidence usually involves smiling a lot. And remember to smile through your eyes too (for great tips on taking good pictures, I refer you to the first few seasons of America's next top model, where Tyra Banks stresses the importance of smiling with your eyes). Try it out. Start smiling. And take a risk: post a real profile, where you put your best foot forward. You don't have to go on dates if you don't want to, but this profile isn't going to help you resolve your insecurity issues. Fake it until you make it Ross.
Thedude22 Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Dude this is seriously one of the worst profiles I've ever seen. Don't say you're unemployed that's just for starters. Then you go on with a whole paragraph of self-loathing and sadness about how girls do not like you. Do you really think a female is going to be attracted to that? This thing SCREAMS desperation and no confidence, erase it right now before a chick you are possibly interested in reads it. Online dating profiles should be relaxed, care free, and friendly. This is depressing, self-loathing and desperate. Sorry to be so brutal, it's just you broke literally every rule with this one. If you'd like I can write up a new one for you, but in the mean time, erase this abomination.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 Ross, I agree with everything that's been said. You have a good looking face, but your facial expression makes you look haunted. Guess what, alpha men don't look miserable. They look confident, and confidence usually involves smiling a lot. And remember to smile through your eyes too (for great tips on taking good pictures, I refer you to the first few seasons of America's next top model, where Tyra Banks stresses the importance of smiling with your eyes). Try it out. Start smiling. And take a risk: post a real profile, where you put your best foot forward. You don't have to go on dates if you don't want to, but this profile isn't going to help you resolve your insecurity issues. Fake it until you make it Ross. I will try to smile more, and I've been working on my confidence for a while. I honestly never had any idea that I looked the way that you guys have described, it's interesting to get the insight. I did actually think of posting a real profile. But I knew if a girl contacted me to meet me, especially if it was for an intimate encounter, and she was totally my type (which is most women), having to say no and turn it down would just destroy me, I couldn't take it.
BeginAgain Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I only made the profile to talk to women about my situation. I wouldn't actually have the confidence to go on a date.You are as big as an ox. What could a featherweight of a woman do to you except bump into you and land on her fanny? I forgot to say, I also made the profile to just experience some women being attracted to me. And believe it or not, whenever women take a shine to me online, it's always when I'm feeling sorry for myself or pity whoring (if that's what I'm doing). When I'm not like this and I feel good, women never even seem to notice I'm there.You won't be getting the right kind of attention, the type where they are into you. The most you could expect is pity sex maybe but unlikely. They only notice you then since it is the only time you probably do anything to draw attention to yourself. You need to be outgoing when you are feeling good and project a presence. If I smile a lot I feel like I look like a goofball.That's because you aren't use to smiling and need to teach yourself to smile naturally.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 Dude this is seriously one of the worst profiles I've ever seen. Don't say you're unemployed that's just for starters. Then you go on with a whole paragraph of self-loathing and sadness about how girls do not like you. Do you really think a female is going to be attracted to that? This thing SCREAMS desperation and no confidence, erase it right now before a chick you are possibly interested in reads it. Online dating profiles should be relaxed, care free, and friendly. This is depressing, self-loathing and desperate. Sorry to be so brutal, it's just you broke literally every rule with this one. If you'd like I can write up a new one for you, but in the mean time, erase this abomination. Dude, my intent with the profile isn't to get a date. As for desperation, well, I did say I wasn't interested in going on a date or anything else in the profile, so I don't see how I look desperate. As for saying I'm unemployed, so what? If the profile was intended to get me dates, it would be a bit of a daft idea for me to lie and pretend I've got a job.
BeginAgain Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Dude, my intent with the profile isn't to get a date. As for desperation, well, I did say I wasn't interested in going on a date or anything else in the profile, so I don't see how I look desperate. As for saying I'm unemployed, so what? If the profile was intended to get me dates, it would be a bit of a daft idea for me to lie and pretend I've got a job. You should always carry yourself and conduct yourself like you are interested and in hot pursuit.
Cracker Jack Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I know you're not focused on finding dates, but you should still consider revising your profile about. Most women probably wouldn't even give it a second thought after seeing how down you are about yourself in your profile.
GPFan Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Take down the profile and work on making friends with yourself first; your opinion of yourself is the only one that really matters.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 I know you're not focused on finding dates, but you should still consider revising your profile about. Most women probably wouldn't even give it a second thought after seeing how down you are about yourself in your profile. There'll be plenty of women saying 'you can get someone' or 'I like you' or just trying to help.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 Take down the profile and work on making friends with yourself first; your opinion of yourself is the only one that really matters. I am friends with myself. And I have a good opinion of myself.
TaraMaiden Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 There'll be plenty of women saying 'you can get someone' or 'I like you' or just trying to help. Ross, you just don't get it, do you? Ok, I'm a woman, and I can tell you, if I was a random woman on that website looking for a suitable date, (as the website advertises it's for) and I happened to be looking at your profile on that website, with a view to finding out about you, my answer to all your questions would probably be - "OHMYPHEKKIN'God, what are you doing here? You're unemployed, your last relationship lasted less than a year, you're not looking for anyone to date, and you tell us that women don't like you. You maintain that - 'For some reason I'm just not able to get a girl in real life, I'm not sure why, but I've never even experienced a girl act as though she was attracted to me. A lot of girls don't really seem to give me the time of day either for some reason.' Your whole profile would give you every reason." I'm sorry Ross, but you maintain you have confidence and self-esteem, but you look sullen and too serious, and your write-up is far from engaging or constructive, let alone, inviting.... Yet you keep protesting there's nothing wrong with this? There is. Really, trust me, there is.... But if you're still arguing everyone of us - Why then, did you ask us for our opinion....?
Star Gazer Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I was actually smiling in the pictures, and when I look at them I think I look like I'm smiling, although not that much. I dunno, maybe I need to smile more then. No, dude. You're not smiling. At all. I actually just had a guy on a dating site who "smiled" just like you write to me today. He had 16 pictures up, all with your same stoic, emotionless facial expression...holding a big fish he caught, at his M.A. graduation, dancing at a wedding, with his niece at Disneyland, cheers-ing at a bar with friends - all events that should result in some expression of glee!...but there was no smile in ANY of his pictures. What made it almost creepy is the people in his pics looked really, really happy, while he just looked like a mannequin. I asked him if he ever smiles. Like you, he thought he was smiling. That's not a smile. That's the facial expression of an emotionless person. There's not a trace of happiness on your face, or even in your eyes. Women don't want to date someone who comes across as having no emotion.
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