Trevster Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Well she texted me and was telling me what I owed her for buying me acne medicine she seemed calm about it just asking when I could get it to her and being normal about it she said she would meet me later today to get it! She isn't making me give it to her siste or anything! Should I ask why she left me or ask anything imparticular or should I give her money and just leave I really am confused on what to do ask how she been or what really need help please what to do!!!!!!!
TaraMaiden Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 ask friend to meet her, and give her money in an envelope. Sorted.
Author Trevster Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 Well like the past two days the first night I prayed the lord that he would show me a sign she still cared about me and missed me and then she played a game with me after 11 days well that night I really prayed she would contact me anyway possible just anything an she texted me today about the money i owe her but it sounds dumb but it seems like the lord is answering my questions and maybe putting my foot n the door! I'm not thinking of it but that the lord is helping me with my patience and walk in him! Like that's crazy it's happened this way!!!! I'm not making a mountain out o it but the lord has improved me as a person so greatly and it feels awesome!
TaraMaiden Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Yeah, and when she walks all over you, treats you like a yo-yo and runs rings round you, throwing you breadcrumbs, make sure you thank the lord for that too, ok? Put the money in an envelope. Give the envelope to a good friend. Say to the friend, "could you give this to *ex-* for me? I really don't think it's a good idea for me to see her". Don't fall for this playing with your mind. Finally, remember the old adage: "By all means call on God - but at least, row AWAY form the rocks."
Author Trevster Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 Well like the past two days the first night I prayed the lord that he would show me a sign she still cared about me and missed me and then she played a game with me after 11 days well that night I really prayed she would contact me anyway possible just anything an she texted me today about the money i owe her but it sounds dumb but it seems like the lord is answering my questions and maybe putting my foot n the door! I'm not thinking of it but that the lord is helping me with my patience and walk in him! Like that's crazy it's happened this way!!!! I'm not making a mountain out o it but the lord has improved me as a person so greatly and it feels awesome!
Good Arms Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Well I'm glad your faith makes you feel awesome and all. But really, forget about signs she still cares about you. As advised, just get that money to her via a friend. Don't meet her in person. After my ex dumped me, I owed her some money. One week on I tried to pluck up courage to go over at work and give it to her in person, but I was getting so stressed out and tearful when the moment came. Things still hadn't really sunk in, and I was naive to think I might be ready just to see her briefly. I wasn't then and I'm not now. I've realised you can't be friends with an ex who dumped you against your will, even though that's perhaps your first instinct when you're desperate to hold onto something, anything. I felt like I was being weak at the time, but I asked a mutual friend to hand it to her. It was the RIGHT DECISION, believe me. I only realised that in hindsight. She may have texted "it would have been nice to see you" (after I texted her why I was sending the money over with a friend, to avoid it being awkward - not that I needed to) but by that stage I think neither of us were really telling the truth about our feelings, just trying to be civil to each other in the midst of the relationship ending. If she dumped you then it seems a bit petty to ask you for that money, as I presume it's not a huge amount? It might say a lot about her personality to be honest. In my case, it was a fair amount of money I owed her (holiday money that she had offered to take out for me -- for a horrific holiday where she essentially broke up with me ). But she didn't ever ask for it, I brought it up in our break-up talk and promised I'd give it to her. Anyway, please just get that money back to her with the minimum of fuss, don't see her, and then focus on YOU and look after yourself the best you can, because you're the person who's feelings matter now.
Good Arms Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I read your first post. It's clear she doesn't want you in her life anymore. I know that hurts like HELL, but it's something you'll have to start to accept. It's the unbelievable, sickening truth any dumpee has to somehow digest. Don't kick yourself for it, but it's obvious that you pushed her further away by pleading for her back, contacting her or texting her friends. It's a classic thing to do. If you haven't already, realise that this will never 'win her back', it will only do the opposite, and confirm to her that she made the right decision to dump you (regardless of whether her actual reasons were fair or logical). This has to stop now. It's time to look after yourself and go NC... respect her decision and start to focus on your healing from one of the most insidious, agonising experiences we humans can go through. Holding onto hope and reading 'signs' that really aren't there will only serve to prolong your pain. Good luck, keep posting, the people of LS are here for you and hopefully you'll find comfort in your beliefs too.
TaraMaiden Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 (Post #3 and #5 are exactly the same...... is he trying to prove some extremely religious Christians sound like a stuck record....? )
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