Bionic Me Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 That sucks! I had a thread about a week ago here, asking why do people keep their accounts once they start a relationship. Yeah, I was actually hoping that someone will come, admit and explain. I think men do this more often than women. I have no idea... I mean, what are the odds??! I couldn't believe my eyes when I saw his picture. YIKES! I guess they feel like it's kinda surreal to have this online presence and they don't realise that it can all materialise into an extra R. I must say that few people who contacted me, when I looked at their profiles *SMH*.... UNBELIEVABLE! Like really?! WHERE DO THEY FIND THESE PEOPLE???????????????? *Jerry Springer's voice*
Author Imajerk17 Posted April 14, 2011 Author Posted April 14, 2011 (edited) How do you know they're fake though, out of curiosity? To answer your question, I used to get about 20-30 a day plus winks. Now I get about 5-10 emails and maybe 5 winks. I've been on there a while. Fake profiles: --"A 29-year-old looking for a man 38--71". A profile picturing a beautiful young woman looking for a much older man online is very often, a fake. --Broken English. --Other details not adding up. A woman who has only a high-school education claiming to be an Educator/Professor? Fake. --Lack of specifics about "favorite places". --Too flowery over-the-top language. --A "too-obvious" screen-name. "DevotedHeart112", "SexxKitten398", and so on are good signs that it is a fake. Now there is no way for me to verify for sure that these profiles are fake. Every time I get a wink from a profile like this on Match, I always "report a concern". And every single time, the profile that I reported on is gone within 24 hours. Edited April 14, 2011 by Imajerk17
daphne Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Sounds like your report and Oaks' is similar. I went out with a guy who had ended up on dates with 2 different prostitutes (I have a sick mother out of town.) He also mentioned the fake profile thing. I don't know that I've ever had one from the guy's side. Definitely no male prostitutes!
Darren Taylor Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 unsolicited emails do you receive? For me, it is maybe 1--2 emails per month, and 1--2 winks per month on Match. (This isn't counting the obvious "fake" profiles who wink at every guy.) I'm curious about how it is for the rest of you. I assume you mean messages. I was on a site for about a month and got I think 2-3 messages. As for winks, almost daily.
Author Imajerk17 Posted April 14, 2011 Author Posted April 14, 2011 (edited) Sounds like your report and Oaks' is similar. I went out with a guy who had ended up on dates with 2 different prostitutes (I have a sick mother out of town.) He also mentioned the fake profile thing. I don't know that I've ever had one from the guy's side. Definitely no male prostitutes! Yep, I should have checked oaks' post before writing mine. He already said what I said. RE No male prostitutes: I'm not sure how worthwhile it would be for a scammer to write an attractive woman such as yourself. You are already getting a lot of email, so the likelihood that you would respond to an obvious "form" email with broken English from a sketchy profile is pretty slim. So the take rate would be far too low.We guys don't get nearly as much attention and we tend to think more with our little heads, making us a better target. **Public Service Message to anyone else reading this: I have heard older women online being targeted though so I'm not advocating anyone letting their guard down.** The screen-name does have some importance. There was a woman who had a decent profile whose screen-name was LovePanda. I might have written her otherwise, but her screen-name was so cheesy I just couldn't get past it. Edited April 14, 2011 by Imajerk17
stepka Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 51 yo woman and maybe one or two a month average after the newbie syndrome wore off. I've seen several fake men's profiles. They're usually way too handsome for the likes of me and look way younger than their stated age and their English is terrible. They are usually from a glam place like CA or London and they think I'm the most ravishing woman on earth but they don't actually mention anything in my profile. I had a friend get into one of these and she figured it was fake but he was so handsome and she wanted to see where it would lead to. It led to him wanting to fly over from London within a week of meeting her online and then he called en route and asked for some extra funds to get him into the US. SHe sort of figured it would be that way so wasn't too heartbroken.
melodymatters Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 Well, this is all rather discouraging ! My experience mirrors D-lish, in that when I would say I was 39, they were crawling out of the woodwork ! Being honest at 44 has DEFINTLEY lightened the load, about 5 a day. Also, not ONE has been even slightly younger, whereas when I "was 39" I got every 21-24 year old in the tristate area. Guess we know where they cut off THEIR search, lol ! So, lotsa geezers this time around, but so far everone has been perfectly pleasant and polite on the phone, and the two lunch dates so far went well, no red flags. No high expectations, but as I wrote in another thread, I moved to a town where I know zero people literally, so today for example, I went to meet a restaurant owner at his place for lunch. Helped him cook our meal, had a glass of wine and he was SUCH a positive thinker he would catch me when I said something negative and I ended up walking out feeling uplifted and not nearly so alone and adrift in the world.
Kamille Posted April 15, 2011 Posted April 15, 2011 No high expectations, but as I wrote in another thread, I moved to a town where I know zero people literally, so today for example, I went to meet a restaurant owner at his place for lunch. Helped him cook our meal, had a glass of wine and he was SUCH a positive thinker he would catch me when I said something negative and I ended up walking out feeling uplifted and not nearly so alone and adrift in the world. :bunny::bunny::bunny:
Illiandra Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 the first week i was on there i had 40-50 emails a day haha,,, im on week two and now i get 10-20 emails,,, im 30,,, in the NYC area... as far as the ppl there, some of the guys are just disgusting and there are a FEW who are ok (looks wise) but just want one thing. however, i have to say recently one guy has been amazing and actually super nice and calls every day ))) so who knows!!! goodluck with the onlien thing,,, its a cruel world!
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