Imajerk17 Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 unsolicited emails do you receive? For me, it is maybe 1--2 emails per month, and 1--2 winks per month on Match. (This isn't counting the obvious "fake" profiles who wink at every guy.) I'm curious about how it is for the rest of you.
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 unsolicited emails do you receive? For me, it is maybe 1--2 emails per month, and 1--2 winks per month on Match. (This isn't counting the obvious "fake" profiles who wink at every guy.) I'm curious about how it is for the rest of you. I'm on OKC and Plenty of Fish. I've received 4 unsolicited emails in the 11 months that I've been on OKC. None on Plenty of Fish and that's an account I've had for some 4 years.
Bionic Me Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 what about ALL.... It's a zoo. What a shame what society has come to. I tried a few of those sites and when I saw all the creepy and trolls. No thanks! Not my thing.
Leeway Harris Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 It'd probably help if people specified their gender. I'm a man, and I'd get a couple unsolicited per month from each POF and OKC. If they were even halfway decent, I'd write back. But then they'd disappear. I hate online dating.
green_tea Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 All of mine are unsolicited so far, I haven't written to any guys yet (I'm a woman). On OKC I probably get about 2 a week, if I'm lucky. On POF it's just the opposite I get about 10 a day, and that's just a complete guess. I've only been on POF a few days though, so I guess it should slow down after a while.
Star Gazer Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I get about 5 emails a day, and 5-10 other notifications (winks, wants to meet) depending on the site I'm on. I probably respond to 1-2 guys per week.
curlygirl40 Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I get about 5 e-mails a week and about 10 winks a week on match. I'm also on eharmony and I get about 2 ice breakers a week and about 2 guys who want to do the guided communication a week. I took a break from online dating and just signed back up about 3 weeks ago. I suspect it will slow down but that's what I've experienced in the past 3 weeks.
D-Lish Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I think it depends if you are a man or a woman and what your age is. Before, on pof, I had my age as 39- even though I was 40. Then I said in the body of my profile what my real age was. I figured most men stopped their searches at 40. When my age was under 40, I'd get up to 50 emails a day. Being back on there now and listing my age as 41, I am getting about 15-20 a day. But it's a new profile, so that amount will dwindle. I also changed my settings regarding who could mail me, only allowing men 36-43. I never message a man, nor would I. The guy I met before from pof was the third message I'd responded to in months.
somedude81 Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Nothing. I've had a profile on OKC for about a year or so and I haven't gotten any emails, winks etc.
D-Lish Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I get the feeling that a lot of men just message and message whomever they deem remotely attractive, playing the odds. I manage a ton of young girls- a lot of whom are on pof too. We often log into our accounts and see the same men have messaged us- which is so weird because I am 41 and the same men are messaging 22 year olds. We literally stand over one anothers shoulders and loom at our accounts and laugh "omg, he just messaged me too".
OliveOyl Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I got about 10 responses total from OKC, and then they stopped after a week or two. I responded to two of these. POF I was getting more... around ten responses the first day, and then maybe a couple of responses a day after that. But none that I wanted to reply to. Currently I've disabled both my OKC and POF accounts. I'm taking a breather.
notuneak Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I'm female and get around 10 to 15 messages a day. I answer all polite messages. The ones I'm interested in, I invite to gmail, and I talk to around 10 regulars there a day. I think it is easier for girls, but don't give up guys. Change your profile and send out some messages. It only takes one good match to make it all worthwhile.
EmperorR Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Male On Pof, about 5-7 msgs a month, it's always funny as the chicks who msg me the majority have their profiles hidden.
TheLoneSock Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I think it depends if you are a man or a woman and what your age is. Before, on pof, I had my age as 39- even though I was 40. Then I said in the body of my profile what my real age was. I figured most men stopped their searches at 40. When my age was under 40, I'd get up to 50 emails a day. Being back on there now and listing my age as 41, I am getting about 15-20 a day. But it's a new profile, so that amount will dwindle. I also changed my settings regarding who could mail me, only allowing men 36-43. I never message a man, nor would I. The guy I met before from pof was the third message I'd responded to in months. Just curious D, didn't you just go through a break up? Or are about to. Why are you on PoF?
daphne Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Male On Pof, about 5-7 msgs a month, it's always funny as the chicks who msg me the majority have their profiles hidden. I suspect they're married.
daphne Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 (This isn't counting the obvious "fake" profiles who wink at every guy.) I'm curious about how it is for the rest of you. How do you know they're fake though, out of curiosity? To answer your question, I used to get about 20-30 a day plus winks. Now I get about 5-10 emails and maybe 5 winks. I've been on there a while.
zengirl Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Female, 26. I'm only on OKC. Whenever I re-activate my profile (after de-activation) or do any major uploads/adds and get it refreshed, I'll get more, but on average. . . . Anywhere from 5-10 messages a week, though the vast majority are people either (a) Outside my clearly stated age range or (b) Outside my clearly stated area --- and I even write on my profile I have no interest in dating anyone outside the city I live in (even in the subburbs, I say, as I find proximity important to relationships). I still have people who message me and live in other countries, the subburbs too far away for me, other states, etc. Nobody listens. Those messages show up as whited out for "Not matching my filters" because I can set those on the site and get automatically deleted. So, I read maybe 2-4 new messages a week that are unsolicited. Still a decent amount, though most I just have to write back, "No, thank you." Most of the conversations in my in-box currently are guys I messaged first. Every boyfriend I've ever had from online dating has been a guy I messaged first, for the record, and most successful dates as well. I have winks blocked.
D-Lish Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Just curious D, didn't you just go through a break up? Or are about to. Why are you on PoF? Just went through a break up. I'm on POF again because my ex told me he never loved me, and then sent me on my way. Am I going to jump back into a relationship? No way. Am I going to sit at home and cry until the kleenex runs out? No way. If something happens, it happens, if it doesn't, it doesn't. Life has to go on.
TheLoneSock Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Just went through a break up. I'm on POF again because my ex told me he never loved me, and then sent me on my way. Am I going to jump back into a relationship? No way. Am I going to sit at home and cry until the kleenex runs out? No way. If something happens, it happens, if it doesn't, it doesn't. Life has to go on. Ten four (more spaces required)
Crazy Magnet Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Female 31 It depends on the day. When I was first on it was about 15 a day and now it's down to maybe 3 or 4. I'm not so good at checking every day though. In fact, I'm actively avoiding it. In the 6 weeks I have been on OKC and match I have gotten well over 300 messages total from both.
Cerpin_Taxt Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I'm a 35 male. I've been on POF OKC and Match before. Quite a while for the first two. I only ever got three unsolicited emails and of the dozens I sent out never once got a response. I don't use online anymore. It doesn't suit my personality. I meet people just fine in real life, not too many dates but prefer it to online.
oaks Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 How do you know they're fake though, out of curiosity? Only one photo of a good looking girl that looks like a professionally taken photo of a swimwear model on a sunny beach.Younger than the age I'm looking for.In a major city like New York or LA.Profile doesn't say much at all.Profile is new.Message doesn't say much but does suggest that I email 'her' to find out more and gives me 'her' email address.Message badly written as if English isn't 'her' first language.Message is generic - not personalised towards me in any way.and if I wasn't already suspicious, after I report the profile for being fake it disappears within a few hours. Example message from my inbox: hi, please read and write... Mar 18, 2011 – 6:18pm Hi! Write to me at [email protected], I think it will be beteer for both of us to use e-mails. I will add pics and will tell you more about myself in my future replies. I am waitting for your message. Bye...
Bionic Me Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I'm not going to lie... I opened an account on AM and OH BOY! :rolleyes: :lmao::sick: Unreal!!!!!!! The first a$$wipe that popped up was my BFF's live-in boyfriend. Pic and all. :rolleyes::mad: I couldn't believe my eyes.... *facepalm* I can't believe how many people are willing to cheat too. Whoa! I lasted about 3hrs on my experiment. Accound deleted! POF is a pool of trolls and saw a bunch of people from my town. I deactivated it after a few days. This online dating world is a sad place- IMO.
pineapples Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I'm not going to lie... I opened an account on AM and OH BOY! :rolleyes: :lmao::sick: Unreal!!!!!!! The first a$$wipe that popped up was my BFF's live-in boyfriend. Pic and all. :rolleyes::mad: I couldn't believe my eyes.... *facepalm* I can't believe how many people are willing to cheat too. Whoa! I lasted about 3hrs on my experiment. Accound deleted! POF is a pool of trolls and saw a bunch of people from my town. I deactivated it after a few days. This online dating world is a sad place- IMO. That sucks! I had a thread about a week ago here, asking why do people keep their accounts once they start a relationship. Yeah, I was actually hoping that someone will come, admit and explain. I think men do this more often than women.
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