Author mlchris2 Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 Yes, I smoke and the whole thing about second hand smoke is BULL****. Plain and simple. People act like walking by a smoker gives them cancer, but don't complain about car exhaust at all. Shut the F up. Most of those statistics are inflated anyway. Half a million people die a year from second hand smoke my ass. I'm sorry but I tend to agree with the above. I was raised by smokers, hang around smokers and I am as healthy as can be. ************************** I'm a little humored, shocked and relieved to hear some of the responses. A group of friends, both male and female from each side of the smoking realm got to talking about it one evening and it end up getting very heated. There were alot of "what if's" thrown around and it was enlightening to see just how each person responded. Example; The smoker's said they would date anyone regardless if the other smoked or not. The female non-smoker's said they wouldn't date a smoker. The male non-smoker's said they might date a smoker. I got the same personal opinions from all of you that my group responded with. Most if it is all personal preference anyone. One of the females in our group posed a question to the rest of us; Do you think non-smokers have a better chance of meeting the opposite sex and finding someone that meets his/her requirements as a partner vs someone who smoke? I am curious what you all think of that???
OliveOyl Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 If it was just an occasional cigarette/cigar, not a problem. If it was a regular habit, more than 1-2 cigarettes/day, probably not.
Knittress Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 No, generally. But then I had this raging crush on a smoker, and I can't say I'd ever consider turning them away if given the opportunity...
alphamale Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Yes, mostly cause I'm a smoker. However, I tend to go out with non smokers, which is good cause it makes me smoke less. same here, most chicks don't like smoking but if they like you enough they overlook it...
Rinnix Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I don't smoke and never had, I would prefer if my partner was the same. Smoking is a deal breaker for me. However, I wouldn't be opposed to dating someone who used to smoke, as long as they have quit for good.
alphamale Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Smoking is a deal breaker for me. yea but if a really hot rich dude who smoked asked you out you would probably accept
green_tea Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I always said I never would, but am about to meet up with a guy from online who smokes...I didn't notice that on his profile when he first contacted me. But I think I still would have responded..he's really attractive and intelligent Haha just noticed the post from alphamale - that's pretty much what happened to me. No idea if he's rich or not, but he's definitely hot
alphamale Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 basically what it comes down to is that most chicks don't know what they want. i smoke and most of the chicks i've dated were non-smokers and would usually tell me "OMG i never thought i would date a smoker" if your are a guy and you smoke you are instantly taken out of the "nice guy" category
Rinnix Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 yea but if a really hot rich dude who smoked asked you out you would probably accept Money has never been a reason for me to accept a date. I don't care about how much money someone makes. Sure, it's a nice lifestyle but it is not a requirement for me. My boyfriend is far from rich, he is at most minimum wage. It doesn't matter how "hot" someone is. Looks fade, nobody is beautiful on the outside forever. Beauty is more then skin deep to me. A guy needs personality. I would not date a smoker because I witnessed my mother almost die due to her smoking habits of 20 years. If she didn't quit today, the doctors told her she would have died, or would be stuck living with an oxygen tank for the rest of her life. So yes, smoking IS a deal breaker to me. Regardless of how "hot & rich" someone is. Thanks
Disillusioned Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 My mother's uncle and I were the only 2 in my family who never smoked, plus I'm older, so it doesn't bother me as much. I'd date a smoker, but nothing more serious than that. If she has smoked at least 20 years, forget it... the damage is done whether she quits or not. I don't want to develop a crush on some puff mama and then have her go Stage 4 on me. BTW it's harder for me to guess people's ages just by looking at them, now that fewer people are smoking... I used to be able to tell because it made them look old before their time.
zengirl Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I have before, though he was trying to quit and did quit a few months into our relationship. I don't think I would today, but I'm not 100% sure. He'd have to be someone who (a) Wanted kids (anyone I date does) and (b) Wanted to quit smoking before he had kids and expressed this idea on his own. That was the only reason I made the exception for the guy I dated.
Duckduckgoose Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 No, I would not date a smoker. I do not smoke and kissing a smoker is like licking an ashtray.
Mutant Debutante Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I used to smoke, and so did my bf. We both quit, and now we have a cigarette really occasionally, like if we're super stressed out or we've had a lot of cocktails. Basically a couple of cigarettes a month, all outdoors. No big deal. I wouldnt like it if either of us started smoking more, or smoking inside.
veggirl Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Yes I would and I truly believe most people would not tell someone they were uber attracted to, had amazing chemistry, etc.."no, sorry" just cause they smoke.
welikeincrowds Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 As a smoker, I have dated girls who said they never considered dating a smoker. It's a rule that can be bent for some, but not all. Before I was a smoker, I dated one, and I hated it, but I put up with it, and even found it attractive in a way. Hence my eventual adoption of the habit.
Ruby Slippers Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Yes I would and I truly believe most people would not tell someone they were uber attracted to, had amazing chemistry, etc.."no, sorry" just cause they smoke. It's true. If he were pretty much ideal otherwise, I'd be more inclined to overlook it. But I could never go for a guy smoking in the house. Because then it stinks up your furniture, clothes, and everything. Even though I don't like the habit, I have to admit that I thought my ex looked crazy sexy when he was smoking. He just totally savored it and made it look so sensual and sexy.
ColdFox Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I always take good care of my health and am very athletic. I like men who are also healthy and athletic and can keep up with me, dancing, hiking, biking, etc, not someone who huffs and puffs on the trail because he smokes too much. I also have a young child, so I don't want him thinking smoking is cool. So no, I wouldn't date a smoker. Maybe someone who has a cigaret or cigar just once in a while.
Leeway Harris Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Yes I would and I truly believe most people would not tell someone they were uber attracted to, had amazing chemistry, etc.."no, sorry" just cause they smoke. Yeah, but how many people do you actually meet that you're "uber attracted" to and have "amazing chemistry" with? For me to date a woman who smoked regularly and had no intention of quitting, she'd have to be pretty freaking awesome.
denise_xo Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 No. My partner smokes, but in a hypothetical situation I'd never go there again.
Nexus One Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 (edited) Smoking women is the number 1 turn-off for men. That's the result of multiple studies, so it's not just an anomaly statistic. To answer the topic. I would say no, I wouldn't date a smoker, but then again you never know in life. To provide an example of how I mentally react to seeing a smoking girl/woman: Some time ago I saw a girl walking by that I thought looked attractive, so my eyes followed her as she walked by. Then I noticed she raised her hand to her mouth to take a puff from her cigarette and I immediately lost any interest in her whatsoever and stopped looking at her. At that point I actually realized how strong the effect is of seeing a female smoke. Smoking makes women look trashy and as if they have stress issues. Smoking doesn't compliment the female appearance in my opinion, quite the opposite. Edited April 14, 2011 by Nexus One
Engadget Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Smoking women is the number 1 turn-off for men. That's the result of multiple studies, so it's not just an anomaly statistic. To answer the topic. I would say no, I wouldn't date a smoker, but then again you never know in life. To provide an example of how I mentally react to seeing a smoking girl/woman: Some time ago I saw a girl walking by that I thought looked attractive, so my eyes followed her as she walked by. Then I noticed she raised her hand to her mouth to take a puff from her cigarette and I immediately lost any interest in her whatsoever and stopped looking at her. At that point I actually realized how strong the effect is of seeing a female smoke. Smoking makes women look trashy and as if they have stress issues. Smoking doesn't compliment the female appearance in my opinion, quite the opposite. Really? I want to see those studies actually. Americans hate smoking, seems like a lot of other countries don't. We also have some psychotic preoccupation with smells too. Frankly women wearing that stupid girly spray stuff is worse, it's so strong and gross.
Leeway Harris Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Really? I want to see those studies actually. Americans hate smoking, seems like a lot of other countries don't. We also have some psychotic preoccupation with smells too. Frankly women wearing that stupid girly spray stuff is worse, it's so strong and gross. It's a matter of opinion. There are plenty of people who don't mind the smell of smoke. Also, I have no problem at all with the way it looks, myself. It's the smell that bothers me. And also the disconnect in ideas about health. I wouldn't want to be with someone who had such a radically different perspective from my own when it comes to taking care of herself.
Author mlchris2 Posted April 14, 2011 Author Posted April 14, 2011 if your are a guy and you smoke you are instantly taken out of the "nice guy" category My feelings exactly.
kurisu Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 I'd have to say no, I myself am a nonsmoker, never even tried it because of how much I hate second hand smoke. I've never dated a smoker but my grandmother smokes almost constantly and growing up as a kid I remember how I hated even being there because of all the smoke. So definitely a no for me
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