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Four months ago I had a man approach me while a group of us were out having a couple of drinks. We got talking for the remainder of the night. He was back in town on summer holidays from University. On the duration of his holidays, we caught up once or twice a week having coffee dates, walks and drives. We spent the time on these catch ups talking, laughing and getting to know one another. We both were honest with one another from the begining, that we were not wanting anything serious too soon, but would like to get to know one another. The time then came for him to return to university, which is four hours drive of our home city. He said that he would like to keep in touch, and we would visit each other. He is in his last year of Uni, and his time is pretty much spent in clinic, writing assignments and stressing (lol). Having been a student, I understand this and understand that students do not need any added pressure, so I give him his space and let him know that I think of him. We keep in contact via phone and facebook. He recently asked me to visit him and I have just come back from an awesome weekend with him. It was like old times.

 

Thats a short short version. Seeing as we have known each other for four months, do you feel we are on the right track, that is, getting to know one another etc. I know that being busy is no excuse to having someone in your life, but having spent the weekend with him, i saw first hand the pressure and stress he is experiencing and no way do I want to be with a man who is that stressed out and plus come second to study. I am happy getting to know him and being supportive for him as I really like this man and would like things to work out with him, so i do not want to become this needy woman, which in the end will result in study winning (i am 29 he is 35).

 

Without putting added pressure on him (i.e Having THE talk), how do I let him know I still dig him, that I like him, without freaking him out and making him think that i'm asking him to marry him lol. And how to do I get across to him things that I may have found upsetting, without stressing him out more. As I know that he is already stressed with his studies, but I have needs too. Do i just need to put them aside for a little bit longer?

 

Its only been four months, I know I need to continue to enjoy the journey. Shall i just continue as we are doing and let time do its things.

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I think if you feel this strongly about him after just four months then imagine how great it could be further down the line. Its his last year of studying so if you think you can continue this way for the duration then do it! Only you know how you feel about him and only you know if you are willing to wait but he has come this far in his studies so I say be supportive, patient and keep up the visits! Thats if he is worth it! Good luck in whatever you decide :-)

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Thank you for posting Ire.girl

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