Anyone find it hard to believe you and your ex actually dated...

[turokturok5]

Im pretty much over it now due to NC, realised this when i saw her from a distance today with some of her guy friends at uni and felt nothing, no stabbing chest pains or anything i just walked on and got on with the rest of my day. I was with some mutual friends and my ex ended up joining us, it was really awkward. I said hi to her, we didn't make eye contact or talk at all. When she was talking i would kind of look around awkwardly and when i was talking i think she was doing the same. It's just so hard to imagine that this person is someone who you could spend time alone with and share anything with.

[smudge21]

Yeah, that's total moved on. Well done for getting there. It is really strange though as it's like your mind and heart has done 180 and you're kinda' back to where you first started; before this person became everything to you.

 

It's like when you first meet someone, prior to that, they are nobody. Just another one of 6.7 billion people on the planet. You don't know them and if someone were to point them out in the crowd and tell you that soon you would only ever think about them and be madly in love, you'd laugh. Then once you're in love you can only think about that person. You can't imagine how you felt before meeting them. Was there even anyone else who existed before they did? Then everything ends, you suddenly feel worse as you know they're going but can't imagine life without them. There's no way you can picture yourself being alone again. Being away from this person. The idea that this person will mean nothing to you is alien and scary. Now move on to where you are, and once again, you're back to thinking like you were before. The ex is just another 1 in 6.7 billion people. Oh sure, you still remember what happened, but you can't believe you felt that way; that you really believed he/she was the one, the only one, for now, she is just a memory. And you're fine with it. You're back to square one ready for the next one to come along...

[ASG]

I've had that, but not in the awkward kind of situation though. Most of my exes, even though I still see them or talk to them occasionally, I just don't know what I saw in them...

It's not awkward seeing them or being with them, I've even friends with a couple of them, but when I think about what we had it's more of a "WTF?!" thing. With time I just realised they were REALLY not the person for me.

 

I'm sure the same thing will happen with my lastest ex. One day I'll probably look back and just not see where the attraction was.

[oldguy]

There is the old joke or story about the man who announces his anniversary and is asked, "you have been married that long to the same person"? to which he replies; "No, she is same woman but not at all the same person".

 

Point is I think, we all change, some grow closer, most grow apart and whether we grow apart or together I think the common question is the same; what is it that ever attracted us to one another back then...?

[shawn923]

turok, how do you handle going to school with her? I also go thru that on a daily basis and it sucks. I erased her off fb and initiated NC for the 3rd time this weekend. Although i do still check her fb sometimes, and i do still see her at school on campus. We make eye contact and i just try to look away. Its extremely awkward, but she knows i dont wanna be friends... How do u handle it?

[Sylvie]

My ex and I broke up about 8 months ago in a fairly amicable way. I've moved on since then, whereas he is still acting like the break up is recent (heard it from mutual friends). We move in similar circles, so I do see him every few months. Every time I see him, I wonder why we dated to begin with. He was a good boyfriend in the sense that he was very loving, sensitive, compassionate, supportive, had good morals, etc., but he was really wrong for me.

[guccimane99]

Im pretty much over it now due to NC, realised this when i saw her from a distance today with some of her guy friends at uni and felt nothing, no stabbing chest pains or anything i just walked on and got on with the rest of my day. I was with some mutual friends and my ex ended up joining us, it was really awkward. I said hi to her, we didn't make eye contact or talk at all. When she was talking i would kind of look around awkwardly and when i was talking i think she was doing the same. It's just so hard to imagine that this person is someone who you could spend time alone with and share anything with.

 

I know what ur talking about bud. I just laugh at some girl i have dated but do i regret it no cuz it once made me happy. I laugh at the guys after me because they are usually not good guys or really scummy guys. I have realized nothing pisses and ex of than seeing u happy and living ur life without her in it.

[zakfar]

Yeah! The later impressions takes over the previous one. You don't lose all the memories, but many of those don't bring serious (either negative or positive) thought the way they did earlier. It is good, as it helps us to walk ahead.