9Lives Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 (edited) One of the great poster on here sent my little world spiralling down when they made me realize that I wasnt HEALING ..I was just dealing. That is not what I need to be doing. I needed to be healing. I read this book called HOW TO SURVIVE THE LOSS OF A LOVE and it helped tremondously. One thing I learned is most of us on here coping have a EMOTIONAL WOUND. It is real, debilating, and painful. iT IS TO BE ACKNOWLEDGE Now if you got hit by a car or some kind of PHYSICAL WOUND...everybody would be nice to you, they would pamper you, bring you flowers, send you cards, ....just comfort you as you heal...right? Well EMOTIONAL WOUNDS are invisible so people and even yourself dont feel like it needs alot care..BUT IS DOES and IT IS REAL and IT REQUIRES PROPER MEDICINE just like a physical wound. It might require even more cause it is can be so damaging if not dealt with and even crippling and leave you handicap. Emotional wounds are serious! That is why some of us cant heal...we are not treating ourselves well. We are not allowing the process of healing to really take its course. We are not at peace with the process cause its painful or we are doing things to make it worst instead of better. (I have to raise my hand on that) WELL what is the medicine you should be taking? TENDER LOVING CAREComfort yourself. I mean really comfort yourself. You need it. . Do everything you can to bring love and comfort to yourself outside of your ex. This is a opportunity to get to know yourself better. IF YOU CANT SLEEP(which is normal).. Get up and do something that makes you feel better like come on the Shack...or read a book....or write in your journal....or go get the ice cream ....I dont know how to make you feel good....but you do and you should do it. Dont hurt nobody (not good) FORGET ABOUT YOUR EX.....If you know it is over for good....FORGET ABOUT THEM.... Try your best. It is doing you no good to remember this person. So why rememver them at this point. WHY WHY WHY?????This is where my journal comes in handy.. I get to say all the cuss words and scream and yell and release the pain inside there. GO THE F*&% AWAY STUPID!!! It s place of comfort for me. I dont want to think about you no more!!!! Right now you are pain for me....not pleasure or love. I hate you.... Basically it goes a litlle something like that at this point. But Im hear to say that You do need tender loving care. You need that walk or talk or poolside tan or good letter..or run or whatever you can to love yourself outside of hurting yourself....that is what you need to do to heal the EMOTIONAL WOUND. Tender loving care. Just like a baby...be sweet to you. All DAY LONG!!! You know how to be sweet and good. Do it for you GIVE YOURSELF SOME LOVE....We were all meant to be loved and feel love inside. Love is good and it is your time to give it yourself this time. Edited April 13, 2011 by 9Lives
stopthemadness Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 One of the great poster on here sent my little world spiralling down when they made me realize that I wasnt HEALING ..I was just dealing. That is not what I need to be doing. I needed to be healing. I read this book called HOW TO SURVIVE THE LOSS OF A LOVE and it helped tremondously. One thing I learned is most of us on here coping have a EMOTIONAL WOUND. It is real, debilating, and painful. iT IS TO BE ACKNOWLEDGE Now if you got hit by a car or some kind of PHYSICAL WOUND...everybody would be nice to you, they would pamper you, bring you flowers, send you cards, ....just comfort you as you heal...right? Well EMOTIONAL WOUNDS are invisible so people and even yourself dont feel like it needs alot care..BUT IS DOES and IT IS REAL and IT REQUIRES PROPER MEDICINE just like a physical wound. It might require even more cause it is can be so damaging if not dealt with and even crippling and leave you handicap. Emotional wounds are serious! That is why some of us cant heal...we are not treating ourselves well. We are not allowing the process of healing to really take its course. We are not at peace with the process cause its painful or we are doing things to make it worst instead of better. (I have to raise my hand on that) WELL what is the medicine you should be taking? TENDER LOVING CAREComfort yourself. I mean really comfort yourself. You need it. . Do everything you can to bring love and comfort to yourself outside of your ex. This is a opportunity to get to know yourself better. IF YOU CANT SLEEP(which is normal).. Get up and do something that makes you feel better like come on the Shack...or read a book....or write in your journal....or go get the ice cream ....I dont know how to make you feel good....but you do and you should do it. Dont hurt nobody (not good) FORGET ABOUT YOUR EX.....If you know it is over for good....FORGET ABOUT THEM.... Try your best. It is doing you no good to remember this person. So why rememver them at this point. WHY WHY WHY?????This is where my journal comes in handy.. I get to say all the cuss words and scream and yell and release the pain inside there. GO THE F*&% AWAY STUPID!!! It s place of comfort for me. I dont want to think about you no more!!!! Right now you are pain for me....not pleasure or love. I hate you.... Basically it goes a litlle something like that at this point. But Im hear to say that You do need tender loving care. You need that walk or talk or poolside tan or good letter..or run or whatever you can to love yourself outside of hurting yourself....that is what you need to do to heal the EMOTIONAL WOUND. Tender loving care. Just like a baby...be sweet to you. All DAY LONG!!! You know how to be sweet and good. Do it for you GIVE YOURSELF SOME LOVE....We were all meant to be loved and feel love inside. Love is good and it is your time to give it yourself this time. Really Good post thanks! after reading it feels like i just got a pep talk...thanks again...
DollyGirl12 Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 This is a really good post. And we also have to remember that with each of us the healing time may be different. Don't feel like there is something wrong with you if "people you know" healed faster, seemed to move on with their life sooner, and so on. For each of us the time frame is different.
Author 9Lives Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 This is a really good post. And we also have to remember that with each of us the healing time may be different. Don't feel like there is something wrong with you if "people you know" healed faster, seemed to move on with their life sooner, and so on. For each of us the time frame is different. Correct! And dont let anyone make you feel bad about the fact you are not over it just because they think you should be by now. Like I mention, emotional wounds really take time if it was deep. Im still working on mines and I dont like it but it true. I have done some things to prolong it so now it taking even longer but Im gonna get there this time.
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