Sake Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Miss you/regret breaking up with you after a long term relationship (in my case 3) only to start dating another man a month later, even if hes older, richer and takes her out to places and buys her everything? Its been almost 10 months and shes still with him. I'm pretty much over her and I barely think about her but thats just something thats been on my mind. I feel so cheated and betrayed..it feels like she only used me to show her around and help her get through high school and then right when it ended she broke up with me only to start a new relationship during university. I hate it and I have so much resent building up lately because now I truly understand whats going on in her mind, she doesn't care about me, she doesn't think about me or miss me, shes completely forgotten about me and thinks I'm a loser (why would she leave if she thought differently). Will she ever understand the pain she put me through? I doubt she'll ever feel my exact pain but even a fragment? will she ever understand how much I loved her and just how close I held her in my heart?
Hopeless Girl Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Miss you/regret breaking up with you after a long term relationship (in my case 3) only to start dating another man a month later, even if hes older, richer and takes her out to places and buys her everything? Its been almost 10 months and shes still with him. I'm pretty much over her and I barely think about her but thats just something thats been on my mind. I feel so cheated and betrayed..it feels like she only used me to show her around and help her get through high school and then right when it ended she broke up with me only to start a new relationship during university. I hate it and I have so much resent building up lately because now I truly understand whats going on in her mind, she doesn't care about me, she doesn't think about me or miss me, shes completely forgotten about me and thinks I'm a loser (why would she leave if she thought differently). Will she ever understand the pain she put me through? I doubt she'll ever feel my exact pain but even a fragment? will she ever understand how much I loved her and just how close I held her in my heart? heres the deall.. u were probably a great guy u probably are.... but depends on the break up and what it was about.... i know when i dumped my boyfriend in highschool after 1 year and 6 months i felt bad.. but i didnt care.... i didnt look back at all... then it happened to me with my 2nd serious boyfriend (not the one im here in loveshack for)... i got dumped and thought "so this is how it feels" .. felt horrible.. dude ur gonna find an even great girll.. im sure u will... just keep ur head held high... dont hope for her to come back ur just wasting ur time... good luck
nana841121 Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 You and she are both young and willful in your case, she is much more willful There is a term called "karma" as hopeless girl said, one day, when she got dumped , she would realize what you have been through For you, experiencing and healing the pain of a broken heart helps you become person who is more compassionate to other people's pain, hence a better person
aypforever Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 If you feel that way about yourself, how do you think she is going to feel about you? How are other people going to view you, including new possible partners? Quit being resentful, don't call yourself a loser. If you don't like who you are, change yourself. Does she think about you? I bet you cross her mind from time to time. Does she think about you as much as you think about her? No. I'm being pretty blunt tonight, but at least I'm honest.
Beeotch Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Even if someone feels bad for breaking up with you...their life still has to go on. That is the truth. They aren't gonna share their pain with you or hide away from the world forever.... The truth is, EVERYTHING our exes do will bother us. If they move on 1 month later or 3 months later, once we aren't over it first, it's a problem. If they give a reason or don't give a reason for the breakup, we have a problem....as long as it wasn't your decision to make, it's gonna bug you. I can't say what your ex feels or doesn't feel...but if she is in high school....then honestly the relationship perhaps would not have lasted forever, and IMO, High school kids shouldn't be in serious relationships as you grow and change sooo much between your teen years and say graduating from college, that most relationships at that age don't last for the long haul. It's life...you grow and sometimes people grow away from you. I understand your pain. She may feel bad but has decided to move on....soooo try to make peace with that and do the same.
nana841121 Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 【The truth is, EVERYTHING our exes do will bother us. If they move on 1 month later or 3 months later, once we aren't over it first, it's a problem. If they give a reason or don't give a reason for the breakup, we have a problem....as long as it wasn't your decision to make, it's gonna bug you. 】 such a wise comment !
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