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Chatting with two girls on dating sites so far so good.one of them is a little more nicer then the other . Anyway before getting bored of chatting on the site how do I ask for the numbers

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you say (or type): "can i have your number?"

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Ask if they'd be comfortably with giving their number out to you, so you can continue getting to know them over the phone.

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Ask if they'd be comfortably with giving their number out to you, so you can continue getting to know them over the phone.

no, that is too "nice guy"....just ask for the number straight out, don't beg

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no, that is too "nice guy"....just ask for the number straight out, don't beg

 

That's how all the guys asked me that I said yes to. Online dating is kind of scary for women sometimes. My friend was raped after she met a guy, so sometimes the nicer approach makes you seem more approachable.

 

It really depends on the woman though, but I'd be surprised if they were really picky about how you asked it. I think its more important when you do. If you ask too quickly, you seem like you are rushing things and might have bad motives and if you wait too long they might lose interest. If they are enjoying talking to you though and it seems to be the right time, then it should work out regardless of how you ask it.

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That's the thing I read few posts saying they sent few to Many messages and they lost interest .I was thinking something like this.

 

I've been enjoying chatting with you how about we chat on the ph my numbers XXXXXXX talk to you soon :)

 

or hey been nice talking if it's cool with you I'd like for you to call me at xxxxx

 

 

Guess it's a hit or miss could be yes or end of the convos

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'I've enjoyed chatting with you. Can I call you?'

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you say (or type): "can i have your number?"

 

'I've enjoyed chatting with you. Can I call you?'

 

I think being straight forward is the best way. It avoids the nice guy stink. And these don't exactly scream out "rapist" either. They're simply straight forward questions.

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I sent the messages I hope both don't come up empty lol

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Well one of them ended up saying this

 

Sorry I'm not much of a ph talker

 

then went on to tell me bout some creep who was emailing her . I felt like replying saying well I'll be the exception now here call me I dunno. Ugh :(

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Well one of them ended up saying this

 

Sorry I'm not much of a ph talker

 

then went on to tell me bout some creep who was emailing her . I felt like replying saying well I'll be the exception now here call me I dunno. Ugh :(

 

 

So she just wants a pen pal? or she's telling you that she's not interested?

 

Tell her you're an old fashioned guy who doesn't think it's right to ask a girl out via email or IM and that you'd like to chat on the phone to see if things can go further than just emailing. If she still doesn't want to give you her number (and doesn't ask for yours) then you have your answer.

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I'll try see where it goes .I've talked to a few others but like other users have said after few messages they have got bored .

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