Keke1 Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Its a long read hopefully not that long. Appreciate it if you get through it though. Here is my story with this woman who I thought was wonderful. 1st off I did alot of things that I shouldn't have done. I have learned plenty of lessons. Short side me(21at the time) her(21) and her boyfriend(22) all worked together but not in the same area as us. He got off later than her & she didn't have a car so she had to wait after work for him to leave. Well silly me I asked 1 day if she needed a ride home. It started something that never should have been. Well at 1st she would say thx and just get out the car. I didn't mind at all. Then 1 day she didn't just get out and continued to talk. We did that for a couple of months off and on but not everyday. After awhile I asked if she wanted to go to the movies. She said yes I asked if her boyfriend knew about it and she told me he said it was ok because he trusted her. I went along with it because we started having feelings for each other. I didn't touch her or anything like that. I thought I was respecting her relationship by doing that but she knew I was falling for her. Fast forward a little while after that she was telling me that her and the guy were not going to continue because he was leaving town for college. Well during this time I hurt my knee real bad and left work for 3months. She was the only person calling me soon as she got off work. I really appreciated and loved that. When I got back to work I took her home again but this time I told her that this can't continue and she needs to let me go because I couldn't do it. She told me that she had dumped her boyfriend 3 days earlier and we could start dating. It was cool as I told her that im fine with you calling and talking to him but it gradually needs to slow down as we get more serious. We worked the same shift but diff. off days so I asked her to switch off days so we could spend a little more time together. She refused and told me she really liked her off days. Fast forward 3months into our relationship I find out this dude is still coming over to her house(stayed with her parents) I found out through his big mouth. I asked her when does this happen because I am with you almost everyday? Told me on her off day which was the same as his each friday. She said she didn't think it was a big deal becuase they weren't doing anything but talking. I said you talk to him on the phone why is he coming over here? If it wasn't a big deal why do it behind my back? I lost all trust in her & it should have ended there. Well he got mad cuz I asked her to cut all contact with him if she wanted to continue with me. He comes over to where I was staring at me at work and just hanging around like he was crazy. Told some coworkers of mine that I worked with that he knew from awhile back what happened. I got so pissed at her for making this situation that I took it all out on her. I couldn't lose my job but I wanted to beat the $ hi t out of this guy. I should have gotten rid of her then but I really believed that nothing went on that they were just talking. I stayed because I loved this woman like crazy and it was pure hell from that point on. I couldn't trust anything she said I was checking her phone records for his #. I had never done that to anyone. It was terrible. More stuff happened but that was the major thing that happened. I just wanted to share that for anyone trying to get with someone who has a boyfriend. Don't do things to break them up. Let it happen if its going to happen. Don't put all your trust in anyone till you know that person well. Even then I would be guarded. I wouldn't date anyone who keeps there ex around after you all are serious. My best advice during that time was from another girl at work. She told me to let it go or let her go. I didn't listen and I regret that I didn't. I believe its just to easy to do the wrong things in life. Thats why its hard to find honest ppl.
PegNosePete Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 She's playing you dude. If she cheats with you, she'll cheat on you. Get rid and move on.
KatieB Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 My advice would be to never let yourself fall too hard or too deeply for someone too soon because it will always lead to dissapointment. Because you're so infatuated with someone you fail too see all the negatives and problems but by the time you realise, it will be too late, you'll be too in love with that person to get out of the relationship. Don't let yourself be disrespected like this! You're worth more than that! Katie
Author Keke1 Posted April 17, 2011 Author Posted April 17, 2011 My advice would be to never let yourself fall too hard or too deeply for someone too soon because it will always lead to dissapointment. Because you're so infatuated with someone you fail too see all the negatives and problems but by the time you realise, it will be too late, you'll be too in love with that person to get out of the relationship. Don't let yourself be disrespected like this! You're worth more than that! Katie Yea my story happened at the beginning of the relationship. This is the point that I was trying to get across though. I should have walked away but i stayed and even though there have been good times I should have left.
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