nana841121 Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Ex called me twice since our breakup and we met for once. chat in a park on a rainy day like common friend. I broke up with him, because he made me feel insecure, i asked a cliche and "not supposed to ask" question: "do you love me?" he said he likes me then ignore the question He was a gentle and sensitive guy He wanted me to marry him, but i thought the reason is because we are at the "appropriate" age for marriage rather than love. He made me confused, i relapsed I am too confident about my attraction to him. I don't believe he doesn't love me. even though he has already in another relationship and cheated me before i am so stubborn The evil self wants to curse him, cause he keeps disturbing my mind and unintentionally sending me mixed message.
geegirl Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 The evil self wants to curse him, cause he keeps disturbing my mind and unintentionally sending me mixed message. Why do you want to curse him? He disturbs your mind because you let him disturb your mind. He sends you mixed messages because you allow him to send you mixed messages. For as long as you are open to accepting this behavior, he will keep doing it. Take accountability for your role in allowing him to mess with your life and to move forward. He is doing what he knows is in his best interest. What about you?
Author nana841121 Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 i am not clear about my feeling i have to confess
Hopeless Girl Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 i am not clear about my feeling i have to confess so u dont love him or do u???
Author nana841121 Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 I haven't been over him yet. i don't want to admit that i love him but my behavior shows the difference i am too proud to admit that before he said he loved me i am so shamed of myself to say such naive words loving him or assuming loving him ? Or controlling issue/ feel so unfair after all the things i have done for him
Fufu Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I don't believe he doesn't love me. even though he has already in another relationship and cheated me before If he can do it once, he can do it twice. I'm sorry to say, I don't think that he's being sincere of getting you back. And also right now you are still kind of emotional, you have not move on yet, don't over analyze it. Perhaps you can give yourself a few days and weeks to think it through, if he is serious in getting back with you, he will do much more.
betterdeal Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Love is like all other emotions. It comes, and it goes. Trying to hold onto it by imagining he still feels it for you (he said he didn't by not saying he did) and by bottling it up inside you will not work. It will only make you unhappy. Let it go. Mourn your loss. Then start making yourself happy again. You want to be happy, yes?
Author nana841121 Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 I didn't make myself clear and introduce some background about this relationship yet. he wanted to marry me within a very short time since our dating. he just got his doctor degree and found a job in this college. but i have been working in this city for two years, and decided to leave for an island I don't expect anything would happen between him and me i just want to know if he ever loved me sorry to bother you guys , my mind is not clear now, and i drop posting
betterdeal Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Of course he did! You're beautiful and he was lucky enough to have met you and shared some of your life with you. Now it is important that you love yourself.
Author nana841121 Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 I have no problem about self-esteem and pride My problem is the opposite, i am too confident about my attraction to him sound as a narcissist. my convince of his affection for me really got me he is a shy person, i guess he couldn't summon the courage to tell me OMG, i need help
betterdeal Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I'm sorry, but I'm getting confused. You say you are sure he is attracted to you, but you want to know if he loved you. Maybe your idea of love is different from mine. What is it you think will happen if you know he loved you? Or if you know he didn't love you?
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