lance.dark Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Is it ok to text something like "hey are you interested in going on a second date?" This was not discussed on the first date. Normally I would call, however, I think that would put significantly more pressure on her to say yes. In this case, I'm on the fence of whether or not I want another date since the first wasn't great (nor was it bad) so I'm deferring to whether or not she wants to go out again - thus I don't want her to be pressured to say yes if she would rather say no. Good plan or bad?
iJester Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Just ask her if she wants to go do something(dinner, baseball game, whatever).
Eeyore79 Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I think you should call. A text is really easy to ignore or say no to; it's much harder to refuse on the phone, and you want her to give you a chance don't you?! Call her, persuade her to go out with you, and then charm her socks off
oaks Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Is it ok to text something like "hey are you interested in going on a second date?" It's okay, but calling is better.
seekandfind Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Don't ask her "Would you be interested in a second date?". It's much better to ask for a specific activity such as: "Would you like to go to dinner with me on (whatever day of the week)?" Or you can even say something like: "Are you free this Friday? We should go do something fun together." Of course, you would wanna have an idea or two of what that fun activity might be before asking her.
daphne Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I 100% agree with Seek. How you word it makes all of the difference if she's on the fence. Ask it slightly as if you know she's already going to say yes. good luck
Author lance.dark Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 Ha so I found out from a friend of her's that she thought the first date was slightly awkward as well. I wonder whether I should pursue it if neither of us is particularly interested...
mogul Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Reading your post out of context. Not sure how your first date went. Regardless, don't ask her if she would like to go on a second date. If you want to see her again, simply ask how her schedule is for the week. If she is vague, no dignity lost she isn't interested. If she is interested, she will be specific on what days she is free. Tell her you have some time on X day and would like to see if she wants to go for dinner or drinks. Done. I don't think I've used the term "date" while asking a girl out before. However, by the end of the night they will KNOW that it is a date. End it with a kiss.
Survivor12 Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Ha so I found out from a friend of her's that she thought the first date was slightly awkward as well. I wonder whether I should pursue it if neither of us is particularly interested... If you aren't interested, then why are you even considering asking her out again?
Author lance.dark Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 Well, I didn't particularly like her personality but I didn't dislike it either. It was something that might have just been an off day (or maybe she was nervous). The reason I'm somewhat interested still is that on paper she's really a catch (very attractive, smart, and ambitious). As for mogul, I would have to be specific since there is really only one day a week that we'd be able to go for dinner so would "Would you be interested in going to dinner on X this week?" be better?
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