Sweet_T Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 So...In my efforts to understand what I did wrong in my break up. I've taken time to really sit and evaluate my own harmful habits. 1. Im an obsessive caller! If I don't get you, I will call until I do. I know it's annoying, but it's like I can't help it! 2. When I get mad, hurt...whatever, my emotions consume me! And I find myself turning into a DANGEROUSLY ANGRY MAD BLACK WOMAN!!!! (Breaking **** and ready to fight) 3. I hate being alone. I ABSOLUTELY HATE IT! 4. I feel like I can be pushy...I get really bad anxiety and I go into panic mode. I know all of these things have contributed to so much BS that I've experienced, but I just need to know...am I the only one?!?!?!?
Karlie Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 You're not the only one. But now you have recognized these habits/behaviors in yourself and realized that they will not lead to happiness, you have the power to replace them with more positive ones. Start today : )
devil moth Posted April 14, 2011 Posted April 14, 2011 Girl, let me tell you some of MY relationship killers. 1. I'm VERY emotional to the point where my boyfriend tells me when I'm upset that I'm always upset and that there is nothing he can do when I am expect wait for it to end. 2. Whenever I see that my boyfriend is talking to another woman, I start asking questions about it until he gets mad at tells me to **** off. 3. When I want something, I'm very pushy. I won't take no for an answer and that usually ends up with one or two of us having very hurt emotions. 4. I'm a COMPLETE bitch in the morning and whenever things don't go just the way I want them too, I'll bitch out my guy into tears. 5. I'm not the best listener in the world and because of that my boyfriend has to repeat himself a million times, and sometimes it is about things he doesn't even want to say ONCE. 6. I have to live with him against his will--because his mom said I have to live there instead of in the woods. and I constantly take advantage of him. Trust me girl, you are completely normal
Author Sweet_T Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 I have no problem dealing with ex-lovers! I mean with him, we were together for 5yrs and lived together for 2, so it was more so a feeling of betrayal and panic that lead to the anxiety attacks.
Feelin Frisky Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 It's a really great thing that you are willing to face and accept responsibility for your part in things going wrong for you. That may seem like a little thing but it's MAJOR--it shows that you don't have one of those serious personality disorders where people will do anything to deny that they were guilty of anything in the relationship coming apart. That said, just admitting one's own shortfalls doesn't mean that they are resolved forever--they still have to be worked on. I urge that you make an effort to "journal" your life and experience and try to express things in terms of whether or not you have been claimed by familiar unwanted pattern or have found the wherewithal to manage your emotions and the way you express yourself. You're on the right track. Keep it going.
Recommended Posts