Butterfly16 Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I am updating my romance with my guy that I met back in Oct 2010. We dated for 6 weeks and then I guess I was a little too clingy...he wasn't ready for a commitment and I scared him off. I'm just being honest. I know what I did now. So, we broke it off...during the holidays. I had a very difficult time trying to get over him...but I forced myself to try and date other men. Nothing serious...but it was nice having someone pay some attention to me again. I had always kept my special guy in the back of my mind because he never left my heart. Anyway, I sent him a note in mid. Jan. saying that we had such a good time together, intense obvious chemistry, and since he knew I was still pretty new to the State I moved to that we can be adults and be friends. So, he was ok with that...and we would keep in touch with little IM. Nothing else. I knew he was (had to be) dating other women because we are on the same dating site. Feb. 1st we msg'd each other and I ended up going over to watch a movie with him. We had a great time..and I stayed over (like I always did before). He seemed very happy to see me and when I was leaving I asked if "we were good" and he said of course...he was just not ready for anything. I acted cool and acknowledged it. Well, now its been over 2 months and although we've sent little smiley face msgs every week or so, but not too frequent...we still keep in touch. Ok....this past Sunday I got the shock of my life! He sent me a IM and asked if I'd like to go see a movie with him that afternoon. I nearly fell off my chair. Made him wait a few mins. before I responded and then of course accepted. We live 30 mins. away from each other and he drives his company's work truck. So, I knew I would need to drive over there. Told him I didn't have much gas and he offered to put some in when I got there. I get there and he compliments me on my slimmer size and we stop to get gas. I allow him to drive my SUV. When we arrived at the theater...this is where I noticed some major changes...consistent and unexpected: He reached for my hand to hold to cross the street, we actually got popcorn and a drink (we've been on several movie dates before..never happened) He held my hand throughout the entire movie...squeezing it and caressing it so lovingly. Time to go get some dinner. He talks about his divorce update...I didn't ask, but he offered. We have a great time at dinner. We drive back to his place and I'm expecting to leave to go home. He's holding the car door for me and doesn't quite just come out with it but he does asks me in. Of course, for the first time I have no bag packed. We watch a movie and he is sooo affectionate, attentive and clingy (almost). He then makes his move and makes out with me (for the first time ever!!! and I mean really makes out with me!) Yep....during the entire time we dated last fall he really didn't make out with me. We kissed a little but it was almost like he was holding back. Anway....I let him make all the moves. It was amazing! We try watching the movie again.....lol....and between us getting intimate and watching the movie...he is totally into me! He has never acted this way! He won't let one foot or hand NOT be touching mine. Its so strange! he is totally different! I even mention just one thing that he is making it very difficult for me to NOT like him. And then...round 2! Its a given for all the times before that I spend the night. I thought about leaving just to throw him off, but we are having such an incredible time together...and I like how he is giving me so much attention. When I begin to drive away in the morning after we say our good byes and this time I'm leaving the parking lot first not after him....I notice that the tank is FULL!!! I was on Empty when I got to his place..he filled the thing up!! I am barely making it by the skin of my teeth financially! I am a single mom struggling and he knows that...plus, he has a very stable and well paying job. So, of course, I can't believe he did that! I stop the car...jump out...run back to his truck...he rolls down the window and I grab his face and kiss him. I thank him for filing up the tank and he looks at me all confused...and I tell him it means so much to me and he says don't worry about it and smiles all big! So, yes... it was the perfect date! He opened the door for me every single time! Pulled the chair out for me! Asked me what I wanted every time even though I'd always reply...with "well, what do you want to do? sit? drink?" etc. He appears to be in a different place and showed me sooo much attention and affection that I almost didn't think it was him at some point! lol I still can't believe it happened! I haven't text him and I'm trying to be cool again...to see what his next move is. My friend thinks maybe he is finally ready...emotionally. IDK it just was the perfect date in the world! He has been separated from his wife for 3 yrs now. They have been going through this divorce proceeding for 1 1/2 yrs. She is asking for alimony for another year and she doesn't work. No minor children. They were married for nearly 30 yrs. He is giving her the house. He just wants to move on. He has plans but they are on hold because he doesn't want to lose anything else because she seems to want so much already. I'm happy but very confused. I don't want to scare him off like I did last time either. This morning, I sent him a very short thank you email for the date and that he have a safe business trip. Made sure it wasn't too mushy. He'll be gone for a week beginning tomorrow. How do I keep him interested and want to see me again? I like this new man!
Author Butterfly16 Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 Ok....he responded to my email TY within an hour via phone. Told me he had a good time also and that his business trip was canceled.
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