Gypsie Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Almost two weeks ago my ex boyfriend sends a text and tells me he wants me back he loves me. The last I heard was that he had a girlfriend. Why write that to an ex if you are in already in a relationship? Have not responded to it and have not heard from him since. What do you think that meant? .
Fufu Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 I will GET FAR FAR AWAY from him. I felt so bad for his current gf and for you as well. Imagine you are with this guy still and he texts his ex gf that he misses her and wants her back, how would you feel?
Author Gypsie Posted April 12, 2011 Author Posted April 12, 2011 (edited) I don't feel bad for her or any girl he would be with. Grr. Being the ex. I agree though. I do not like how he is messing with my and other people's feelings like this. Yes. I would hate for my current boyfriend (if I had one) to be texting another girl that he loves her or that he loves her and wants her back. It does make me glad that he is not my problem any more but still pretty down about the whole break up. We had a good relationship before it went down hill after going through a rough patch and he walked out after a few arguments. Even if it is just for an ego boost or for whatever reason. Have no idea what the deal was. It is just so stupid why a guy would do that. More opinions on this would be appreciated! Edited April 12, 2011 by Gypsie
Rose T Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Hi Gypsie! it tugged at my heart when I saw your post as my ex did similar things towards the end of our 5 year relationship. We broke up "suddenly", I found out he was getting into an affair with a colleague (of about a month) and I ended it. My ex was very confused after and started sending me messages that he thought he had made a big mistake (when he was away from his new girl, i.e. overseas, or travelling with work). When he was with the new girl he was silent. I think that sadly, when they know you are still somewhat attached, and they still have some feelings for you, then as soon as they have a 'bad day' with the new girl, a boring afternoon, or are away from the new girl, they think about the ex and may wonder if you're still into them. I think you were very strong not to reply. He probably still thinks about you but he's made a choice with his actions. As Fufu says, this is just a recipe for major heartache all round. Be thankful that he's someone else's problem and think about all the times he stressed you about your relationship and made you feel insecure and unhappy. Now he's doing it to someone else, so you're free to heal and find someone better. Good luck and stay strong.
nana841121 Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Hi,G My ex BF did the similar thing to me too. During my relationship with him, he slept once with his ex and told me. I broke up with him after 6 months. Because he never said he loved me. One month after our brokeup, he hooked up with his student, a 18 year old freshman in college. Then three months after the breakup,which is last Sunday, he called me. He implied that he missed me i didn't know his intention. instead i don't want to know. He is his own emotion's victim. I am sad because i had feeling for him and this feeling is still wandering around and refuse to disappear for good. But i will not give him another chance to be involved into my life anymore
longterm Posted April 12, 2011 Posted April 12, 2011 Sounds to me that this guy wants the entire cake and to eat it too. I'd stay far away from him. He has probably seen some issues with his so called new relationship and now thinks he can just swing back to you. STAY AWAY! I am glad you haven't heard from him. That says a lot right there. It was probably reflex but then he rethought about it. Who wants that? Move on and get into your own NEW relationship.
Author Gypsie Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 (edited) Rose T: I am still pretty angry about the break up. What is motivating me not to reply and sticking to it is that I do not want my ex gaining anything from it. Good or bad. Hence. Me keeping quiet. Deleting the message straight away also helped as well. Nana: My feelings for the ex are still there I will admit. It does make me keep wondering what that text really meant. Know the feeling. I am trying to move on. Feeling a lot better then I did the first month of the break up. It has been pretty hard going through this. Getting there slowly but. Longterm: I agree. You would think you would hear more from someone if they text you 'I want you back I love you' over the phone a couple of months after a break up. I would never not mean saying something like that to someone. Even if it was just by text. If it were me I would pursue it appropriately, if the other person did not respond. Not just ignore them like that. Like it was nothing. Pretty weird. No. Would never go back to him that easily! Edited April 13, 2011 by Gypsie
Exit Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Just wanted an ego boost, maybe wants to have more than 1 girl to spend time with, glad you didn't fall for it! Don't give in! If he ever really wanted to come back, he better be single, and he better do a lot more than send 1 text.
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